Sex under the mantis condition  

Sarahwilling 35F
193 posts
6/27/2006 10:46 am

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Sex under the mantis condition

Monday night I decided to give an AFFriend a chance. For those of you so nicely invading my mail box, you need to know a couple of things. Despite what some of you think, I am not an easy girl. Second, so far I am a little reluctant to meet locally. And third, I have a very intense work schedule. So "what are you doing tonight" might not be the best way to approach me.

Each time I want to meet someone, I have to plan for it. I agreed to have sex on Monday afternoon. So that meant I had to wake up early enough, so I could make it to the office early. I was already working at 6:00 AM, to trim two hours from my work schedule and be able to drive some 60 miles to a nice hotel where I was meeting my fifth AFFriend. After dick#2, with the relative exception of dick#4, I screen my candidates harder than before. I chose dick#5 because, while not being local, he does not live too far away. And the other thing is that dick#5 agreed to some especial condition.

I agreed on meeting dick#5 under what I will call the mantis condition.

He would have sex with me, and I would give him my very best and for as long as he wished it ‒but it would be the last time he would see me. One shot. No more meetings. No more calls, or emails, or nothing. Why do I call it the mantis condition? As many of you surely know, the female Praying mantis devours the head of the male after the sexual act. An interesting way of understanding post-sexual play.

Dick#5 accepted the offer. I chose him because I think he will comply with his side of the deal (no apparent hung-ups, good looks, good spelling in his messages...). So far, he has complied (no text message on my cell phone this morning).

Perhaps because of the conditions set for the encounter, we had great, intense sex. We made love non-stop for three hours. I left the hotel room very satisfied and very relaxed. In one way, by having sex, I killed dick#5. Yes, I know, for many of the men here that would actually be a dream: many of them are female mantis at heart.

Driving back home I could not help but wonder if the male mantis knows what the female mantis has in store for him. Dick#5 at least knew it.

buddhamike 105M
7006 posts
6/27/2006 11:58 am

Dick #5 is a lucky man. You told him the truth up front. Now I just hope he recognizes that he has been blessed and doesn't turn into some kind of stalkerazi ruining things for potential dick #7.

(I know I'm not going to be dick #n, I just have hope for the other men of the world, and appreciation for a woman who can be so candid about it all)

rm_mkeoldspice 59M

6/27/2006 5:03 pm

Once again, an enlightening look into the inner workings of the female mind! A beautiful woman who's up front, says what she means and means what she says is indeed a rare find.

zanzibarus 37M

6/27/2006 5:40 pm

That's almost disturbing.

The hotel staff aren't going to find a severed head in the bar fridge are they?

I'm frightened of you

Sarahwilling 35F

6/27/2006 6:13 pm

To the three of you: thank you for being so nice. Nope, there is not severed head in the bar fridge...I took it with me.

Zanzibarus: Don't be frightened. I am such a good girl.
Yours, Sarah

gentile_sadico 51M
1368 posts
6/27/2006 7:21 pm

interesting story, can't wait to hear the rest...

kje112 50M

6/27/2006 9:11 pm

I must say, I love your attitude and total honesty. If only more women were like you and totally open about what they want and expect from an AdultFriendFinder "encounter". You keep being who you are, it makes it all the better for us men on here. Happy hunting!

JudeL5 46M
1535 posts
6/27/2006 10:01 pm

Don't do her Zanz.... she just wants to use you as her sexual play toy... look at her eyes!!!! She'll tease you and get your little man at attention faster than you can say "she's a gooooooood girl".

Sarah, you're quite the ball of fire.... ouch!! LOL

rm_bluebuell 47M

6/28/2006 3:12 am

That is awesome and terrible, beautiful and horrible, and exciting and frightening all at the same time. Never heard of that before.

Thanks for the blogs Sarah, all i can say is sweet, sweet, sweet.

UdderPuttyBiped 37M
102 posts
6/28/2006 5:05 am

Hmmm. Very interesting. Only a woman has the power to do this. A man who tries to set "conditions" on sex will of course end up without sex. The power imbalance inherent in that is quite clear. That's just the way things are, and it's perfectly fine when everyone is being honest. Honesty is good, and sex for the sake of fun and pleasure is good.

