Aggressive Women  

RedheadedMedStd 34F
1734 posts
11/14/2005 9:30 pm

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Aggressive Women


I was reading a few other blogs that I tend to watch and noticed something on them that you don't see in real life much. Aggressiveness. It's not a bad thing I am one myself. I just am wondering why we seem to get such a bad for it. I mean everyone seems to have this idea of being 'real'. Great! What is it? Does it mean making nice in public and venting to those you know will keep your secrets? Or does it mean being honest almost to a fault at all times? I was in a fight recently with a good guy friend of mine, which no one won, and we both lost. I said everything I needed to say and walked away from a staggering alcoholic of a friend who has serious control issues. He has told me on several occasions when we have been out with his other friends to shut my mouth because I get him into trouble. Case in point, I was conversing with one of his friends at a bar while we were shooting pool and apparently after we left his kinda sorta girlfriend freaked. She thought I was hitting on him! Now I don't know how it looked to an outsider, but I was simply teasing him over a bad shot. I was astonished to have the friend later tell me that none of his friends thought that I should hang out with them. They were offended somehow. Because of this incident, my friend told me to keep quiet whenever I am in public with him and his friends! I'm sorry but after being completely shocked for a solid hour, I reacted. I told him (away from everyone) that I thought that that was rude of his friends and that if they had had a problem with me, they should've told me then and there. He, being drunk and wound up as he was, exploded. He told me that I should never open my mouth in public because I am an embarassment to him. I told him at that moment that I thought that was the most degrading thing he had ever said to me. I couldn't believe that I was hearing this! I believe in the First Amendment and all that it entails. I don't have to agree with someone, and if I don't like what they have to say I can turn around and walk away. Same with anyone who doesn't like what I have to say. I am opnionated, so what! You don't have to agree that's your right. But don't tell me to shut up if I want to say something! I decided right then and there that if I continued to allow this to go on I wouldn't be being myself around him, I would be a 'molded' version of a friend to him. Right then and there I cut ties, I don't care how drunk you are, if you basically tell me never to speak again becasue I am an embarassment then why are you friends with me? The ranting has gone on long enough. I just wanted to spout off in my own little corner of the universe and say to any other woman out there never to let anyone: friend, family member, or significant other command you not to be yourself.

Grasp the freedom of speech and the ability to tell anyone who doesn't like it to shove it!

PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
11/15/2005 1:16 am

Good for you for not putting up with that crap. He's not your friend, he wants a flunky.

Why do men say tyhey love independent women, then try to change them into what they want? Yet they absolutely refuse to change in any way when we ask them to... even if it's a reasonable request that may improve the relationship.

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


BROC817 44M

11/15/2005 8:09 am

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LeninHaverTower 37M
18 posts
11/15/2005 9:47 am

hey, your friend is not your friend, he has issues. You are better off cutting ties and moving on. People like that you don't need to surround yourself with. I"ve met people like that and did not work for me. So, hopefully in the long run, he will realize that he made a mistake cause friends last a lifetime.

john


MillsShipsGayly 51M

11/17/2005 5:49 am

Morgs-

I don't want to go against the grain here but is it possible that a reconciliation of friends could happen here now that the cobwebs of alcohol are gone.

Perhaps if approached right, he might apologize for his offensive remarks. He might even be a tad embarassed so you might have to be gentle.

People do dumbass things. I do... sometimes you prolly do ...

Anyway, I am not saying what he did was right. Just friends are nice to have... even imperfect ones.


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