I'm fucked... and not in the good way.  

SaucyNSassy 38F
2021 posts
4/9/2006 10:58 pm

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4/11/2006 12:14 pm

I'm fucked... and not in the good way.

I really need to say fuck it. I need to just give up on finding someone that will make me happy and get off this damn site and the internet altogether. I haven't found exactly what I want. I swear, I had no idea I was so picky until a few months ago when I came here and realized there is always something wrong with someone. Damn... When will I just throw in the towel and say..."okay, so my husband and I don't have sex, I have EVERYTHING else, thats enough" I said that the first 2 and a half years of my marriage... I need to brainwash myself and start saying it again. Thing is, even if I could, could I ever forgive myself for the cheating?
I'm fucked either way and unfortunately not in the good way...


jadedbabe78 105F

4/9/2006 11:39 pm

Awww sweetie , I know it's difficult. And I know it sucks.

That's why I am here strictly to blog. Not to meet anyone. Stop looking, maybe it'll find you then when you least expect it.

Don't settle though. You're unhappy, with someone who doesn't uphold his vows....because YES, marriage is about the physical aspect, too. It's needed for one to thrive and you're not getting that. Don't think you have to settle for that.

You know I'm here for ya, girl.


nightnsa 48M  
415 posts
4/10/2006 6:11 am

i am sorry you have not found what you are looking for....

liquid_light 43M

4/10/2006 7:28 am

About once a week I have the same thoughts. I get frustrated with the impossibility of finding someone to feel this physical need, mad at myself for the time I "waste" here, guilty, lonely, longing to be touched. But for some reason I keep hanging out here. I think I'm beyond hoping to find a perfect lover to quench this thirst. Maybe I'm just consoling myself with the community of people longing for perfect lovers. It _is_ comforting to read that I'm not the only one trapped in a sexless relationship, torn between love and the need for physical intimacy.

Anyway, I guess I'm saying that I think the most important thing to do is to accept how your feeling and not be mad at yourself over it. We'll learn something from this experience, and we'll hopefully have some fun doing it, and then it will be over so quickly that we'll wonder what the drama was about. I think.

Gypsy329 46F

4/10/2006 11:13 am

Sassy...I feel ya love. Been going through something similar...Trying to truly discern my wants from my needs...

I love your blog...Keep it up!


SpaceRangerNJ 55M
4687 posts
4/10/2006 12:01 pm

Don't give up on us [men] baby
Remember that song?

OK, ready my comments on your go to bed post. The answers to some of those questions may tell you whether to settle or not. If sex is the only issue then you need to confront it. Directly or if you aren't comfortable with that get counseling. If repairing your marriage were an option, would you do it?

I'm at the point where I don't want to try. Her priorities and choices are right for her but not right for me. It wouldn't be fair to ask her to change. I did already ask btw a few years ago and she said no. Even if she did it would not be natural for her and she would be miserable. It would go against her being. We live mostly separate lives and both deserve better.

Don't you deserve better? If finding another man right now isn't working then you might want to shift gears and seek another solution to your problem. Doing the same thing over and over expecting different results isn't going to work. Or so says Anthony Robbins, et al.

Talk to me. How can I help? Let's work through your options.

SaucyNSassy 38F

4/11/2006 7:07 am

Jadey, Im not really looking. I don't email men but if they email me and they are somewhat interesting I will respond. I have only met men who fall in my lap. They just aren't the right men damnit! RIGHT MAN!!! Come find me!!!

Night, thank you sweetie! I'm just picky!

Liquid, Honestly, I loved your comment... Every word of it and it's nice to hear from someone who has felt the exact same way. *Hugs* Thank you!

Gypsy, Welcome to my blogdom and Thank you! Wants and Needs.... hmm... I want a great man and I need him so ...lol... I obviously cant tell the difference.

S.R., I don't know what song you are talking about this time hon.
If I could repair my marriage, I would do it. Damn Anthony, lol... He is a pretty smart man. Thanks for everything.

Macker, you are so sweet hon. Wouldn't that be nice?


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