To Post or Not to Post? (the photo debate)  

rm_Rdwngfn24 45M
599 posts
9/8/2006 10:46 pm

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10/24/2006 9:49 pm

To Post or Not to Post? (the photo debate)


According to AdultFriendFinder's stats profiles with pictures get 10 times more views than those without a picture posted. Of course the main reason why that is the case is because people know what the person potentially looks like, and there is no guessing. So when they view these profiles, there is something about the photo that appeals to them.

When you don't see a picture and you read the profile, you read their description and ultimately form your own mental picture of that person. However, reality very seldom matches the perception. When you finally do get to see the person and they don't match the image you had, you come away disappointed. A perfect example of this is seen in the differences between books and movies. When you read the book and then go see the movie, the movie NEVER lives up to the book. Why is that? Because as you read the book, you develop the mental picture of the action and scenery. The movie uses someone elses vision of the same thing and invariably doesn't match your's. This causes the person to not like the movie as much. This is why most people tend to not look at the profiles without the pictures. You attempt to avoid the disappointment that will inevitably result.

The hypocrisy lays with those of us who choose to only view the profiles with photos posted, but in return fail to post one of our own. If you were to look at my profile, you will notice I don't have any pictures posted. Yet, I found myself more often than not only looking at the profiles with photos posted. Why do I hold the others to such a double standard? For me, it's more of a personal thing. It's not that I am ashamed to show my pictures to others. If someone were to ask me for a photo, I am more then willing to share. My only objection is posting photos of me online where anybody and everybody can can view them without my knowledge. Given the nature of my job, I just don't like taking the risk of not knowing who is looking.

For others, it's the anonymity that they seek. If their pictures aren't listed, then they are able to post more personal aspects of their life in their profile without the feeling of being judged by others. Some wouldn't like the feeling knowing that their neighbor or co-worker might know they enjoy "non-traditional" sexual encounters. This could lead to ridicule, or even the other person thinking they might be able to use that information to their advantage. By not posting a picture on profile, you might get a truer sense of the real person you are viewing, because they are more willing to open up in the profile.

Whether you prefer to view profiles with or without pictures is your own choice. Each has it's pros and cons. However, knowing that a profile with a picture gets viewed 10 times more often than one without, makes you think twice whether or not you want to post one of your own if you are trying to get viewed. Sometimes giving up the anonymity or personal security may be more rewarding in the end.

That's the world according to me on Saturday Sept 9, 2006 at 12:46am CDT.

rm_Want2cusex 48M/50F
43 posts
9/8/2006 11:51 pm

Hmm, We especially agree with your last paragraph.


rm_Rdwngfn24 45M
993 posts
9/10/2006 12:24 am

    Quoting rm_Want2cusex:
    Hmm, We especially agree with your last paragraph.
Thanks, I can be a risk taker at times, but when it comes to the Internet, I prefer to play it cautiously and not post a photo until someone asks.


SexyRycheBabe 44F
820 posts
10/13/2006 7:47 pm

It's all subjective anyway. I mean, even if someone did read my entire profile, they still put their own spin on it, right? Because, I still get offers for quick sex when I've made it clear (I think) that that's not what I'm looking for.


rm_Rdwngfn24 45M
993 posts
10/24/2006 2:50 am

    Quoting SexyRycheBabe:
    It's all subjective anyway. I mean, even if someone did read my entire profile, they still put their own spin on it, right? Because, I still get offers for quick sex when I've made it clear (I think) that that's not what I'm looking for.
True, everything is subjective. People will notice your photo and if they are attracted to you, they will try and contact you. Some won't even look to see what you wrote, because hey if you are on a "sex site", you must be wanting quick, no-strings sex right?


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