I'm not quite sure about calling the men "dicks" however. It does seem kind of demeaning. Imagine the reverse, a man calling his hookups "pussies" or some such name. It seems a bit disrespectful. I'm all about respecting people, whether or not you are ever going to see them again.

I'm also kind of curious about a few other things about you Sarah, I must admit you intrigue me, but I shall not clog up your blog space with questions, which you probably wouldn't want to answer here anyway.

Thanks for being a straightforward girl though.



Sarahwilling 35F

6/28/2006 9:34 am

Atreides: I will think about not calling the men "dicks" but as you can see, I was trying to make a point. While most men do not call us "pussy#1" it is exactly how some treat us. Think about it.

I would love to answer any questions. Do not hesitate to ask them here or through a message.
Take care and thanks for reading. Sarah.

fmisvme 46M/36F

6/28/2006 10:02 am

Miss Sarah, I think you'll find for you, there are many who will be willing to "die"!!! Enjoy and be careful!

Rock Chalk Jayhawk!

blueguy1051 60M

6/28/2006 4:14 pm

I would never call a woman pussy#5. I always consider their individuality ... shavedpussy#1, blondepussy#2, darklandingstrip#3, etc.

Hon, what are you going to do if you find one that you want again? Or even, heaven forbid, one that you want for more than sex? It happens sometimes.

Sarahwilling 35F

6/28/2006 6:54 pm

Blue, your friend was right: you are great. Actually, I kind of have one -but what I am doing lately is different. And not all the guys are going to be required what this one was asked. It is how I felt for that one. Take care, Sarah.

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
6/28/2006 9:20 pm

timequality 40M
11 posts
6/28/2006 9:34 pm

Hi Sarahwilling, You have a great head on your sholders. drop me a line if you ever wanna chat.

UdderPuttyBiped 37M
102 posts
6/29/2006 5:01 am

    Quoting Sarahwilling:
    Atreides: I will think about not calling the men "dicks" but as you can see, I was trying to make a point. While most men do not call us "pussy#1" it is exactly how some treat us. Think about it.

    I would love to answer any questions. Do not hesitate to ask them here or through a message.
    Take care and thanks for reading. Sarah.
I did think about it...I have been reading your blog for a few weeks now and had been thinking about it for some time. And I don't doubt that you are correct about the behavior of some men. Perhaps more than I might care to realize, and I know for sure what most of the men around here are like. It's bad. The way a lot of them think reminds me of that old joke, "What do you call the useless flap of skin that surrounds the vagina? A woman."

Yeah, I know my gender can be incredibly thoughtless and self-absorbed. I guess I would just hate to think that sort of thinking was rubbing off on the "fairer sex", and you are fair indeed.

Anyway, I will probably in fact at some point send you a message and ask you some of the questions I have burning. First I'll have to either get some more points or upgrade my account. Until then, I'll continue to read with interest.

Oh, and thanks for being what I would actually call uncommonly cool about replying.


HoopsPhymaUreal 41M
153 posts
6/29/2006 5:04 am

I don't what's hotter. The 3 hours of intense sex or the fact that she got up early to go do it

rm_Wrenchguy44 55M

6/29/2006 1:49 pm

Message received 5 by 5. My apologies if you took it the wrong way, it's just that there are a few of us here on AdultFriendFinder that are not readily available unless there is a possibility of a daytime meeting and I fear that my days here on AdultFriendFinder are numbered. I also have reservation about meeting up with someone that I (or we) may run into at the grocery store or somewhere in town but I trust that you are much more discrete than most women are. There is always the possibility of a road trip to a small town a county or so away and it would take a couple of days to plan.

Apparently you prefer public blogging to e-mail or telephone conversations. I can understand that if you have a job where you have hundreds of daily e-mails and you are on the phone much of the time. Some of us have more solitary situations where we welcome the occasional e-mail or phone call as the opportunity to escape from the day to day grind.

Any way I am impressed with your knowledge of entomology. The mantis sometimes kills her mate while still in the act of mating and that is very gruesome indeed. Additionally, I wanted to point out that there is also an arachnid that kills her mate just after fertilization as well and that is the Black Widow spider. She waits until after mating so if he is fast enough, the male may be able to escape on occasion. However, if you don't want to be considered a viscous killer of your mates, maybe you could call the next time the Queen Bee Condition. She only has all of the male drones thrown out of the hive once she has mated with the one that she selected. The drones eventually do die off but she does not actually kill them.

