Fantasy ~VS~ Reality.......  

QueenofBitches69 46F
1657 posts
7/30/2006 8:46 am

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Fantasy ~VS~ Reality.......

I really want to hear some of your opinions on this topic.

Some say we live here in a Fantasy world on A.F.F.

fan暗a新y (făn'tə-sē, -zē )
n., pl. -sies.
The creative imagination; unrestrained fancy.
Something, such as an invention.
Fiction characterized by highly fanciful or supernatural elements.
An imagined event or sequence of mental images, such as a daydream, usually fulfilling a wish or psychological need.
An unrealistic or improbable supposition.
Obsolete. A hallucination.
tr.v., -sied, -sy搏ng, -sies.
To imagine; visualize.

So looking at the definition of the word Fantasy, how can it be said that some of us live in a Fantasy world here on A.F.F, if we are actual real people, not just a mental image, or a day dream, who have physically touched others who are members of A.F.F?

I would say those who live in the Fantasy world of A.F.F. are those who have an on line relationship with a fellow member that will never physically meet. Those members that just live with the daydreams, and mental images provided by another member. Or those people who provide a Fantasy type image of themselves to other members, to be something that they are not.

re戢l搏暗y (rē-ăl'ĭ-tē )
n., pl. -ties.
The quality or state of being actual or true.
One, such as a person, an entity, or an event, that is actual.

So those who say that most of us who are on this site live in a Fantasy world, would mean that when I have physically touched and experienced a physical relationship with another person with whom I have met from this site is not real,not reality?

And those who say that us members of A.F.F do not have LIVES, All I have to say to them is I have a life, just because I am on my computer a few hours out of a day, does not by any means, mean I do not have a life. There are several members on this site that are a big part of my life! So does that make me pathetic, that I have friends? Cause the last time I checked having friends was a good thing no matter where they are from.

But while people are sitting back and judging about others on line activities, sit back and think about it for a minute.......

Where are you sitting right now reading this? (At your computer?) And where were you when you sat and wrote on your blog or profile?(At your computer?) And in what state do most of your blogging friends live, the ones you visit daily and call friends?(Not in your home state?) HUH, seems to me the judge is in the same spot as those he has judged.

And if one member is told that they do not have a life and that they live in a Fantasy world, then that same person doing the attacking, is attacking several members of A.F.F, because I am not the only one on this site, several share my daily activities. So you attack one, you attack many! (Even some of your own "friends".)

But thats just my opinion, so let me hear yours.


druidrocker 62F

7/30/2006 10:28 am

can I ask everybody to take step back - long cleansing breath - breath deep and let it go

for crying out loud - who are any of us to judge each other

this site is here to serve a purpose

are you getting your needs meet

if you are not - then change your approach or decide it is not worth it and move on to another place

getting all nasty and pushing negativity after negativity is not worth the energy and brings nothing of value to anybody

far be it from me to "pimp" my blog but I wrote about this kind of thing in the magazine section - it's about playground bullies

if I were the kind to let it rip I most likely would say - Fucking get over it and grow the fuck up !

is the egotistical grandstanding and harping getting you any satisfaction - if the answerer is yes - then I suggest you reconsider your life and decide if you enjoy living in the negative

I strongly suggest the positive. It has soo much more to offer and you may actually find that life is much more enjoyable.

curiousinlorain7 59F

7/30/2006 11:04 am

I saw you in the slots and i've read some of your things before, but today i am 'slot jumping' going to different blogs than my normal ones. Going to blogs that are highlighted in the slots and trying to leave a comment. You are very well written. I agree with what you have written. I've met people on this site and others that have been REAL friends... and I would not give that up for anything. Thanks for just being able to do a much better job of putting it in words, words that make sense, than I am

goodguysneedit2 56M

7/30/2006 12:28 pm

Hmmm....Why do I feel guilty here? LOL

I think there is a helluva lot of fantasy brewing that goes on here, I know I've played a part in it willingly many times. It can get pretty hot actually.

What I found,(for me anyway),is that it really got me wrapped up with somebody and thoughts of them which were really not supported by anything other than the sharing of selfish desires that were not headed anywhere else, so it all seemed a bit hollow after a while. Fun,intoxicating,friendly...but I feel like I ran out of gas towards that. Some people sign up ONLY to share fantasies. Pretty wild,really.

Am I guilty of fantasizing about an elephant in a red bikini? can bet your ass on it. Has that elephant fantasized about me?...I dunno! Would shared fantasies result in a reality?...have no clue.
I know she's a fun blogger with a killer bod and a smokin'attitude.

Most of my complaints on my blog are about local women who hide in the fucking shadows and want to email you for months before sending a fucking photo,or seem to get off on getting you all worked-up and eager about meeting--only to then disappear. Some get pissed when you demand a photo after about 10 emails,although you've made yourself available in that manner long ago,and they claim you are only after "one thing".
It's these women who live the most dangerous of fantasies...the fantasy that I give a shit!...LOL

angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
7/30/2006 12:52 pm

Great post Mel! Yes, there is fantasy in this place. But we all need to dream a little, don't we? And we are REAL people living REAL lives. I suppose there are some who are completely obsessed with this site....but they are probably obsessed with things in their real life too.

willing2tryit42 40M
1141 posts
7/30/2006 1:48 pm

HUH?? My fantasy is disappearing....... I cant see my hands!!! I'll duck now if thats ok..........

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
7/30/2006 3:09 pm

This is a great post.

It is still a reality that these people exist, and we are making contact with them. Of course some of the stories are fantasy, so what. Thats what good fiction is made up of.

QueenofBitches69 46F

7/30/2006 4:11 pm

saintlianna--Thank You! It gets on my last nerve when people treat being on line as if it is a made up lala land! Cause if most of this shit is made up, OOOOOOOOMY it felt GOOD!

willing2tryit42--Hey, while your DUCKING, and your DOWN THERE, I got something you could do!

angelofmercy5--I just don't like for people to degrade me for being on this site, and having real friends and making a life with my real friends and love from this site!

goodguysneedit2--The Elephant in the Red bikini has spoke to you on the phone before, and you know the Elephant in the Red bikini would really like to be really real with you.

curiousinlorain7--I think I got a brain cramp writing it! lol, I read it back to myself over and over til it sounded like I wasn't just a blubbering idiot! And Thank you!

druidrocker--Your right! Now lets see if people listen! I do not go to the magazine section.

SensuallyKatey--Thats a good question! I love these on line people who are my friends for who they are. I have connected with them off line as well as on line! They are as real to me, as I am to myself.

QueenofBitches69 46F

7/30/2006 9:52 pm

fun1968xxx--The only reason I posted this is because I have been bashed over and over again about living in the fantasy world of A.F.F. Even though everyone I have been in contact with on here I speak on the phone to or have meet in the really real world! I am pretty sure the hundreds of orgasms I have felt are pretty fucking real! I was not hallucinating! lol
Even when I did all my chatting on AOL people still said it is not like having real friends! I have argued this point for the last year or so since I have had my computer.

rm_Ptalk1155 34M
3450 posts
7/31/2006 11:16 am

Well, it's more of a psuedo-reality. Certainly there's far too much drama created here for it to be simply a fantasyland. But it isn't quite "real life" either.

QueenofBitches69 46F

7/31/2006 8:58 pm

Ptalk1155--Well, right now someone is tryin to fuck my reality with their fantasies!

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