re posted for mothers day...  

4888 posts
5/13/2006 2:00 pm
re posted for mothers day...

Happy Mothers Day

I wasent going to go near the puter today.. but taking a break from the house stuff.. and I miss my having down moments..and I knew you all would cheer me up

I'm re-posting somthing that I wrote awhile back remembering all that I learned from my Mother.. She was tuff but very loving... We had out outs when I was going through the teen stuff and things she would tell me I would blow it off..
Its amazing now that I'm 43 I realize how right she was.. I put her through some horible stuff.. and she let me make some real stupid dicisions knowing I would fall, but she knew I was the type that had to learn the hard way..
Any ways .. to all you Mothers out there.. Happy mothers day.. and even if you children may ignore you now..They will remember what you say when they need it.
meassuring life

.. My attitude reminded me of my mothers..and I'm realizing.. I'm becoming her in so many ways or as my brother would say I'm my Mother and this can be scary..

When I was around 4 yrs of age I was in the kitchen with my mother and father playing on the floor with some lincoln logs happily... the next thing I knew My Mother was on the floor with her hand on her cheek and my father hovered over her red in the face.. I remember feeling terrified.

My mother just looked at me and calmed me down and took me in the living room as her cheek was swollen, Went back in the kitchen... I soon heard a loud thunk.. I walked back in the kitchen to find my father on the floor knocked out. My Mother standing over him with a large 4 cup measuring cup in her hand... she had clobbered him over the head with it..
Now this was really the only violence I had witnessed in my home growing up.. But after that day I did not see my father again till I was 16.

That day My mother started to put lil notes in that measuring cup.. and kept it on top of the fridge. the first note read.. "start to measure your options now" There were many more after that.. and then a journal.. Thank God..

she passed away when I was 27... Her journal is soooo precious to me and the best gift she ever gave me besides life.

She would say her life started that day. She learned she had strength and determination..and she did not need to put up with any abuse. She began to measure her life carefully and always weigh out her options.

I'm thankful she taught me that.. and I'm thankful she taught me and my brothers not to abuse anyone.

She would tell me to only marry if I could imagine him with no legs or arms and hideous... would I still care and love him... and yes I would

She told me "Cinderella was a fairytale"...

she told me to marry my best friend.. and I did

she told me " you don't meet your soul mate.. you become soul mates".

she told me " you don't wait for the stars.. you make the stars".

she told me " you measure life by the love from friends and family.. not wealth and material things"

Because she took the time... I will never have to use that measuring cup for anything else but to measure.

So.. How do you measure life???

and btw... If she were alive today.... she would be on AdultFriendFinder... I know it...

I love you mom Happy Mothers day

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

tillerbabe 55F

5/16/2006 12:17 am

Ooooo.. I really liked this!!! (I played with Lincoln Logs too!) What a beautiful mother you have, (I say have - because she is still with you!) How do I measure life? Great question - by the amount of love I give...{=}

earthShiva 59M

5/15/2006 4:50 pm

Your mom was a wise woman. Kudos to you as well for having the wisdom to receive the gifts she offered.

SpaceRangerNJ 55M
4687 posts
5/14/2006 10:24 pm

Big hug.
Those are good lessons to learn.
Glad you married your friend. Sound like the only way to go.
As far as learning lessons on your own, the hard way, it is sometimes just that way. We can study history all we want and maybe we are primed to learn but really must go through things on our own.
Of course, other times we can accept the lessons of others.

Learning to measure life differently these days.
Discovering more about what I want out of life and what makes me happy.

SacredStarDance replies on 5/14/2006 11:25 pm:
well SR ... I have had to change my measurements several times to get the recipi at least digestable to the soul.. and probly will have to change it a few more times... But I think thats part of growing


rm_anacortes 74M
2850 posts
5/14/2006 1:17 pm

So.. How do you measure life???

I don't know if I measure "it"; I just take it ONE BREATH AT A TIME..

Got to be real thankful for ALL BLESSINGS, and YES, I did call my Mom today...

wickedeasy 66F  
25470 posts
5/14/2006 10:40 am

i like your Mom............smiles and wipes an errant tear from her cheek

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

SacredStarDance replies on 5/14/2006 11:22 pm:
thank you ... and thanks for comming by

nikid_64 52F

5/14/2006 10:35 am

MrsMuff, how sweet to remember her today! I'm so lucky that I still have mine, she's my very best friend, I talk to her everyday, I had a co-worker tell me once how lucky I was to still have her, I pray every night for just one more day with her.

SacredStarDance replies on 5/14/2006 11:21 pm:
yes your blessed.. cherrish the moments you have with her..

Djeeper1987 47M

5/14/2006 10:33 am

Pretty Sweet Mom you have there. Happy Mothers Day to her!

Carpe Diem

SacredStarDance replies on 5/14/2006 11:19 pm:
Thank you ... she was sweet.. just don't get her mad

libgemOH 56M/52F

5/14/2006 10:31 am

This was just as beautiful the 2nd time around!! In fact more so since I am missing my own mom today! (I keep looking at the phone and just knowing it's gonna ring any second and it will be her going off on me for forgetting Mother's Day!!)

Anyhow, a very Happy Mother's Day to you and never forget, she is right there with you and is SOOOOO proud of her little girl!! Love you!! -B

SacredStarDance replies on 5/14/2006 11:18 pm:
I feel her presence everyday..I know there both proud of us.. partying up a storm up in the stars

toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
5/14/2006 6:45 am

You had a great mother!
Thanks for sharing this.

SacredStarDance replies on 5/14/2006 10:24 am:
Thank you... she had greek blood ... what did you expect
kisses back

rm_KirkVW44m 54M
688 posts
5/14/2006 4:04 am

Happy Mothers Day to you dear.. Your mother was wise woman, but i would of disagreed with her statement that said, she told me " you don't meet your soul mate.. you become soul mates I believe/know our soulmates exist already and there can be several and that life will put us in each others paths when the time is right or even at times when the time is NOT right .

SacredStarDance replies on 5/14/2006 10:22 am:
Hmmm what you say is so true....But are our eyes opened to the souls that are right in front of us...I beleive we can have more then one and also different levels of soulfulness<<< is that a word?? I think we over use the word connection..or take it for granted..... dayum... im rambling..
Thanks for your comment

runzwithknives 59F

5/13/2006 6:18 pm

MrsMuff, it was beautiful the first time around and continues to be just as touching.
Happy Mothers Day to you!!

Big Hugs

SacredStarDance replies on 5/13/2006 8:18 pm:
thank you

happy mothers day to you as well

mycin62 54F

5/13/2006 3:24 pm

What a beautiful tribute to your mom!!! She was one smart lady Sounds like you are your mother's daughter

SacredStarDance replies on 5/13/2006 8:11 pm:
Yes she was very smart and did the best with what life gave her.. If I only had an ounce of her strength...but I did get all her

Thanks and happy mothers day to you

MaggiesWishes 59F

5/13/2006 3:11 pm

I can't talk... this made me cry ... be back later.
warm huggies 2ya

SacredStarDance replies on 5/13/2006 8:09 pm:
Don't cry... huggssssssssss

angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
5/13/2006 2:42 pm

Mrsmuff....this made an impression on my the first time I read it. And I thought of all the little things that I hope my daughters will remember when I'm gone. This was a beautiful tribute to your mom...and you should be very proud that YOU are becoming your Mother! Happy Mother's Day to you.

SacredStarDance replies on 5/13/2006 8:06 pm:
Thank you Angel... Happy Mothers day to you

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