Why We Cheat  

Serenely_Yours 116
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4/1/2006 7:02 am

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4/3/2006 5:29 am

Why We Cheat

Sexual infidelity is one of humanity's great obsessions. We hate it, yet we want to hear all about it, and some cannot resist it. We are reminded of the emotional and social fallout of messing around. So why is monogamy so hard for many?

If fidelity is a matter of skill, then why are some talented and others terribly clumsy?

Some people who cheat being labelled as "pursuers," or womanizers if they are men. Pursuers often have a narcissistic personality disorder. They crave and demand affection and attention but are not able to return it in kind.

Those who are not pursuers may likely to be succumbed to an affair because they are not aware that something is amiss or lacking in the relationship. Given the attention of another man or woman, they just suddenly feel more special. They ceased to feel as special in their own first relationship. Some are well aware of their frustration and actively seek what they want outside the relationship. Midlife crisis can be another trigger for cheating, especially if you meet a younger person who has not tasted enough of everything.

Men are more prone to infidelity, and notably, the longer they live, the more likely they are to cheat.happym; But I think women are also getting into it.happyf;

What are not taken into account are other kinds of infidelity besides having sex. Does a stolen kiss count? What about erotic chats with strangers online? Like what we are doing here everyday?

If your partner considers it cheating, then it probably is. Some couples enjoy bringing third parties into their bedroom, yet they would insist that they have never cheated. Infidelity can shatter even the strongest relationship, leaving behind feelings of betrayal, guilt, and anger.
How discreet can one gets?


Sometimes an affair is too heavy a weight for a relationship to bear, and parting ways may be the only answer. Some might think that it is a blessing in disguise when they realised why they want to resurrect their marriages.

So what kind of games are we playing here? Only you know it yourself. Just remember. Play it safe if you can. Good Luck!



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Serenely_Yours 116
9198 posts
4/3/2006 5:29 am

    Quoting poison_syrup:
    Cheating acts are not acts of cheating if two parties involved agreed to them in the first place. The yardstick for cheat measurement differs from people to people. So it depends very much on individual's threshold as to how much they/their relationship can takes.
Of course they are different and be seen in different perspectives as well. But if you ask me about morality, then I can tell you which is right and which is wrong. So how deep or far can it go? I guess we all should know our limits.


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Serenely_Yours 116
9198 posts
4/3/2006 5:24 am

    Quoting mr_simply_me:
    Hmm.. u wrote what I wanted to write... Thanks...

    Modified from the magazine on "Is shejust his friend"

    Cheers
    MSM...
Ah hah. I read that article after blogging this. Hmmm. Interesting. Sometimes I wonder myself if I am cheating. And with my kind of jobscope, I do feel like a hypocrite!!! (Talking about morality! URGH!!!) Can you understand that? Well I just cannot help it I guess. Should I put the blame on human nature then?


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poison_syrup 43F
8533 posts
4/2/2006 6:09 am

Cheating acts are not acts of cheating if two parties involved agreed to them in the first place. The yardstick for cheat measurement differs from people to people. So it depends very much on individual's threshold as to how much they/their relationship can takes.


Angel Of Sins


mr_simply_me 44M
842 posts
4/1/2006 6:37 pm

Hmm.. u wrote what I wanted to write... Thanks...

Modified from the magazine on "Is shejust his friend"

Cheers
MSM...


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