Pushy fucking men!!!  

SaucyNSassy 39F
2021 posts
1/1/2006 11:44 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Pushy fucking men!!!


Damnit, is it so hard for men to have a little patience? NO, I am NOT going to fuck you the first time I meet you regardless of the circumstances and if you push me... I am going to push back. Men can be so daft. (thank you for the word Man77) Daft, to me is stupid, dumb, dim, ignorant...etc.
You know if a man would take the time to know me or other women for that matter he would be blessed to be able to spend time with us. I mean, hell, I can fuck you 50 fucking ways to Sunday but if I am not ready, I am NOT Fucking ready. If you are forceful or pushy I am NOT going to respond to that....
Damn, you know if SOME men weren't so ignorant all the time they wouldn't have to complain about not getting laid. If they would realize, "here she is, she likes me, she is laughing with me, I should take my time with her and THEN she will be crazy about me and I can have her anytime I want.... " they would be fucking at least 5 times a week...instead men are impatient and stupid. Damn, THIS is why I am Not LOOKING for a man. I am not out searching AdultFriendFinder for a man to fuck me. IF one falls in my lap that is worth fucking, maybe I will fuck him...otherwise, I have met great men from AdultFriendFinder whom are my friends and they mean more to me than any FUCK. Fucking means NOTHING to me if there aren't any emotions behind it. Yes, I want to fuck. Yes, I want to have sex..but NO, I will not fuck the first guy to pay attention to me. I have plenty of men who pay attention to me, that is not a problem.I am looking for a QUALITY MAN. One that I can be with and whom can hold my attention for more than ONE night. Sex with me is an EVENT... I mean, a fucking EVENT with a capital E... I will suck your cock, make you moan in ways you had never heard yourself and make you beg in ways you never thought you could. BUT some men are too stupid and impatient
to wait.

SASSY

imBambi 58M/50F

1/2/2006 12:09 am

Yes!!! There are a lot of people who still do not know the difference between fucking, having sex, and making love.

Bambi


rm_longliner002 50M
227 posts
1/2/2006 12:30 am

Hi Sassy, The only thing I can say to that Is Your right It only happens When
Your ready. So I guess your New Year Didn’t start off to well.
And Isn’t a blog a great place to vent.


rm_art_persists 51M
1789 posts
1/2/2006 12:48 am

some aren't


zoopc42 47M

1/2/2006 1:41 am

i have finally realized I am guilty of this

I have pushed away several this way. i never really understood it before but I am starting to see the light now


LadyFantasy68 49F
126 posts
1/2/2006 1:44 am

I SOOOOOOOO agree. Too many men like that on here. Good luck in finding what you want.


fantasylifeline 62M

1/2/2006 1:54 am

I agree with you that many (too many)men (aka boys) may are assholes.. but not all of us men are I have always believed that a woman is well worth getting to know and if something comes out of it then its a bonus and if she is as good as you say you are (I am not saying that your not) then... well then its a great big bonus just don't judge all of us (men) by the few (boys) that you have met. as you can see I feel that a man knows how to treat a woman while a boy doesn't have a clue and only can think with his dick. I wish you well and hope you will get to know the type of men you need to know


QuiteAGoodHandle 51M

1/2/2006 3:30 am

Hi Sassy,

Well, I can fully understand where you are coming from.

Its one of the classic differences between Men and Women.

Many men, the only thing we may want is sex, and more sex, its the connection, and getting to know the woman and the relationship part which "we have to do" just to obtain the sex, which is the prize, in fact our minds are sort of hard-wired programmed that way.

For many Women, its usually once they have made a "connection" that the sex follows, but for many its something that they do to maintain the relationship, rather than the be-all and end-all which it is for the man, well usually. On occasions a woman will have just a pure sex relationship with a man, and usually in those cases the man will "fall in love" with the rampant sex-mad woman. Every guy loves a nymphomaniac.

There's no easy answer. For many men they will judge a woman on the 1st date. If they "get sex" then thats a big bonus mark, especially if a relationship is not being sought. Men do take their chances and move on to other women rather than wait around for the 2nd date. Also, many men will feel that if they dont "try it on" that the woman may perceive them as weird, weak or something else. And, there is no harm in trying, especially as a lot of women will "succumb" ...

how many times has a man heard:

No ...
No ...
no ... really ...
nooo ...
oooh ...
ohhhh ....
yes ....

