Make Me Go To Bed...  

SaucyNSassy 38F
2021 posts
4/9/2006 11:09 pm

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4/12/2006 6:55 pm

Make Me Go To Bed...

Seriously, if I had someone to crawl in bed with, I would be there. However, I don't. I mean, he is there but he has been a jerk all freakin day!
Besides, even if he hadn't been a jerk all day it's still like I sleep alone. We don't touch all night. We don't kiss....nothing. Pathetic! How did I manage to marry the one man in the world who doesn't want sex? Fuck!


Does anyone know how to make me go to bed?

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11238 posts
4/10/2006 12:04 am

Since I'm not a guy I won't comment on this one....

~shutz up~

8321 posts
4/10/2006 12:17 am

I know you are sexually frustrated and wanting to be pounded savagely and ravaged completely, though is it worth breaking your wedding vows?

How did you manage to marry the one man in the world who doesn't want sex?

Good question.

Was he like this before you got married?

I'd say there's a reason, but blogging here about it, won't solve anything.

You need to ask him what's up.


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

im_your_man77 39M
961 posts
4/10/2006 1:11 am

I couldn't possibly share such information in a public forum, you will just have to imagine how I would get you to go to bed. Bugger! What have I done? That will only worsen the situation for tomorrows posts.

tillerbabe 55F

4/10/2006 1:25 am

Put another man in your bed! LOL!

angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
4/10/2006 7:38 am

I like tillerbabe's answer!

Gypsy329 46F

4/10/2006 11:21 am

Ooo...that's a tough one...Spent 3 yrs with a man whose sex drive was 1/32 of mine.
I'd love to see the guys' responses...
In the meantime, I think tillerbabe's got the answer...

SpaceRangerNJ 55M
4687 posts
4/10/2006 11:43 am

You know I'm in the same situation. But at least She is sleeping in another room. Do you have another room to go to? Would that stir things up too much? Make up some silly excuse if you want to hide that fact that you really detest being near him.

And I thought it was supposed to be "No huggie, no kissy 'till I get a wedding vow". Well you got it and he isn't living up to the bargain.

I do have a question though. If he wanted to have sex, at this point, would you? I know for myself that there is enough other things wrong with the marriage that I don't think I would. If all that was missing was sex, I'd get it elsewhere with the understanding that I wasn't leaving. But, It's much more than that. So leave I will.

Do you even know why he isn't interested? I know why we initially stopped but I don't know why it continued after the initial problem was solved.

Feel free to answer off line to any and all of the questions. Or not at all if you don't want to get into it.

Wishing I could be there for you.
Big hug, gentle kiss,

8321 posts
4/10/2006 1:31 pm

    Quoting tillerbabe:
    Put another man in your bed! LOL!
^If only it was that easy, Tiller.

Somehow I doubt she would allow him the same latitude.

It cuts both ways.


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

QuiteAGoodHandle 51M

4/11/2006 2:07 am

Hi Sassy,

I agree with Division77. You say that your husband doesnt
want sex but what is the reason? Is it physical?

If you still love him, you will stay with him.
if you dont, you wont.

But its important to resolve the 'why he doesnt wat sex'

I'm not sure if you explained this on another blog entry
or not, or if you want to, but for us here, its a
missing piece of important information.

best wishes as always,


SaucyNSassy 38F

4/12/2006 6:55 pm

Goddess, never have to shut up on MY blog

Div, I appreciate your thoughts... I have blogged a lot about this but do I expect you to go back and skim thru all gazillion of my blogs? of course not but I have asked him, I have talked to him, I'm not mean, I don't blame him, I'm calm, I ask what I can do to make things better. We did have sex before we got married but once we got married he was very uninterested. He just doesn't have any sex drive, I guess. I thought it was me, I lost 65lbs...nothing changed. I do love him but after 2 and a half years of little to NO sex I got fed up. He would promise to change but never did. No effort, nothing.

Man77, lol... so cute how you act shy!

Tiller, well I will put me in another mans bed as soon as I can.

Angel, me too but I'm so picky! lol

Gypsy, then you know how I feel.

S.R., I could make an excuse but I love my bed. It's a huge king size bed so it's not like he even touches me anyway. HE ISNT obeying his vows to me EITHER! Biblically you shouldn't commit adultery WELL biblically you should not with hold from your spouse either! They are both in there... He just has no sex drive. I'm at a loss, I've tried everything.

Div, if he did cheat on me at least it would explain things. However, he just isn't the type. He'd rather play a video or computer game than play w/ me.

Macker, I know....

Quite, he says he is too tired for sex or he is out of shape. I do love him but I love him like family... AND I love his family. Leaving is easier said than done. Our families are very involved w/ eachother and I'm w/ his family all the time.


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