8:30 pm the stars were out.. thoughts.. what is your passion  

SacredStarDance
4888 posts
3/21/2006 8:12 am
8:30 pm the stars were out.. thoughts.. what is your passion

Yes again.. Now please know I'm trying to grasp this growing up thing.. along with A.D.D.. and a lilttle CRS.. and I only colored my hair blonde to match my personality... hmmmmm..
So I have decided as I head out the door to look at the stars.. I will multi task and also take out the trash and walk the shoe chewer.. ( dog)

woooooohooooooo I'am now a multi tasker..

As I was looking at the stars, counting my blessings and thinking of all my friends, family and some termoil in there lives and some in mine.. I realized that some of the termoil was due to searching for passion in our lives... trying to fill a void. and some times confused with sex..stepping out of the Marriage... adding to the marriage or relationship... depending to much on friends and being accepted.

What brings this to mind really is a lady I met at a AdultFriendFinder party in a home.. a very nice party..She and hubby been married 20 yrs and like so many of us trying to add spice into the life...

But it was so clear she was so uncomfortable with this.I was also a lil nervouse.. My only second home AdultFriendFinder party..I knew the host very well and wanted to support there efforts.. It was a nice party.
Anyways I invited the lady outside to join me for a smoke..She was glad to do so...
We talked and right away she told me " this aint my thing".. She was trying to make hubby happy.

I asked her what made her happy???

she had a list a mile long... her passion was her garden... she got a high from seeing a new bloom she created... her home.. her kids were grown.. she feels sexier then ever..she has been waiting so long for this time in there lives to enjoy just each other.now her hubby wants to go on sex sites and partys and add another woman into there bedroom.. she began to cry...

She told me there is more passion to life then just sex.

Well I do know this.. but I have to be honest it made me think about how many diffrent types of passions I have and what they bring to my life... and If I had to choose one I would have to say doing the Tango... I love to dance. and what it does for me... I just feel so good .. it makes me more of a passonate person and a better person

I asked her if she communicated her passions with her hubby.. her answere "no.. do not want to dissapoint him" grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

So what is your passion... and do you put it second to please your partner? even if this passion brings out the best in you?


under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat



3noangels 58G

3/23/2006 12:05 pm

    Quoting pragmaticCTcpl:
    This is an EXCELLENT blog posting!!!

    I really feel for the other woman in your story. It doesn't take a PHD to realize that relationship is in trouble.

    I have had past relationships like that. Not anymore. It's 50/50.

    My passion is reading.
Sorry, to make any realtionship work best, it must be a 90/10 partnership... You both got to give in 90 percent, and take 10 percent back.. That is true communication, who care if that is equal to 180 percent of giving.. Don't you like our new math??


SacredStarDance

3/22/2006 3:10 pm

lib.. we can def. feel your passion.. thanks

Anacortes.. no kidding.. still learning that myself

3noangels.. this is so true .. thanks.. see you under the stars

prag.. It just goes to show how important communication is... I have made the mistake of not communicating well.. now I just dont shut up until I'm understood.... next I'll learn to listen...lol thanks

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat


pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F

3/22/2006 9:23 am

This is an EXCELLENT blog posting!!!

I really feel for the other woman in your story. It doesn't take a PHD to realize that relationship is in trouble.

I have had past relationships like that. Not anymore. It's 50/50.

My passion is reading.


3noangels 58G

3/21/2006 8:24 pm

Never, ever do anything against your will, it will only fester and become a cancer that you will have to deal with later. If you feel uncomfortable, than say it, communicate with each other, but never compromise your true self.
Love,Peace,Prayers
Sue, Patty, Carol


rm_anacortes 74M
2850 posts
3/21/2006 4:00 pm

I do NOT believe there is any ligitimate act which can be done at the "expense" of another; putting them in 2nd or any other place than on the same plane as the "other"..

Good luck


libgemOH 56M/52F

3/21/2006 2:59 pm

My passions...the people I love, writing, school.

I was the one who gave up everything she ever wanted and everything she ever had to please others.

I am the person I am today because I will not choose 2nd best anymore. Really good post sweetie! -B


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