I Had To Re-post This............  

QueenofBitches69 46F
1657 posts
8/10/2006 11:48 pm

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I Had To Re-post This............

TRUST......

I had to re-post this cause I am having ISSUES with it as we speak.

Why is it that one person who has broken your TRUST, can fuck it up for everyone else you come in contact with?

Or should I say, in my case several people, make it impossible for you to totally TRUST anyone.

I am sorry to say, and a few will probably question me about this, but I can't 100% with all of my heart TRUST anyone. (Just being honest here)

I have this little voice in the back of my head that tells me "Don't TRUST em"

Just like now, deep in my heart I have this sinking feeling I am not being told the 100% truth about a few things going on in my life.

And when I get a feeling like this is when I start to doubt everyone and even myself.

I want to act on my feelings, but then I second guess myself cause I may be totally wrong. Or I am not wrong at all, and they just cont. to lie and make me feel like I am way off base with my thinking.

I know that someone right now is not being 100% truthful with me.

I tell myself that the people in my life right now are not the same people who have bent me over and ass me with no lube, like the people in my past!

And yes I know it is possible to FORGIVE, but you can never FORGET.

How can you fix it? How can you regain TRUST in others? Is it even possible?


MEL


readytolay_3
(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)
105F

8/11/2006 7:04 am

You would be a FOOL to fully trust anyone. Full trust takes YEARS to develop between two people it's not something that just happens over night but like I said over time. Life teaches us many difficult and different lesson but the most important one is to TRUST in ourselves FIRST and to listen to that little voice within, Its a our guide to be embraced. How you feel Mel is NO different than anyone else forget about regaining trust in others for as long as you can trust your self to see and act on what you see in others, YOU WILL know who to trust and how much to. What You and the rest of us are really working on is the loss of INNOCENCE, when we discover not ever Heart is filled with beauty of the Spirit...Ready

Ready


QueenofBitches69 46F

8/11/2006 9:55 am

readytolay_3--I will e-mail you and give you the heads up!


rm_Ptalk1155 34M
3450 posts
8/11/2006 12:39 pm

I don't trust anyone because the people who most traditionally have felt the need to bend me over and ass me with no lube were the people that I trusted most.

So from my persective, I'm wary of pretty much everyone, including and especially those who I don't think would ever violate my trust.


MrFun794u 43M
49 posts
8/11/2006 2:36 pm

In my life I have learned it takes time to trust anyone, it's not something that happens over night. If your having second thought about anything you should go with your feelings, that's what I do.


wistfuljester 64M

8/11/2006 6:59 pm

I can relate. In my (oh-my-god-I'm-so-old) 54 years, I've had several people reward my trust, and some who broke it. The good news about the latter is that they did teach me what to watch for...lol.

My head tells me I should take each person as a possibly new, positive relationship; my heart tends to argue with my head, from time to time.

Forget? No, we can't. But we must "forgive", in the sense that we let go of the betrayals, because if we don't it will only hurt us--NOT those who betrayed us.

Easier said than done, but I try not to give up.


wistfuljester 64M

8/11/2006 7:00 pm

I can relate. In my (oh-my-god-I'm-so-old) 54 years, I've had several people reward my trust, and some who broke it. The good news about the latter is that they did teach me what to watch for...lol.

My head tells me I should take each person as a possibly new, positive relationship; my heart tends to argue with my head, from time to time.

Forget? No, we can't. But we must "forgive", in the sense that we let go of the betrayals, because if we don't it will only hurt us--NOT those who betrayed us.

Easier said than done, but I try not to give up.


wistfuljester 64M

8/11/2006 7:01 pm

I can relate. In my (oh-my-god-I'm-old) 54 years, I've had several people reward my trust, and some who broke it. The good news about the latter is that they did teach me what to watch for...lol.

My head tells me I should take each person as a possibly new, positive relationship; my heart tends to argue with my head, from time to time.

Forget? No, we can't. But we must "forgive", in the sense that we let go of the betrayals, because if we don't it will only hurt us--NOT those who betrayed us.

Easier said than done, but I try not to give up.


QueenofBitches69 46F

8/11/2006 8:34 pm

Ptalk1155--I hear ya! I really do.

MrFun794u--And that is what I am doing right now!

Dreamseeker1971--My gut tells me I could trust you. Or maybe thats just my hormones!

wistfuljester--When my head and heart argue, my head is usually louder and wins. And most the time it is RIGHT!


uglypoet 51M
148 posts
8/11/2006 9:58 pm

well its about our fear of trusting isnt it, we've walked down that road before and we got hurt along the way and we dont want to go through that pain again...so we shut ourselves out! cheers


QueenofBitches69 46F

8/11/2006 10:24 pm

longhairednikki--That what I am doing.


QueenofBitches69 46F

8/11/2006 10:50 pm

uglypoet--We shut ourselves out and everyone else!


florallei 99F

8/12/2006 9:51 am

Hey Queen,

Babe, you hit it right on...what is it you don't trust about yourself? When you figure that out...you will begin to trust others...being cautious is a good quality...something happened to you when you were young I know and that's where it began...Great posts.
I am the opposite of you...I willingly trust everyone...inspite of my past experience...I need to be more cautious...always a balance is needed, isn't it?
hugs,
flo


QueenofBitches69 46F

8/12/2006 11:17 pm

florallei--I second guess myself about trusting others. I think I do not trust people I should. and I trust people I shouldn't. And yes it is a bad thing to trust everyone!


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