YES ..
YES !

Women are inconsistent, its in their nature. Men are consistent, its in our nature.

Thats the merry "dance of life".

By the way, how many times have you ever approached a man for sex on the 1st date and got refused? zero I bet !

enjoy,

Quite.


rm_mrbuns1000 40M
38 posts
1/2/2006 8:41 am

Thank god there are women like you still left in the world. Most of us guys just want to have fun and meet someone and if things happen after a few dates then great.

I think it should be a rule that the first date is for getting to know each other better having a laugh and flirting lots and if it takes a few more dates to do the same then well and good.

All good things come to those who wait and the anticipation is half the fun

Buns


jadedbabe78 105F

1/2/2006 8:54 am

OMG, I could have written this post word for word. I know EXACTLY how you feel!

I wrote a similar entry on my other blog, about pushiness and it was spawned from some asshole who didn't understand the concept. Wanted to meet me, I said uhhh sure if you really want to, but nothing is going to happen. He got PISSED and said he wasn't going to drive 10 miles for nothing, LOL. Oh yeah, buddy....you're going to get laid with THAT attitude.

When (or maybe I have, still trying to decide .) I meet a man who won't be pushy, who doesn't expect to fuck right off the bat, and is actually FUN to be around, he'll have my attention.

And I am with you on the pushiness. DAMN...tell those fuckers to step back and evaluate their own attitudes. They'd be surprised that they'd get laid more often if they'd aquire just a little bit of patience instead of leading with their cock.


im_your_man77 39M
961 posts
1/2/2006 2:38 pm

The men you speak of are the type that are only concerned in getting the instant fuck, if they don't get the right signals from you they will move onto someone else that will give them the go ahead. Touching on a point that you made in a previous blog, the men mentioned above are also not the type of men that will follow through with a phonecall after the day of the EVENT unless they see something in it for them. They are arrogant enough to think that they have already had a fuck and don't need to put in the effort again until they next need a fuck as and when they desire. They are too stupid to see the inefficiences in their approach, they could get sex with a quality woman on a regular basis if they put in the effort instead they take the hit and miss approach by trolling through the masses of women available looking for the few that is in the mindset of wanting to have sex without any emotional attachment. Guys like tomcat spray for example who do not take the time to read and digest information that could prove helpful to him in the future. Guys who do not think it necessary to put a picture in their profile and yet feel free to criticise others who have provided more than they do. Sorry shouldn't be getting digs at people who have commented in your blog but guys like that really fucking piss me off.
Anyway comfort can be gained from the knowledge that not all men are like this and those that are so blatently arrogant can be ignored when they behaviour becomes apparent.
Good post.


jadedbabe78 105F

1/2/2006 3:22 pm

Awwww, a man after my own clit *tear*

I'll be addressing tom over on my own blog, lol---WOW!

Looks like there will be ywo entries later tonight .

*Shakes head*


Swiper12000 43M  
31 posts
1/2/2006 3:39 pm

I was thinking of this very topic today. Many of these pushy men, I think, are not used to being with women of quality. Therefore they are ready to make the score as quick as possible and move onto the next one. I have found that women may be subtle but they will always make it clear when they are ready to have sex with you. I think being patient and not pushing for it has even helped me get to that point a little faster a few times.


MrNuttz05 49M

1/2/2006 6:05 pm

What A stand-up lady. Hey, I am sorry if I pissed you off, but when you took off your clothes, Well, I thought that was the green light. Can you ever forgive me? Remeber, I am from DE-TROIT

Sassy, you know that there are assholes everywhere, & I really sympathize with the ladies here, some people, guys & girls, can be some pretty stiff pricks from time to time. Hang in there, some of us guys are worth all of the trouble, right?..... Right?..... Why so much silence?....... RIGHT?
Who luvs ya babe? Nuttz does, that's who...


