43 posts
5/13/2006 5:57 am

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9/15/2006 5:53 pm


Ever wondered how you made it home after a night of hard partying? Ever woke up in the morning, naked in bed but you didn't remember taking off your clothes? Ever drove by a serious car accident involving a drunk driver and think that could have been you?

Being 43 there are many times in my life when I've driven home "under the influence" and the next morning I wondered what the hell I was thinking. After these past few hours I know I will never have those thoughts again because I will never let that happen.

I just spent the last 6 hours holding my oldest daughter's hand in the emergency room. I was told that she hit another car, lost control of her vehicle and her SUV flipped 3 times. During the course of the accident two other cars were also wrecked, but their involvement has not yet been determined. The police officer at the scene told us that she smelled of alcohol.

Her SUV is totaled, her face and body bruised and swollen, and her shoulder is broken. Thank God for seat belts, without them I'd be making funeral arrangements today. I'm concerned for my daughter's physical and emotional well being and I know she will face a costly uphill legal battle.

As a parent you never want your kids to suffer and at this point I'm not really sure why I'm posting this other than to get it off my chest, to verbalize this and to try to make sense of a senseless situation.

I'm grateful that no one involved was seriously injured, my daughter had the worst injuries. It was truly heart wrenching to watch her laying there, unable to speak or move, but tears streamed from her eyes when she realized what had happened. She has always been a small petite young lady, but tonight she seemed so small and fragile. I just wanted to hold her in my arms and rock her the way I did when she was five.

As a parent I know you cannot take away the pain, and you don't want to because they have to learn from their own life experiences but I believe.... that you can let them know you love them no matter what and be there for them when they need you the most.

TammyDHU 45F
246 posts
5/13/2006 7:10 am

Thank GOD no lives were lost in this incident. My heart goes out to you as a mother. Hopefully it will serve as a lesson to your daughter, and the rest of us as well.

I lost two high school friends in a horrible ugly tragedy involving a drunk driver almost twenty years ago now, but it still seems like just last night to this day. Five people were involved in that accident and the drunk driver, ironically, was the only survivor.

I remember my two friends every single day, their memory will never be wiped from my mind.

I would say to you: be sure the lines of communication always remain open with her and yourself. Together, you can overcome whatever difficulties lie ahead. She's lucky to have a wonderful loving mother such as yourself!


gspotfinder4her 57M

5/23/2006 8:29 pm

I hope avery one gets better !

Kaliedascope61 41M
4084 posts
5/28/2006 6:55 am

I remember going through something similar with my brother, its tough, and you have to be strong for your whole family.

Otis6 44M
81 posts
6/15/2006 7:25 am

I can relate. It really does make you think. I can't even begin to count the times I have driven home and should not have. I wrecked my Durango on night and flipped it. I was a very sobering experience. I was lucky not to get charged with a DWI, but it still cost me alot of money. This happened almost 3 years ago. I still have bad dreams about it. I wish you luck and a speedy recovery for your daughter.

fun4me6474 56M
111 posts
6/16/2006 9:06 am

i'm very sorry to hear that... been there done that. i hope that everything turns out okay for you guys. our prayers are with you... till then... joe.

rm_kacrab 35M

9/10/2006 9:28 pm

Im sorry to hear what happened to your daughter.. A friend of mine that Ive know since kindergaten died a year ago on sept. 8 in a drunk driving accident. He was in the passenger seat and the driver was smashed and was driving recklessly on the road and ended up crashing in a ditch. My friend was thrown through the windshield and died on the spot. I went out to visit his grve this past friday and his mom was out there and we reminiced about him. Its sad when a parent has to bury their child like that. Like someone said above, I hope your daughter learned her lesson about the dangers of drinking and driving. Take care..

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