BDSM? Not me  

Rubenesque1968 48F
152 posts
11/28/2005 1:29 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

BDSM? Not me

This is my second time writing this post. My first one is in cyberspace somewhere, so let's hope this one doesn't do the same. Otherwise I am going to think it is a sign that I shouldn't write this one.

I got the following email from a man who was quite a bit above my age range. As a matter of fact, he was between the ages of my father and grandfather had they both still been alive.

From: (name deleted by Rube)

Date: Nov 27, 2005 6:26 PM EST

Subject: Lets get together

I live in Warren and have been into bdsm over 15 years. I have the toys and I know where the clubs and parties are. I can teach you about it and train you in it, so you would learn how much fun you will have in it. You will like and enjoy what I will do to you. You will love what we will do together. You can phone me at (number deleted) ask for (name deleted) or e-mail me back.


So, based on some past emails, I should be glad this guy could at least spell and use proper punctuation. What I can't get by is the fact that he is my senior by over thirty years, he LEAPS to the assumption that I would enjoy the bdsm lifestyle without any supporting evidence, and he gave me his phone number. (which is a no-no that he would know, had he read my profile)

I have said it before this site is about preferences, there is nothing wrong with men his age wanting to meet a woman my age. I just prefer not to see them.

Had he read my whole profile, including the additional questions, he would see that slave/master and things involving pain are on my OFF LIMITS list. Just reading my profile would have given him enough information that he would see I wasn't looking for this kind of relationship. All my talk about romance and chilvary should have been the clue.

Then there was the whole phone number thing. I just don't believe it safe to call someone I don't know. Once they have your phone number, they can find out all kinds of personal information.

The assumptions he made were so off base. He doesn't know me, yet he knows I will enjoy what he does to me. Really? Doubtful. He knows I will love what we do together. Come on, not going to happen.

Question is, how do I respond? He obviously didn't read my profile, or he wouldn't have written to me and definitely wouldn't have given me his phone number. Does he deserve an answer? Should I direct him to ALT? I don't want to be rude, but I am not interested in the least.

Thanks for reading,
Rube


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
11/28/2005 2:39 am

Shall I add him to the knuckledragger list? *hopeful look*

He deserves nothing but your scorn, so reply adequately (how about "I'm looking for someone younger than my grandfather" to put him in his place?) and block him from contacting you again. I also suggest you report him to A F F for sending you his number (you can do it at the bottom of the message page).

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


rm_MustangD6644 51M
1031 posts
11/28/2005 3:00 am

I agree, he obviously had his bdsm goggles on and so couldn't read your profile. This sort of behaviour seems to be almost universal across all sorts of sites and detracts from the experience for others who bother to read profiles and are genuine in their behaviour.

Kick his Arse big time Rubenesque1968


Submsvmisskitty 47F
14 posts
11/28/2005 3:11 am

LOL I had such a giggle OMG Hey just tell the old fart that he probably would have a heart attack over the number of viagras he need to use to keep up with you.
I wouldnt report him I get a old fart here and there and I just ignore them ...................Kitty
Still giggling over the site of him wearing a Dom outfit with his Man tits ......lol


rm_Wkn069 68M

11/28/2005 10:49 pm

I got an unsolicited letter like that in my mail one time. No NOT email...snail mail in my PO Box. Actually, I was kind of flattered that this person would let me know where she lived with a return address but, like you, I'm not and never have been into BDSM. The writer, a female, seemed to be looking for advice that I'm not equipped to answer.

Phone numbers?....Yes, as a female you have to be on the defensive. There is not much chance of somebody attacking somebody like me but, a single girl being contacted by a person advocating pain and degradation as a form of pleasure? If I were you, being rude would be the least of my concerns.

Andy


mrgrimshade 44M

11/29/2005 3:06 am

Rube~

You must remember us poor male slobs can not read profiles without a gold or silver membership...soooo even I can not read whatever witty sexy and playful musings you have in your profile What you could do is to post a profile on your blog, or when you respond, if you even decide to, is include your profile then

Grim


Rubenesque1968 48F

11/30/2005 1:59 pm

PK ~ Is this the knuckledragger on, (I am sorry I cannot remember his name) blog? If so, go right ahead.

Mustang ~ I don't know if he had those goggles on or not, but it annoys the crap out of me. I let him know I wasn't interested.

Sub ~ I just couldn't believe he actually thought I would be interested. I plainly write what ages I am interested in in my profile.

Wkn ~ Wow, in your PO box. That is an interesting way to contact someone about that kind of advice. Yes, I have to be careful. I have a child to protect, too.

Grim ~ Well, this guy had a gold membership, so he had no excuse. But, you gave me a good idea for my next blog, thanks.

Thank you all
Rube


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
11/30/2005 2:53 pm

You mean [blog travelinintexas]' blog? Sure but I mantain a listing, too, for my readers who haven't been to read trav. You can send me Grandpa Munster's handle by this site's mail if you want me to list him

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
11/30/2005 6:15 pm

oops.. travelingintexas

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


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