Attraction  

SaucyNSassy 39F
2021 posts
3/14/2006 11:38 am

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3/16/2006 11:47 pm

Attraction


What is the first thing you notice about someone when you meet them?
What attracts you to that person?
If you met a man/woman that was 300lbs and the nicest person you had ever met... could you look past the weight issue?
If you met a woman w/ a bigger moustache than you...could you look past it?
If you met a man that had the tiniest dick on earth could you get over it and just bring a vibe into the bdrm w/ the two of you?

I think when you meet someone online and get to know them that once you meet them you can look past certain things that ordinarily would turn you off. However, that is only if they were honest w/ you online.
Let me tell you a story... I talked to this man online... He said he was athetic. He even sent me a few pics... (from 5 yrs ago!!!) LOL! No... We met for dinner and I swear to you I was in shock. Athletic is not a man w/ a beer belly... and I don't mean a little pooch. I mean, BIG beer belly. He was a nice guy but I just couldnt get past the image that he had put in my mind. He lied... that is what bothered me. Had he been honest and said... "damn, girl, I don't remember what the inside of a gym looks like but I love my beer" then I would have expected him to be chubby and I could have been prepared. Needless to say... the attraction was just NOT there anyway.
Have you ever met someone who said they were one thing but once you met them they were something entirely different?
I send a ton of pics before I meet someone... I give them the size of clothes I wear...lol. Hell, if they asked they could have my measurements...lol. I don't want to meet someone and have them expect me to be something different than what I am.
What I dont get is why do people lie? Eventually you will meet this person so if you are 250lbs and 5'8... dont tell them you are 200lbs and 5'11 unless you expect to grow 3 inches and lose 50lbs before you meet them.
Why lie? you are what you are and if someone doesnt like you for who and what you are... SCREW THEM!

"Sassy"

jadedbabe78 105F

3/14/2006 2:01 pm

Attraction is a big thing, obviously. And I can say I'm attracted to a man's eyes or his smile. But in reality, I take in the entire package. AND...if he has darker hair (not blonde basically, lol)...it's a major bonus.

I'm also attracted to the man's energy. The way he presents himself, his humor, intelligence...the whole package.

As for a weight issue...I honestly don't think I could look past it. I wouldn't be physically attracted. They'd be a great friend...but I could not move to the next level. I like my men to be at least average. And by average, I mean of a proportional weight/height ratio. I don't expect someone to be ripped and in perfect shape, because lord knows I sure the hell am not.

I have a pooch. In reality, if anyone says I need to lose weight..it's maybe 10 lbs at best. I say more only because I know what I'm comfrotable at. I full on let people know I have a pooch, I am working on losing weight....only so they know not to expect some buff and toned chickie .

A small pecker...I could live with that, lol. Only because back when I was 19....I dated this guy (a cowboy, ohhh he was so sexy even if he was 2 inches shorter, lol)...he was small...but wow, he had stamina!

Lying about appearence will not get you anywhere. I've been online long enough many people do it. Some are honest and some aren't. But I have no clue what they expect to happen when you meet. I guess they're hoping their personality will shine through....which doesn't make sense because all you see is a cowardly liar with low self esteem.

Ok...I'll quit rambling in your blog, lol. I could go on and on about this.

~Jadey


elysianpleasure 47M

3/14/2006 4:59 pm

What is the first thing you notice about someone when you meet them?
- there eyes and their smile in person... there wittiness and intelligence online

What attracts you to that person?
- intelligence and a spark... a life about them

If you met a man/woman that was 300lbs and the nicest person you had ever met... could you look past the weight issue?
- I couldn't look past 300 lbs... but I could be friends

If you met a woman w/ a bigger moustache than you...could you look past it?
- I happen to have an interesting story about that... but for another day...

If you met a man that had the tiniest dick on earth could you get over it and just bring a vibe into the bdrm w/ the two of you?
- This would be of no concern to me... I don't do dicks


mrgrimshade 44M

3/14/2006 8:52 pm

ha!

Now I can have sassy's mesurements...hmmm...44-24-10? As for the rest, I could not date someone bigger than me, just keep it under 200 girlie! Moustache yes, unibrow...That would be a toughie...but what attracts me? women...from the waifish doll to the tall amazon, to the MILF of 3 kids to the 18 yo, the all have their own beauty.

Grim

btw Jadey I have dark non-blonde hair


rm_Keystone3812 65M
583 posts
3/15/2006 3:43 am

Bravo.


blueguy1051 60M

3/15/2006 6:39 am

I look at a lady's face, eyes. I like nice hair. I like a lady who cares for herself and makes an effort to look nice, whether that's blue jeans or an evening gown. I have found that many women on this site lie, the most common ones being weight, but also shaving a few years. "A little extra padding" turned out to be 320 pounds one time, and "Average" in Kentucky often meant 200 pounds. Well, I guess that was average there ...


SpaceRangerNJ 55M
4687 posts
3/15/2006 7:57 am

Eyes are a big thing for me. Overall, beauty comes in so many delicious packages. So weight alone is not a factor.
I did see a picture of a 320lb woman. But she was over 7 feet tall and wearing heels. OMG. OK, weight does not have to mean fat. Muscle weighs more that fat. So I wouldn't prejudge on weight based on a number. But that's not what you were getting at. I think I have my limits as to the size of a woman. I think one important thing that goes with the size is what kind of lifestyle they live. Heavy and pretty but a couch potato is not for me.
A bigger moustache than me would be hard and if she didn't think enough of herself to groom then there would be more wrong than that I suspect. Mrgrimshade mentioned unibrows. I believe in an earlier post of yours I admitted to having a unibrow during my youth. No one told me to take care of it. Aren't your parents supposed to point stuff like that out? If it was a woman who knew about it and decided not to take care of it I would have to see what else she was ignoring. The unibrow might be the least of her problems.
I've only met two women from this site. One did not live up to her pictures. Not in a height / weight way; just looked older and more stressed. The other was what I expected. Actually more pretty in person than in her picture. Wonderful personality. She was heavy, not large, and did not hide the fact online.
Your comment about meeting on line and being able to look past physical attributes speaks to peoples' tendency judge and sort out based on physical attributes without getting to know someone. The first impression is based on physical appearance rather than personality and character.
I think that covers all your questions.
S.R.


Dallas_Male_35 47M
255 posts
3/15/2006 10:41 pm

I think that if someone lies to you from the start, it's not excusable. If they have to lie to grab your attention, what can they possible to to hold onto it?

If you can't have trust, faith, honor and respect, then you have nothing.


SaucyNSassy 39F

3/16/2006 11:47 pm

Everyone, I adore you all! Thank you for taking the time to comment! I'm being lazy tonight... sorry!
Hugs & Kisses,
"Sassy"


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