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7/3/2006 1:21 pm

LustyTaurus > What's Your Damned Problem??!?!??!!? (6/30/2006 3:10 am)

Thanks to

and his blog to allow us to vent about anything we wanted.. well I used it and abused it.. whats new..???

Then I read a comment quoted bycru1972

as comment

Quoting MRSMUFFLANDeople that have kids and treat them like morons and then constantly yell at them because they are morons... People that use there kids as game pieces to get at the other parent upset...
people that pop out kids and take them to a mall when there 3 days old and yet give them antibiotics if they have a running nose..

a parent that will take there ex to court for more child support knowing they don't have the money for gas to even see there kids..

sit there kids in front of a tv so they can spend all there time on the internet looking for ways to legally stab the ex .. instead of trying to make friends with the ex to teach there kids yes mom and dad have split but we are still friends because we love you....


Thanks hun

from cru

I didn't even have to read past this one. Thank you my dear friend Muffy, apparently she has read some of my OLD posts. I'm dying here, cause everything she mentioned is happening to me. Has been for about a month, Lusty you visit my blog and you know how happy I am to be a first time father, and my friends all know how much I WANT to be a part of my sons life, BUt what you guys don't know is That the fucking bitch REFUSES to let me see my son. I know we still have to get to court in order to have custody and visitation hearings. But god damnit I didn't even get to see him on father's Day. And she constantly says YOu will never get to know your son. then she puts me down that I don't see him when SHE WILL NOT LET me see him. Oh wait unless I go back to her, I spose I should say that so I don't look like the good guy here. There are hundreds of thousands of fathers out there that want nothing to do with their children, then there are those like ME that want nothing more than to BE WITH their children, and we are NOT allowed to be. I know this is one hell of a rant from me. Just look at the language, I'm hot one for this type but this pisses me right the fuck off.I'm typing this with tears in my eyes cause this is the firs time I have let this out, Thank you for the opportunity to do this. I am doing what I can, but the cost of lawyers is more than I can do now so I have to have hope that I can do this on my own. But I am scared that I don't have the strength to see this to the end. I' don't want sympathy, I don't want prayers, there are those on here that deserve them more than me. But I can't post this on my blog. I'm not strong enough to continue dealing with this shit where I have to see it more than this ONE time of getting it out.

Thank you

Me again...
this breaks my heart..and I see this everyday.. no I'm not a social worker.. If I was I would be in prison.. trust me.. there is nothing worse then kids being treated as a game peace and if it were up to me.. if proven it should be the largest form of child abuse and the parent causing it should spend time behind bars...

I have been through this.. my case was my Nephew that I raised and my crazy ass sister inlaw that had no clue from right and wrong..did not know the difference from a dog and a child ...That told her kid to be quiet .. don't tell anyone that a man touched him in the private place and then put him in a metal trash can with the lid so tight he could not get out..

This is a long story...
but back to cru1972 a wonderful guy that just began his journey as being a new father that has to deal with the other half and not being able to see his son.. just breaks my heart..

When I was a single parent I started a single parent network and it worked great.. the home computers was still a new idea back then so all was done with holding a meeting once a month and it was a success.. we networked baby issues.. dating and being a parent issues and yes legal issues.....It was a wonderful group.. like the blogs i knew I always had someone there for help and advice..

so.. if your a parent.. single parent.. that can offer any advice or share a story.. you may use this blog anytime.. or link ir here.. after all life is sex.. sex is life.. make room in your life for more sex.. hope this makes sense..or go give cru1972
a big hugg.. he can use one...and thanks
for letting us vent..

and before i get any comments about the subject kids should not be on a sex site.. read this blog again.. life is is sex.. the more we understand and grow and help one another be well adjusted human beings..we become better workers.. better friends.. the more attractive we become the better lovers we are..
got it ??

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LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
7/9/2006 10:54 pm

Hey Mrs did a wonderful thing here for a fine friend in Cru...thanks.

SacredStarDance replies on 7/10/2006 3:25 am:
Thanks.. I just hope gets some encouragement from it all... He's a great guy and so are you

JuicyBBW1001 54F

7/6/2006 6:06 pm

My friend in Jupiter was a bacholer for many years after his separation from his wife. Last year about this time she passed away from breast cancer and he inherited 3 teenagers. He is a great dad. When they came up for my graduation the kids where well behaved and treated my 6 year old like she was a little sister they never had.
While we might not ever be more then friends(sigh)it is nice to have a man I admire and respect to talk with about raising children. We both lean on one another for support and help when things get tough and his kids have had it rough this year. After all moving from a home they have known most of their life to Florida was a big adjustment for them all.
So guys don't give up hope. Being a parent if only in your heart is the greatest feeling known to man and or woman. And one day all your struggles will seem like small mountains to climb and conquer as you fight for the love of your life your children.


SacredStarDance replies on 7/6/2006 9:16 pm:
another situation to give parents the sterngth they need to be the best they can be.. Lets face it.. Its more difficult to raise kids now adays no matter what your situation is..single or married..


