Fake It & You'll Break It (The Friendship That Is...)  

RandyMandy85 30F
23 posts
5/27/2006 4:24 am

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Fake It & You'll Break It (The Friendship That Is...)

Who oh why do people have to lie about who they are? In a site like AdultFriendFinder it happens all the time... People posting pictures of other peoples bodies, and claiming them as their own. Damn it pisses me off... I don't have a lot of confidence when it comes to my body, but I'm not to post a picture of Carmen Electra and try to pass it off as myself.

I much rather chat to a guy that is as hairy as a bear and the size of one, who is happy to admit and show this, then to talk to a guy that sends through picture of Josh Hartnet's body and turns out to just be "average".

It is something that really bothers me as it says that you don't respect me, and worse you don't respect yourself.

I recently had this happen to me... I had been chatting to a guy, getting along fabulously, he had emailed me at AdultFriendFinder (along with an extremely hot pic that he claimed as his own), we got along really well and chatted heaps, then he got on webcam one night... no way he could have been the guy in the picture he sent! It didn't worry me that his body wasn't what I'd describe as hot, but the fact we had been chatting for so long and that he kept implying and explicitly saying he looked different did. I would have still chatted to him if he had sent me a photo of the real him, or even if he said he didn't want me to see what he looked like...

Now I don't know what to do... I feel dirty when I talk to him, knowing that he has so blatantly deceived me, when I have been so open and honest. I don't know if I should call him out on his lie, or bring up the topic of people being fake and give him a chance to confess, cause the way it is now, i don't want to talk to him, which is a damn shame cos I like the person he is, or who I thought he was?

How would you handle it? Have you had someone openly lie about their appearance or what they do... etc? How did you react? Or maybe you have lied about how you look and want to justify why?


John O'Reilly hoisted his beer and said, "Here's to spending the rest of me life, between the legs of me wife!" That won him the top prize at the pub for the best toast of the night!

He went home and told his wife, Mary,"I won the prize for the Best toast of the night"

She said, "Aye, did ya now. And what was your toast?"

John said, "Here's to spending the rest of me life, sitting in church beside me wife."

"Oh, that is very nice indeed, John!" Mary said.

The next day, Mary ran into one of John's drinking buddies on the street corner. The man chuckled leeringly and said, "John won the prize the other night at the pub with a toast about you, Mary."

She said, "Aye, he told me, and I was a bit surprised myself. You know, he's only been there twice in the last four years. Once he fell
asleep, and the other time I had to pull him by the ears to make him come."

See lying can bite you in the ass! And don't worry, I'm not always this deep... I'm blonde so it is a rarity!

SleekIcilyVarix 41M

5/27/2006 5:00 am

How to handle it? Hmm. Bite him in the ass. lol..Actually, if you really like him enough to keep him as a friend, I'd confront him. You'll likely never trust him enough for anything else (beyond friendship). If he handles the confrontration with grace and humility, keep him as a friend. If not, there are plenty more guys on here for you to talk to.
Just my two cents. plink plink

rm_LoyalCumpany 46M
3204 posts
5/27/2006 5:07 am

People are going to lie. Why? Hell if I know. They want to sound better than hope you like the personality, and forget all the bullshit they said. Problem is, if they lie about the obvious stuff, what else would they lie about?

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!

smoothnjuicy4u 50F

5/27/2006 7:10 am

Hi Randymandy,

Sounds like a few guys I have ran into on the internet, who knows for sure, in my cases they were hoping for xxx camming, guys looking for that kind of stuff will say anything. If he is one like that, delete him, but if he had different motives I'd simply ask him straight up why he did it, more than likely he's just insecure. Listen to your gut. Good luck and be careful.

Hugs Smooth

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