SpaceRangerNJ 55M
4687 posts
1/2/2006 11:16 pm

I thought EVENT was a weather forecaster term. "We may have a sleet event later this evening". Yeah, material from another comedian.
The "pushy" guys, probably think, and will continue to think, that a woman will have sex with them on first meeting because it probably, at some time, was successful for them. You are just not going to be one of them.
It goes right along with all the profile comments I see about men not reading a womans' profile and sending inappropriate e-mails (they probably were never good at doing homework in school).
But of course you know there are those who read profiles (and blogs), and who do have a more casual, no pushy tone to their e-mails. Some who communicate never expect anything but a little communication back.
Stiff upper lip and all that rot! There will be the man that will "stir your intellect as well as your loins" (basterdized from Coming to America).
SR


funtoplay1973 43M
69 posts
1/2/2006 11:32 pm

LOL! Well, truth is that sometimes the time is right and sometimes it isn't... Really doesn't matter if it is the first night or not. Rarely on the first night for sure, but the second isn't always the right time either.

It isn't always men that are pushy too. I find that women can be a bit more over the top than expected as well... I find that to be good with people (and in bed) you need to be able to empathize... And if you do that, then you aren't pushing too far. Hopefully, just far enough!


SaucyNSassy 39F

1/3/2006 12:40 am

Everyone.. I promise to respond tomorrow... Im dead tired. I took the time to delete the F'g asshole that was talking trash to my friends here and he will be forever blocked from my blog. I have no idea who he is or what in the world he was thinking but then again, I don't care... I like the 'Delete comment' and 'Permanently ban mbr' buttons. Sorry Jade and Man that you were attacked on my blog. The guy was a stranger to me. I thought an immature prick like that would have been 19 or 20 but he was 41. How pathetic... why don't some men ever grow up?
"Sassy"


nightnsa 48M  
415 posts
1/3/2006 6:04 am

sorry you went thru that..not all of us are a-holes...


SaucyNSassy 39F

1/3/2006 10:00 pm

Wow, was I on a rant Sunday night or what? lol... sorry guys! I can only be pawed and groped so much before I explode.

Bambi, thank you for stopping by and it is sad that some people don't know the difference. It's their loss.

Long, yes, a great place to vent.
Art, You are right there are some GREAT men!!!
BigGirlz, I definately stay around AdultFriendFinder to keep in touch w/ my friends here. They are great!
Zoo, I hope my rant was helpful then! Good luck!
Lady, thank you!!! Right back at ya!
Fantasy, you are SO right!!! There is big difference between men and boys! I should have noted that...
Fallen, I need to take some time and read others blogs, I have just been so busy! I look fwd to reading yours and thanks for stopping by!
MizzK, Thanks! I will definately stick to my guns! I'm too stubborn to change...

To Be Cont....

"Sassy"

Lady, thank you!!! Right back at ya!


SaucyNSassy 39F

1/3/2006 10:01 pm

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Wow, was I on a rant Sunday night or what? lol... sorry guys! I can only be pawed and groped so much before I explode.

Bambi, thank you for stopping by and it is sad that some people don't know the difference. It's their loss.

Long, yes, a great place to vent.
Art, You are right there are some GREAT men!!!
BigGirlz, I definately stay around AdultFriendFinder to keep in touch w/ my friends here. They are great!
Zoo, I hope my rant was helpful then! Good luck!
Lady, thank you!!! Right back at ya!
Fantasy, you are SO right!!! There is big difference between men and boys! I should have noted that...
Fallen, I need to take some time and read others blogs, I have just been so busy! I look fwd to reading yours and thanks for stopping by!
MizzK, Thanks! I will definately stick to my guns! I'm too stubborn to change...

To Be Cont....

"Sassy"


SaucyNSassy 39F

1/3/2006 10:02 pm

Wow, was I on a rant Sunday night or what? lol... sorry guys! I can only be pawed and groped so much before I explode.

Bambi, thank you for stopping by and it is sad that some people don't know the difference. It's their loss.
Long, yes, a great place to vent.
Art, You are right there are some GREAT men!!!
BigGirlz, I definately stay around AdultFriendFinder to keep in touch w/ my friends here. They are great!
Zoo, I hope my rant was helpful then! Good luck!
Lady, thank you!!! Right back at ya!
Fantasy, you are SO right!!! There is big difference between men and boys! I should have noted that...
Fallen, I need to take some time and read others blogs, I have just been so busy! I look fwd to reading yours and thanks for stopping by!
MizzK, Thanks! I will definately stick to my guns! I'm too stubborn to change...

To Be Cont....

