What is up with the men on this site?  

Rubenesque1968 48F
152 posts
11/17/2005 1:06 am

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What is up with the men on this site?

In less than a week, the responses I have received are less than great. Do men actually read your profile before they respond to it? I am not asking for much here, just a few paragraphs.

Thanks for reading,

simlpyfun68 48F
1173 posts
11/17/2005 2:00 am

VERY few bother to get farther than the picture I have found. I think it was stated in one of our discussion threads "Adult Fuck Finder" they advertise join today get laid tonight. I know this is not true from all I have met and talked to several that were decent people, but that is only about 1/50 I am still here for the blogs and the group I am a member of the rest I could really careless anymore.

Hugz n Smiles

kamuelagurl 43F

11/17/2005 2:27 am

Oh , i've given up on men on AdultFriendFinder. Most of them think a little too highly of themselves. When in reality, most of them are not worthy of the attentions from AdultFriendFinder's lovely ladies.

Free sex isn't enough. They want free sex with a Cindy Crawford look alike. Little do they realize, most of them aren't of that calibur themselves.

Let them jerk off for a change. heh

PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
11/17/2005 5:19 am

Most males (I refuse to call them men) on this site make Neanderthals look like attractive mates... if you want to meet decent men, I suggest you use the chat rooms, especially Love Doctors and the European Hot Tub. The interest groups and blogs are also good way to get to know people.

When you subtract the fake profiles meant to lead you to pay sites, the duplicates and the abandoned accounts, men outnumber women by easily 50 to 1 if not more. We get to pick and choose!

Don't lose heart, even though I made a mistake in loving someone I met here, I've also found true friends.


The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

Rubenesque1968 48F

11/17/2005 5:32 am

Simplyfun, That is just sad. I guess my hopes were higher than that. I guess I just have to hope I find that one in fifty.

Kamuelagurl, That is terrible. I am no Cindy Crawford, that is for sure. So, if that is what they are looking for...they should just keep clicking.

bootielover3 55M

11/17/2005 8:31 am

ladies if all the men on here are as bad as you make out why are you here. i have been on this site for about two weeks and i look at the profiles and most if not all the women are just as bad as you accuse the men of being. who are they looking for brad pitt and donald trump rolled into one. i know this sounds bitter but hell i have sent e-mails (a few one liners before i understood that was shallow) all i get back is quick response or no response at all. i am not prefect and did not say i was on my profile and yes i am here to explore my sexuality but a relationship is also a goal. sorry to vent but it does make me feel liberated.

kamuelagurl 43F

11/17/2005 10:17 am

bootielover3, there is more to AdultFriendFinder than just finding men to screw. I enjoy reading blogs, chatting in my states regional chatroom. It's entertainment. That's why I still come here.

Not all men are like that, not all women are gold diggers. I only speak from my experience of some of the males i've interacted with. I think their fantasies of what they would like to have, gets confused with what they deserve to have.

kamuelagurl 43F

11/17/2005 10:23 am

Rubenesque -- You sound like such a nice person. HUGS Don't let the emails get you down. Most of the males here are typing with one hand, the other hand holding their cocks. Just picture that, and get a good laugh whenever you find disappointment. Believe me, IT IS NOT worth allowing your ego or esteem to be bruised.

In my time on AdultFriendFinder, i've met two truly genuine men, who are just unbelievably wonderful. They may not have big ones, or look like "Brad Pitt". But i'd take them ANYDAY over the fabio wannabes.

Stand tall girl!

Rubenesque1968 48F

11/17/2005 8:16 pm

Bootielover3~I never said all the men on here were bad. I just asked if they were reading the profiles. Because based on the mail I was getting, they weren't reading mine. I can understand your frustration. I am not looking for Brad Pitt, nor Donald Trump. However, I am looking for a good man with a great attitude.

Kamuelagurl~Thank you so much HUGS right back to you. I have an open mind going into this, so I should be fine.

