Relationships and more...  

Searcher4222 30M
13 posts
6/10/2005 4:24 pm

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Relationships and more...


I've never really paid much attention to how much work you really have to put into a serious relationship until a few days ago. I was talking with just a friend of mine who had actually mentioned to me that she'd consider dating me. I had given it thoughts before, but nothing too serious. Then we were discussing our own problems and it just came up during conversation. I really didn't give her an answer yet and I'm not sure what to say. I'd consider a yes, but she's a very good friend.

And, that's when it sank in. If I did date her seriously, it would be alot of work on both our parts to visit considering she's in Greensboro, and well, I'm not. I'm not that far away, maybe a 10-15 minute drive, but it's still alot to drive each day.

So then I thought about things such as dating sites, mainly this one. Alot of people are out there just for the sex. Not necessarily a bad thing, believe me, I'm ok with that. A relationship still wouldn't be bad, though.

And what can people do if they want a relationship within two certain areas? Of course, there's phone calls. I get free nights & weekends, as do most people nowadays. Seeing your person only on the weekends isn't such a bad idea, expecially if you both are busy during the week, which I usually am. Well except Fridays, I'm off then, and home alone, too. (Hint hint, wink wink...)

Of course, if they see each other only on the weekend, that builds up sexual tension. Which, helps during foreplay and teasing the other person until they jump your bones.

I have a wedding to attend. No, not mine. I don't think I'd be ready for that much of a commitment yet. I'm still in college...

redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
6/10/2005 6:45 pm

I see..10-15 minutes....don't know where you'll find the time to date her with all that traveling time...lol....come on what's the real decision here?....your not making a lifetime commitment with this person...just choosing whether or not to date each other. Or you can choose not to date...both legitimate decisions

Good luck.


Searcher4222 30M
9 posts
6/10/2005 10:34 pm

Oh it's not that much of a decision. The traveling time has little to do with it. It's just that I've known her for a very long time, and we're very close friends. If the relationship goes bad, the friendship may be badly affected. That's something I don't want to lose, is her friendship should something go wrong.


rm_CecileB 41F
186 posts
6/16/2005 3:48 pm

Searcher, see the light: you don't sound that much into it otherwise you just wouldn't be able to wait to date her.Hell, you'd even have thought of it first !!! Wouldn't you?


Searcher4222 30M
9 posts
6/16/2005 5:20 pm

Yeah, most likely. The other problem with this person is that I have made three arrangements with her to hang out, and each time she keeps coming up with excuses that she can't. I think she's seriously just seeing how far I will go, and then getting nervous when I actually accept her offers.


rm_CecileB 41F
186 posts
6/17/2005 5:28 pm

Or maybe it was just a stupid bet...


Searcher4222 30M
9 posts
6/17/2005 10:10 pm

Yeah, you're right.

I'm trying not to speak with her alot because every time I do, she always tries to arrange another of her meetings. So troublesome.


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