"Sassy"


SaucyNSassy 39F

1/4/2006 10:24 pm

Quite, thank you so much for taking the time to visit and read my blog. I love to hear other peoples points of view and I loved what you had to say! Oh and to answer your question... Never. lol.
Mr. Buns, I love your suggested rule and if you get bored I wrote a blog called Anticipation... you might want to read it.
Jaded, 10 MILES!!! OMG!!! What a loser! I want a man who is willing to travel 4,000 miles just to see me... AND, yes they would DEFINATELY get laid more if they were patient
Man77, Hey Sweeeeetie!!! You are one of the sweetest men I have ever spoken to. I adore your comments and I think it was SO sweet of you to defend Jaded. That loser is blocked from my blog bc he is trash. He is the kind of men that smart women stay away from. What a rude jerk! Thanks again for being sweet! (as always)
Swiper, you are SO right! If a man is just sweet and makes it clear that he is interested but is happy taking his time with me...It makes ME want to have sex with him SO much sooner.
Nuttz, I thought you said the camera batteries were dead!!! Damnit!!! LOL! I know there are losers but sweet and great guys like you and the other MEN that comment on my blog make it ALL worth it. Sassy luvs you too Nuttz!!!
To Be Cont...
Sorry Guys I have been SOOO busy lately!!! I haven't forgotten anyone, I promise, I'll be back...lol (No, this is not the Terminator!!!)


Green_Tea_Boy 50M
1064 posts
1/7/2006 5:12 am

Sassy...I agree with you.... being bisexual gives a unique position on different gender approaches...

sadly I have to say that men tend to the instant gratification approach...

oh and QuiteAGood Handle... that is fucking dangerous... that sort of thinking is the same employed by ....

NO...means NO... not anything else


rm_PurryKitty2 48M/50F
9753 posts
1/7/2006 5:36 am

AMEN!

Purry {=}

Purry


shispook 47F

1/7/2006 11:55 am

wow...heavy shit...only followed someone in here. That is SOME post. Provoked quite a reaction...but hell lady, do it YOUR way...x


SaucyNSassy 39F

1/7/2006 4:38 pm

Green, Yes, the majority of men are all about instant gratification... Thanks for commenting!

Purry, awe... I love your picture! Thanks for stopping by! (and agreeing...lol)

"Sassy"


SaucyNSassy 39F

1/7/2006 4:41 pm

Fire, you are SO sweet! There is no need for a man like you to apologize for the rude and pushy men out there. I know that men are not all the same. I do have a habit of classifying them in groups though... I will work on that.
It just figures that you live in Ireland! Damn!
Thank you so much for your comment!
"Sassy"


MamChelle 48F  
1443 posts
1/7/2006 11:56 pm

WOW! i have been and it could have ruined everything for me..but for a decent kind caring and patient man.. Daft ..*giggles* i like that word. D-don't push yourself on me. A-assholes that do will naver have a chance at heaven F-friends are more important than fucks, we tend to keep our friends and send fucks away when done, T-those who respect us get so much more than just sex!!! Yeah, ty Sassy!!! this made me *smile*


SaucyNSassy 39F

1/8/2006 9:22 am

Mam,GREAT comment! Your DAFT explanation was so cute!!! lol... I'm sorry that you were , I know how hard that is to overcome. It's wonderful when there is a man to be there for you when something horrible happens though.
I'm glad you liked the blog! I love to make others smile or laugh, so I accomplished something w/ my rantings!
"Sassy"


SaucyNSassy 39F

1/8/2006 10:17 am

Macker, I want a man that thinks like you. Someone who isn't in a rush to go for the gold...lol. I can't just fuck someone either... I need a connection. I NEED to know his name (first and last) I need to have more in common with him than the fact that we are both horny...lol. So, like you, I am happy to wait.
Thank you Sweetie!
"Sassy"


sabre_805 55M

1/8/2006 11:53 pm

Well Mam the fact that you were and are trolling a sex site for dates says it all right there.

Most men will just pump and dump women with your type of attitude.

We have other opertunities and can't be bothered playing therapist.

You're more of a pain-in-the-ass than you're worth usually except for the sex,which is not that great for the most part.


