40 Yr Old Virgin Lesson  

SaucyTart_36 47F
128 posts
2/2/2006 4:07 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

40 Yr Old Virgin Lesson

Cal in the movie knows he is not the hottest thing but still manages to get lots of women. How does he do it?? He focuses on the woman! Asks her questions! Does not ramble on and on about himself and meaningless crap. - this is the advise that he gives.......

Do guys do not ask questions and talk about themself out of nervousness?

If they don't ask questions about the woman are they not interested or just don't have that skill?

Am I allowed to say something to the man in question or do I walk away assuming he is not interested?

Enquiring mind wants to know........

im_your_man77 39M
961 posts
2/2/2006 5:51 am

On some occasions it might be that they are unsure what to say in that moment of introduction. As for whether they are truly interested in you or more interested in themselves usually you will find that your gut instinct will be the right one.

rm_Gentle12553 66M
1378 posts
2/2/2006 6:41 am

Actually, a great blog entry and a lesson that I can certainly learn from...Thank you....how many times in a date do I think that I have to carry the conversation.....hmmm..better to ask her questions....

See even an ole bull dog can learn from a younger "Virgin"

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
2/2/2006 7:52 am

Beats the hell out of me. Attraction is attraction. I just go from there...

Blog On!

SaucyTart_36 47F

2/2/2006 9:44 am

He is an absolute doll! I would not want to offend him by saying "why do you talk about you so much? are you not interested in me/my life?"

Any ideas of a nicer way to let him know? I honestly think it is due to lack of experience with women and nervousness.

I tend to be too blunt with these matters, so your advice is appreciated.

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
2/3/2006 7:26 am

Hmm, it depends on how fragile his ego is I reckon. The most efficient way would be to bring up the subject in conversation.

The difficulty of that is that you are presenting a negative. He may even begin to feel that when he does seem interested - that you will think that he is only asking about you for superficial reasons - since you had asked him to do it before. (hmm, did that make sense)?

LMAO! Here is some good advice that I have spread around from time to time....

Go not to the Bloggers for advice.
For they will say both yes and no...

Blog On!

rm_Snowman6973X 65M

2/5/2006 1:51 pm

Men usually are trying to "sell" themselves to a lady by talking about themselves. However, we don't know when "stop selling", then either go home alone or ask.."my place or yours?"...LOL

rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
2/6/2006 7:49 pm

Yeah, tell him, he'll take it hard at first, but like for me, some of my best friends are brutally honest with me, and its part of what makes a relationship a growing experience. One who coddles stunts growth, Even if you only care for him as a person it's better to at least give him a heads up, kind of like telling him when he's got food in his beard. In the end even he will think about how much better he is for havin' gone through the pain of self examination, and he will know that you were a true friend, or at least a decent person.
Hope yer well

Sparrowhawk2 49M
6 posts
2/25/2006 10:52 pm

I think you are not just allowed but encouraged... especially if...
I've come across a "factoid" a few times that claims both men and women usually evaluate and decide if they think they would like to have sex with someone within about 10 seconds of meeting them. If this is really true - if a guy is initially considered a worthy sexual partner by a woman - surely from the 10 second point on - anything that comes out of his mouth can only damage his chances?
So - since a guy is most likely to be better off by saying nothing - it's probably best for him if a woman does take the initiative in saying whatever she wants to him.
But - perhaps it would be a good idea to wait until the full 10 seconds are up before asking him he does or doesn't want to have sex with you? Just a thought...

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