SEX on the first date...good or bad??  

READY4aRIDER 33F
57 posts
1/10/2006 8:08 pm

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SEX on the first date...good or bad??


If you meet a girl and she sleeps with you on the first date does that make her a slut? Would you think less of her? If she decides to wait on screwing you, how long is a guy willing to wait before they just leave the chick alone?

ACFSPADS 59M
13 posts
1/10/2006 8:58 pm

Its almost a give if you meet on one of these sites for most people. Its why they are here, but no i wouldn't think you a slut if we did on the first date, if the chemistry is right.


nightnsa 48M  
415 posts
1/11/2006 6:56 am

all depends on chemistry


TrueTxGtlman 53M

1/17/2006 7:19 am

It really depends on the couple. I try to follow a rule of no sex on the first date for several reasons. One I want to like the person for more than what they can do in bed. Second I want them to really want to have sex with me and not just doing it because at the time we both were hot and bothered. I don't ever want to be someone's regret.


quazar21 40M
1 post
3/10/2006 6:28 am

i'm sick of the double standard between men and women. if a woman knows what she wants why front. i think we are all sluts in a sense but just have a hard time dealing with the issue because society tells us what we should be. there is nothing sexy than an aggressive woman. i hate woman that won't have sex on the first date (even though they want to) but the second date is cool that's dumb.


EmissionPossible 34M
2 posts
7/18/2006 9:58 pm

I agree with Quazar...although no one should be pressured into sex on a first date, I also believe that many times a woman wants to have sex but represses the desire due to social standards. It's an unjust double standard, guys are no help in ending it, and it hurts us all. Once we put a stop to this, STD's, and unwanted pregancy, the world will be a much better place.


CloudLewisJesus 58M
7 posts
8/2/2006 4:32 pm

We should stop putting so much pressure on the women if she or she doesn't put out on the first date! This is why alot of women are wearing more revealing clothing, so that they can get the attention of men. If they were less pressures, we won't have to be worried of what could of happened! Sex on the first date should be only between the people involved!


craver19812 35M
3 posts
8/14/2006 1:49 pm

Every date is different.Situations are placed at random,and the match of the two personalitys play a huge part.


longandtall512 45M
3 posts
5/10/2008 12:20 am

I think sex on the first date is fine if the chemistry is right. I do not look at women as sluts because women like to have sex just like men do, but society doesnt look at it that way which is bullshit. I actually respect women more who go for what they want. That means they are keeping it real.


bigbrefis 41M/38F

6/26/2008 8:31 pm

In agreement with the consensus here...

Sex on the first date is no different than sex any other time. The thing is, if theres a desire and a spark, and you want to act on it, then act on it.
One thing I have always hated was the "personal rule" of no sex til the Xth date. It's stupid. Why play a game with that other person and lead them on for something that youve already decided you'll do, you just want to hold off for some sense of acceptance.

Personally, I think that if you feel it and you want to act on it, I think MORE of you for knowing what you want and being dominant enough to get it. Like Andre3000 (of OutKast) said:
I don't give a shit about givin it up on the first night
That just let me know she know what she want out of life


Theres examples on both sides of the coin: My daughters mother and I had sex on the first night - neither of us were looking for a relationship and we were both trying to "scratch that itch" and move on. Instead, we connected - clicked - shared a level of intimacy we neither expected. That culminated into a family and long relationship together.

Fact is if you're a good person, then just live your life and embrace your sexuality without falling into social stigmas.


latinmanlookin 43M
9 posts
7/10/2008 6:55 am

I dont see that a girl is a slut if she fucks on the first date..if the attraction is hard, then go for it...but there should be some respect for both of them...because it might lead to a FWB relationship.....


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