QuiteAGoodHandle 51M

1/9/2006 2:48 am

Hi again Sassy,

Glad to see that you have not retained your anger and lambasted all men into a single group. I think you are right to try and categorise men in different groupings in your mind. I think we all do that to some degree (ie: women with men, men with women) even though we may think we dont. We put types on people, we can lo0ok at a person and try and guess what they would be like in bed, etc, and how many times have we said "He/She is not my type".

> Quite, thank you so much for taking the time to visit and read my blog. I love to hear other peoples points of view and I loved what you had to say! Oh and to answer your question... Never. lol.

Yeah, I thought that's what your answer would be. Its a huge difference between men and women in this dating game. For example lets say a man, maybe he's had 3 or 4 weeks without sex, and he's categorized the type of woman that he is now dating as: "ok to shag, but not for a relationship", and if he is not looking for a relationship, then thats what he will aim to get, sex on the 1st date. Time is short. Life is short. Better to have tried and failed than not to try at all.

Maybe the next woman on another night he will try a different tactic, but for all those women that think that "all a man wants to do is get a woman into bed", yes, its true. And for all those men that think "no, I'm not like that, I want a connection", then they are only codding themselves.

The acid test is this. Ask a man to have a platonic relationship with a woman, no kissing and no intention and no chance of sex, etc, and see how many of them want to do that? Maybe those without any friends will want some form of human companionship, but thats about it. Those others that want the connection are only doing it because they see sex as the possible light at the end of the tunnel. Many men have huge patience for certain women depending on the situation. For example, at work. The relationship could develop over years. But the man, whether he realises it or not, has this thing in the back of his mind.

Further evidence: how many marriages have broken down because the man feels he is not getting enough sex? Millions.

enjoy the "game" and the "chase" ..... and the sex, when you choose to share it with some lucky guy ....

Quite.


tjnsa925 52M
7 posts
1/18/2006 10:06 am

I have to be honest with you Mis SaucyNSassy. I aprichiate the
a-holes for being pushy a-holes because they cause women such as your self to expand your surch for a keeper. Most men are only intrested in what they can do to you and fast. But some of us are worth serching for. We want to take the time see if there is anything to build on. I like the flerting and playing around. Taking your time lets you see the real deal personality and not just some cover. Taking the time to build intrest and a comfort zone can give you a lasting friend that you mite have missed out on.
Some of us that have a brain that works part of the time knows any time we have gotten laid in our lives we just happen to be in the right place at the right time. It is the women that makes the decision if and when it will ever happen. post 188920


SaucyNSassy 39F

1/20/2006 3:59 pm

Quite, wow, I just found this. Why can't AdultFriendFinder make it easier and just give me a list of ALL of my new comments? not just a few on the side of the screen. I cant disagree with anything you said... You are right on so many levels. Thanks for the wishes... I need them...lol.

Tj,I have to be honest myself, I have given up on finding a keeper. If a man finds me... so be it. I will have to see if he is worth it or if he is like all of the others. Here is my burning question...How many winks need to exchange before I get an email?

"Sassy"


ozbudwacker 63M

1/23/2006 5:23 pm

my problem with ur discorse is that men that r agressive or up front as to what they want r the ones that will aproch u in the first place. and the ones that r a bit shy and reserved r the ones that women r not interested in. i have never known when to even take the first kiss she had to almost grab me to let me know. i hate to offend. but once i know someone is interested i open up more. I have always wanted it slow and get to know each other first sex is only part of any relationship and no matter how good sex is it will not hold u togther i found that out with my x and never plan to do that again the sex we had was the best in fact i would have to say she was the best sex partner i have ever had abd she felt the same way but our beleafs and other things we enjoyed were different the more we got to know each other the more we found that out and again she was the agressor i had not had sex with anyone in 2 years so i guess i was vulnerable when it came to makeing the first move she did and brought a bottle over to get me drunk and herself drunk she didn`t know i was not a drinker except the occational glass of wine but the offer of sex and so easy was what got us envolved in the first place.(my stupid)i do not want to make that mistake again and hopefully i learned as we all r supose to from our mestakes.or if u r lucky the mestakes of others.i did fall in love with her and probibly still am but as sth song says "sometime love just ain`t enough". the true test of any relationship is open comunication and truly listening as well as telling the truth at the begening. o. k. i`m probibly rambling but i am less shy on the computer than when i first meet someone if any one wants to chat more on my take feel free to contact me.
joe


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