Sexual Fantasies  

Serenely_Yours 117
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4/1/2006 8:08 pm

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4/3/2006 5:15 am

Sexual Fantasies

You may be afraid to talk about them but it is normal. Here is something I like to share from an article (Source from Psychology Today)I read.

It has one big advantage over sexual reality: You have total control over everything that happens. You will not be humiliated or suffer at the hands of a brutish lover unless, of course, if you want it to happen.

So perhaps the most surprising fact about our fantasies is: The sexual scenario we often imagine is the ordinary, non-kinky intercourse with a past or current lover. Not to worry if you assumed most fantasies were a bit more risque. Even in today's tell-all culture, sexual fantasies remain one of our last taboos, something that people simply do not discuss openly.

Some believe that fantasies are compensation for lack of sexual opportunity. Frequent fantasizers are having more than their share of fun in bed. They have sex more often, engage in a wider variety of erotic activities, have more partners, and masturbate more often than infrequent fantasizers. What do you think, Fantasizers?

Most adults say they first remember fantasizing between the ages of 11 and 13. One in four people feel strong guilt about their fantasies. Those who fret over their fantasies have sex less often and enjoy it less, even though the content of their fantasies is no different from those of the guilt-free. Exactly why your fantasies differ from those of your friends is not well understood. But theories abound. Personal experience and the things we see, hear, and read about enter the mix.

There are 3 primary flavors of fantasy:

1)Novel or "forbidden" imagery. This includes unconventional settings, questionable partners like strangers or relatives.

2)Scenes of sexual irresistibility. Here the emphasis is on seductive power. Seduction of the man or woman, with irresistibility charisma.

3)Dominance and submission fantasies. In these, sexual power is expressed either in sadomasochistic activities or through physical force, such as in fantasies. Such fantasies are surprisingly common. Most men have had fantasies of dominating a partner. Most women fantasized about being forced to have sex.

There is still a lot no one knows about sexual fantasies. Is the frequency and range of fantasies similar in other cultures? How does the content of fantasies change over one's lifetime? And what happens when we act on our fantasies? Does it spoil them or make them more vivid?

Most of us need no further justification for fantasy beyond the fun factor. Sexual fantasy is a natural part of being human. It is pleasurable. So why not fantasize?



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Serenely_Yours 117

4/3/2006 5:15 am

    Quoting rm_patrickzapu:
    Hi Serene,

    Fantasizing is purely imagination, thoughts and for the timid. I believed it's the last thing anyone wants. Who doesn't want the real thing and who doesn't want their fantasies to come true, but how many have the guts to make it come true. Do u have it???
For the timids? I dun think so. Fantasizing is healthy for our sexual relationships. Some fantasies while making love can add spice to it. "Acting" out your fantasies will be another level. It can be total fun. Its only if you are game for it. AND it does take some guts for it.


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rm_patrickzapu 47M
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4/2/2006 10:49 pm

Hi Serene,

Fantasizing is purely imagination, thoughts and for the timid. I believed it's the last thing anyone wants. Who doesn't want the real thing and who doesn't want their fantasies to come true, but how many have the guts to make it come true. Do u have it???


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