Thanks for being here

rm_macallan4u 46M
968 posts
6/29/2006 11:23 pm

Sounds like a great way to go, Lucky bastard..LOL

Knowledge of our impending doom is what differentiates us from animals... at least some of us!

I only hope my exit is as ummm pleasurable.

Choozmi 50M

6/30/2006 3:21 am

I have been treated in the past the way a mantis treats her mate.

I didn't like it.

I didn't understand what I had done to make a lover not wish to have any contact with me after we'd had sex.

Maybe I would have liked it better if I'd known about the "conditions" beforehand. Maybe not. I don't know.

Why were you so certain that you didn't want to know this man beyond the one tryst? Was there something about him you disliked?

I don't understand your thinking on this.

blueguy1051 60M

6/30/2006 1:24 pm

I think, my dear, that you have disturbed some of your readers. Men have issues with women who treat sex the way men do. And then to be honest and unapologetic about it ...

Choozmi 50M

6/30/2006 2:47 pm

    Quoting blueguy1051:
    I think, my dear, that you have disturbed some of your readers. Men have issues with women who treat sex the way men do. And then to be honest and unapologetic about it ...
Blueguy, replace the word "men" with an ethnic or religious group and then consider what an unfair statement you made.

You may be male but you don't speak for me. I don't treat sex the way you're describing.

Since Sarah told her lover the conditions of their tryst beforehand, he really doesn't have a right to complain. On that I'll agree.

But I am I wondering why she wants such conditions in the first place. I'd ask the same thing of any man who liked these sorts of liaisons.

Just because I'm male doesn't mean I think this way. I'm asking honest questions.

Sarahwilling 35F

6/30/2006 3:29 pm

Blue and Choozmi, I like you both, so don't fight each other, please. Choozmi: I just felt like it -that's all. It freed me.
Yours, Sarah

clitalicious67 49F

7/1/2006 4:37 am that was awesome. I like the fact that you know what you want and don't pull any punches about it! Too bad others are not always as up front with their expectations...very cool!


elysianpleasure 47M

7/1/2006 4:24 pm

Interesting... some people here think the male mantis is lucky... I do not. I would not want to have the sex of my life and never see you again. I also would likely have that kind of sex if I didn't feel a connection... but still interesting. But if it works for you...

BrassyPegasus 30M
1 post
7/1/2006 4:40 pm

a good plan and way to play it safe

TheCliticals 34F/F

7/2/2006 7:20 am

Hmmmm I hope that you dont intend to kill off everyone you meet

calo_bonita2 53F

7/3/2006 1:03 am

podria hacer su temario y dar clases creando su post q sera la aula virtual para mandarle a todos los q se interesen en su materia , enlacelo a mi blog para q lleguen directo a el tema que imparta, gracias por jugar en la uni
besitos y gracias

Eddie5011 42M

7/3/2006 3:25 am

Blimey. Dick #5. Good story though.
Nice to see how popular your blog is, what's the secret?

Sarahwilling 35F

7/3/2006 9:04 am

Eddie: No secret. I am surprised myself. Take care, Sarah

Bluto1965 51M

7/5/2006 11:30 am

You honesty and the way you look at life and everything around you is stunning. I do enjoy reading your blogs and also all the replies. I find a woman who looks at sex the way men do very attractive. Equal rights, isn't it that what would make life easier?
I am in no way offended being called dick#?, I am called worse, LOL. Seriously, you are right, if men call women pussy# you have the same right to call men whatever you want to call them.
Keep blogging and play safe.


MadisonStud7 50M
5 posts
7/5/2006 7:50 pm

Being upfront about anything in an intelligent way is a turn on, and refreshing...I wouldn't have a problem having sex with someone just once, as long as that was upfront...

rm_cuteboy7707 38M
1 post
7/15/2006 10:01 am

Contigo... vale la pena. Ha de ser delicioso tenerte aunque sea por una sola vez... y disfrutar plenamente de tu hermoso cuerpo. Con tal de hacerte mia, aceptaria cualquier condicion que pusieras, incluyendo Sex under the mantis condition.

rm_ntowl2 40M
1 post
8/7/2006 1:58 pm

I think your ass licking fuckable. luve the smile

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