7/5/2006 5:21 pm

Many courts Go with the mother automatically.. Its sad that our system really is weak when it comes to nurturing our future with healthy, stable minds.
I have many male friends that are single full time parents and do a great job.. They may not ask for directions.. but will def call you at 3am asking for advice on a ear ache.. but then again..I'm mama

thanks your Dad raised a beautiful mind and spirit oh and

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We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

papyrina 50F
21133 posts
7/5/2006 5:29 am

Why is men don't seem to get a fair shake at all in these cases even without all war going on

My dad got custody of all of us but my mom never put up a fight and as an adult i'm glad he did, not her,she is good enough as a part time mom but life would have been a nightmare as a full time one,urgg just thinking about it

I'm a

i'm here to stay

rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
7/4/2006 4:33 pm

WOW, that was one very touching post. Thank you Muffy. reading this brought tears back to my eye's. And these response's brought strength to me to continue my fight. You are indeed someone that I am proud to call a friend, Thank you

SacredStarDance replies on 7/4/2006 7:10 pm:
Darlin there are just so many out there..that can give you the strength you need..
This is a very touchy subject for me.. even though he is 23 and going to college.. I have to deal with it..He will always be my kid.. but his mama plays the guilt trip on him all the time and I still have still struggle with being nice.. and to make things easier on him.. when she wines that he planed to spend christmas with us last year.. I just told him to go ahead and spend it with her.. and cried after the phone call... he just does not need the b.s of having to choose... But he has slowly been learning the truth with out me saying a word... he still has not heard my side of the story.. why he was with me and not her..

huggs to you.. I'm here for ya and so are so many others

mycin62 54F

7/4/2006 12:42 pm

My ex and I NEVER used the kids in our divorce!!! We both tried really hard never to talk back about each other in front of the kids and really worked at having a peaceful divorce for them. Even tho I still can't stand him, I really respect and appreciate him for it. Believe me, when the kids get older, they start to form opinions for themselves and they see the score.

Since we live in the same town, we split the kids 50/50. When they were each 16 they made the decision to come and live with me full time. Now they see their father when THEY choose to.

SacredStarDance replies on 7/4/2006 7:01 pm:
I applaude you and the ex for working things out for the kids sake..It also teaches are kids to find salutions rather then make problems..
Thanks.. Love the new pic

goodatpoetry2 66M
12376 posts
7/3/2006 11:19 pm

We see this WAY too often nowdays. If the break-up was nasty, the kids become a way to get back.
The courts shouldn't allow this to happen under ANY circumstances. And unless there is PROVEN sexual misbehaviour, visitation should always be allowed.

SacredStarDance replies on 7/4/2006 6:59 pm:
I agree 100% and working things out nicly for the kids always work.. and if i can do it with the witch, two timing ho / psyco nut I was dealing with.. anything can be done.. oops i said nice ?

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
7/3/2006 9:49 pm

I know exactly where the gentleman is coming from...

My second mistake (translate: 2nd ex-wife) found out I went to a strip club with some buddies. She packed up our son, packed the car, and left in the middle of the night...leaving my son from my first marriage home alone while I was in another state on a business trip.

She waged a legal jihad that raged from Ohio to Virginia. She feared she would face a gender neutral court in Ohio, so she ran back to Virginia and, incredibly, got the court there to say that, since the child was too young to have formed any lasting relationships in Ohio, therefore the Ohio courts had no jurisdiction over my son.

I haven't seen him since he was almost 2 years old...he is now 10.

But I'm patient...someday, he will want to know his real father...and I'll be waiting.

So to the gentleman that you're referring to, I say this: Hang tough, stay hard. Don't let your ex bully you into giving up yourself to please her. It's not worth it, trust me. Your sons will want to know you sometime in the future. When they're 18, they will be able to look for you and there's not a damn thing she can do about it.

Just my viewpoint...

NG61....storming back into the the lightning flashes and the thunder rumbles...

SacredStarDance replies on 7/4/2006 6:56 pm:
this is so true.. they grow up to be a legal age and make the decision how to form an opinion for there selves.. I wish under the stars for you that that day will come soon.

JuicyBBW1001 54F

7/3/2006 6:03 pm

I am a single parent and I work very hard to provide for my daughter. Often times going without so she can have. I also am very careful not to talk badly about her father. Since she is still so young I would hate to tell her what a monster he is I am afraid she would think she was not wanted and since I know how that feels not to be wanted I haven't told her the whole story . I make sure she knows that I love her every single day even when she behaves like a brat sometimes.
I also don't have much of a social life because I refuse to leave her with a babysitter so much. She spends 50 hours away from me as it is. So I try to limit my playtime to when she is in school and I am not working. This way she doesn't have to see a troop of men in and out of our home and she doesn't get attached to some man who would only care about getting off. Sorry you asked so I vented.

Hope you had a wonderful anniversary


SacredStarDance replies on 7/3/2006 7:02 pm:
sweetie... I gave you the space to vent.. so vent.. its tuff to be a single parent.. trying to have a social life and live life and keeping the balance of it all..guess I dont want people to feel alone..I remember when I had no one to turn to and knew nothing on how to raise a child untill I started to vent abd many gave me many ideas and were very helpful .. I also never let my dates meet my nephew.. until the mr.

warm wishes


7/3/2006 5:19 pm

oops pieces** even.. need a human spell check here..

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

rm_gerson42 52M
2419 posts
7/3/2006 3:05 pm

Kids cannot be game pieces without hurting them. Period. If two adults cannot break up and figure stuff out then they are they kids. Badly behaving vindictive kids. No child should suffer from additional pain than a divorce. Anything else, animosity, tit for tat and all that crap does no good and only harm. Great post, thank you.

SacredStarDance replies on 7/3/2006 5:16 pm:
Hey stranger.. welcome back and thanks for the comment..

It just seems that it is easier to get along then to argue about what really is not important..its never the kids fault the the marriage went bad .. so why make them feel like they are the reason things went sour.

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