What would you do?  

Rubenesque1968 48F
152 posts
4/21/2006 6:46 pm

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8/1/2006 6:03 pm

What would you do?

Hello Readers,

I had started a nice email back and forth between me and another member of this site. I thought things were going well, and I suggested he visit my blog to learn more about me. Low and behold I see that he visited, but he has not written me since then.

It has been five days since his last email to me, and four days since his visit to my blog. We were writing almost every day.

Would you:

1. Write him and ask what happened?

2. Let it go, he obviously wasn't worth it

3. Write and bitch him out for not at least saying goodbye?

I am leaning towards two. We never made it beyond writing each other on AdultFriendFinder. Obviously something in my blog scared him and since it is a deeper look at who I am, he decided I wasn't for him.

Tell me what you think

jd29992z 54M
3888 posts
4/21/2006 10:29 pm

Well I have a situation like that I have been e-mailing chatting with a girl for over a year and then it all stopped for no reason. She lived almost 800 miles away and we had a thing I was almost in love with her we clicked when we chatted we would send chats at the same time to each other saying the same things. Then it just stopped hmmmm well I sent a few e-mails (not mean) just asking WHAT! No answer. So yes you are wise pick number 2 it is not worth it getting mad or asking what happend it will fall on deaf ears and a waist of your time. Stay strong and see you around the blog girl JD

Rubenesque1968 48F

4/22/2006 12:20 am

Thanks for the advice and visiting my blog, JD. I have been leaning towards doing that, but really wanted to know why he stopped after reading my blog. What scared him? I know you don't know the answer to that


saddletrampsk 54F

4/22/2006 1:11 pm

#2 is the best..and get used to it..has happened to me from time to time on here..

You are cordially invited for a sexy hoedown at [post 319220]..hope you can make it Rube..

Rubenesque1968 48F

4/22/2006 4:26 pm

Yes, saddle, I do believe you and jd are right.

hourglasses 47F

4/22/2006 5:09 pm

I guess it depends how interested you are. I would most likely do #1. Of course you may not get an answer. Maybe if there was something that alarmed him, you could explain it.

But then again I recently had someone who stopped writing to me after I sent him a picture (one of the pictures that is actually in my profile, but he can't see it because he's standard). I'm assuming that's why he stopped writing. Normally I would find out ...but I decided it isn't worth knowing.

AndyUnique 68M

4/22/2006 10:25 pm

A similar thing happened to me when I first subscribed here a few years back. I made a date with a woman and after meeting, decided there was no chemistry between us. I guess that I left her hanging but, she never got back to me either to say one way or the other what she thought. Maybe it's best to let sleeping dogs lay and go with #2.

As far as your blog goes, I think of the line by Jack Nicholson in A Few Good Menwhen Tom Cruise asks for the truth. "YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH", was the reply. Your correspodence with this guy may have left him with a false impression of who you REALLY are.

Just my $0.02

rm_gmanmich 49M

4/24/2006 4:58 pm

Maybe the answer is more along the line of:
His wife found out he was on here and simply got caught with his hand in the cookie jar.
Just an option.

Rubenesque1968 48F

5/4/2006 1:38 pm

Andy ~ It is entirely true this guy did not know the whole truth about me. However, most of the stuff I have written here was my past, and although it is a part of who I am, it isn't everything. I believe you are right that he couldn't handle the truth about what has happened to me, or about who he perceives me as being. Thanks for visiting my blog!

gman ~ I believe that could be an option, as well. I have chosen to leave well enough alone and not contact him. Thanks for visiting my blog!


ItalianEagle51 53M
1 post
6/19/2006 7:51 pm


I have read your blogs and cannot find anything that would make him not respond to your emails anymore, you were totally honest in what you have done in your past and that was nice a thing to point out to him. He is not worth your worry there are much better people out there. I would have to say that #2 is your best choice, he will most likely not reply to you. The only thing that I can come up with is that he probably has some hang-ups and like GMAN said maybe his wife caught him or he has some other hang-up. And I agree with ANDY that he "COULDN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH".

Take care, you sound like a really nice and fun person to be with.

Rubenesque1968 48F

7/31/2006 3:45 am

I decided that I would never contact him again. I am glad I made that decision.

Thanks for the compliments and visiting my blog


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