RogueAgent000 50M
62 posts
4/30/2006 6:30 pm

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6/15/2006 6:43 am


So I have a confession to make...I watch a lot of movies; not adult, but your everyday movies. I can't just watch it once, especially if it's hits home for me. Usually, I end up watching it several times...there's always something I pick up on. What's got me at this moment is having just watched Hitch. (Will Smith, Eva Mendes-digging her!) Hitch does what his name implies, with a twist...he gives the everyday, basic guy the opportunity to develop a relationship with the person they desire...when the woman wouldn't have normally given them the time of day.

Anyway, the whole storyline really had me thinking about how many of us(including myself especially) have a real difficulty in meeting people we can actually connect with; even on a friendship level. What are the basic principals behind actually meeting that certain someone...or are there really any principals...? If you've not seen the movie, it's quite good for a romantic comedy. From the movies perspective, it's the men who aren't given the fair shake, and are overlooked by the women. It certainly goes both ways though...I know several phenomenal women who aren't given a shake and should have been snagged by now.

I know it's important to know what you want, to have standards, principals, guidelines...in short, picky. And believe me...I know all about picky. I've lost out on what would possibly would have been great relationships or at the very least friendships. So at what point do we become less critical...if we do? How many of us play the cynic role...putting up fronts and walls in daily life when we are really hopeless romantics?

Lots of rambling...time to update my license to kill!

absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
5/1/2006 10:26 pm

Well, now this is what I call a really excellent post with some really great questions. I don't think I'm too picky, right now I'm not looking, I'm working on Mac. Mac has a bad habit, she picks men who she shouldn't. Until Mac can get better control of this, she just isn't even going there. I have many walls, walls inside of walls, walls on top of walls. This happens everywhere BUT here, here I can be me. This is pretty much who I'd like to be in real life, but I'm afraid to be. Why? I dunno, I'm really shy in person and this is NOT in person. I am quite possibly the most hopeless romantic to ever type a word on AdultFriendFinder. Mac

rm_mmmgoodnova 106M/106F
1259 posts
5/2/2006 12:19 am

Some people never lose the hypercritical element of their personality. Those are people that probably should best live alone, anyway. Those who open up and allow themselves to meet people they might otherwise not meet can often find love or companionship in surprising places. That said, I'm a big believer in gut instinct, too. If you think that you're really not going to want to have anything but a very brief relationship with someone because of your standards--and your gut tells you they happen to be the hopeless romantic type who's already halfway gone to loving you--better not bruise them by playing with their emotions. That's called being honorable, not being picky.

jdocfunguy 50M

5/2/2006 2:07 am

I don't think I'm picky in who I would choose to be friends or have a relationship with. Like Mac, I'm way to shy to be selective. I enjoy talking to other people if I can just get past "Hello". It sounds like the movie took the perspective from the way society has set the rules. The guys are overlooked because they are the ones that have to do all of the looking. I'm quite certain if a phenomenal woman asked me out, I'd go. Actually, if any woman asked me out I would go, but that's not how the game is played.

There was a woman in the news recently that wrote a book about her experience. She decided for a year to never turn down a date. She went on over 150 dates. She dated professionals and even a homeless guy. She ended up marrying a guy from a different state who was 20 years older and had teenage kids. Not who she would have considered before her experiment. I think when it comes to having standards, principles, guidelines, being picky; we filter out who we should be talking to and focus too tightly on someone who's not the best pick because the pool of candidates is so small. "Can't let this ONE get away!"

By the way, can you introduce me to some of those phenomenal women who just need a fair shake.....

mycin62 54F

5/2/2006 5:12 am

Yup, that's me, putting up walls, but a hopeless romantic at heart. I just wish I could find a guy that felt the same way My husband doesn't have a romantic bone in his body.

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