Rubenesque1968 48F

11/17/2005 8:20 pm

PK~I just caught your post, sorry I missed it last time. I realize single women are in the majority here. Thanks for the great advice, though.

cars06 55M

11/17/2005 10:07 pm

I am a real man who is looking for more than just sex and I am not the only man here that is. The reason I am on this site is I am tired of dating women outside of this site who are just not as sexually active as any AVERAGE guy would like. This once a week when I have the time BS is not good enough for me. I am forced by women in the real world to date min 3 of them at a time to get what I need. I am looking for someone who gives me back what I give them and moreover WANTS it on a regular basis. Most women are more sexually active when they are in their late teens or early twenties.

I have met manic depresives on medication, met women that are large when they claim to be athletic, started e-mailing with several women back & forth a few times and they dissapear not even saying anything. I feel like sending them a nasty note but I do not, I just move on.

What do us men have to go through trying to just strike up a conversation with most of the women on this site. I have wasted countless hours taking my time to not only read someone's profile, I print it out and go over it several times, and while I am typing a personal message to them, I am refering back to it. It usually takes me 1/2 hr to do so.

What does that effort give me? Most of the time, not even a one second quick reply saying not interested.

You women claim the men don't read your profile in detail but do you women take the time to read ours and have an open mind doing so. I really don't think so.

My name is Vern and I am venting here.

rm_Wkn069 68M

11/18/2005 1:05 am

I linked to AdultFriendFinder from various sites set up by professonal service providers. This is not Friendfinders.com and when I saw some of the profiles here I thought it WAS some kind of site for independent escorts. I know a professional female escort who has a profile here but relies primarily on here own website for customers. She claims all the guys here want it for free. This particular woman (to put it politely) is a BBW with a select paying clientele. I do not happen to be one of her clients and I never would have imagined that there are guys who would pay for her favors but, apparently there are.

The women that I've written to at this site you could count on one hand. It only took a few "not interested" replies or no replies at all to see that I was getting nowhere fast. My letters were not propositions either. I merely wanted to strike up a conversation with very little sexual innuendo and then only if their profile suggested that they were open to a no strings affair. The women in my age group are pretty sparse here but still, I was expecting a hell of a lot better response than I got. I've had women grab my hand and write there phone number on it in the street, give me their phone number after talking at a restaurant counter and have had others invite me over when their husbands were away. They were women I hardly knew and this is supposed to be a site where men and women meet for sex?


Rubenesque1968 48F

11/18/2005 1:40 am


I realize you are venting. I do not agree that most women are more sexually active in their teens or early twenties. I know for a fact that I am more interested in sex now, than I was back then. And, I have friends my age that are more adventurous, and from what I understand, quite sexually active at this point in their lives.

I have yet to meet anyone from this site, but I can see that you have run into some women who are not who they claim to be. But, believe that there are women out there who have run into the same problem. At least, that is what I have been reading since signing up with this site.

I appreciate you and men like you who actually read my profile. I am sorry you have not gotten the results you have wanted since joining AdultFriendFinder. I can only hope things get better for you.

I never said *ALL* men do not read profiles. I was merely commenting on the fact that those who were contacting me did not seem to be reading mine, because it was obvious they were not looking for the same thing as I was. Because, you see, I do read their profile after I read their email.

I realize you were venting, and if you want to use my blog to do so, feel free. But, also realize that every woman out there is not the same.


Rubenesque1968 48F

11/18/2005 7:12 am


I do know that there are people on this site who are escorts, but I have to believe most aren't. I know I am not.

I suppose, if you believe the advertising, you would think it would be simple to get a woman right away. That is not the case. But, if you believed all advertising, I could be about 20 lbs thinner right now, have perfect skin, my clothes would never fade in the wash, etc. I think you get my point.

I do not know what you are doing wrong on here. I couldn't presume to tell you. But, I can tell you what letters have interested me. They were the ones that obviously took time to read my profile, match what criteria I have, and made sure we had some things in common. They wrote a personal note without crudeness, and only a hint of sexual innuendo.

I do know that if you don't hear from a lot of women on this site, you are probably paying for the sins of past men who took it badly when women told them "No, thanks". I figured that one out by reading the magazine and blogs.

Good luck to you

rm_VoodooGuru1 49M
2053 posts
11/24/2005 6:00 am

kamuelagurl - "Let them jerk off for a change."

... for a change?

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