The adventure of the familiar  

Queen_Of_Wands 45F
228 posts
6/10/2006 2:04 am

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6/12/2006 9:33 am

The adventure of the familiar

It's interesting to see so many perspectives on sex here, from the relationship-oriented like myself to the truly casual. Doesn't matter to me what people do as long as they're honest about it..marrieds should say they are, people should have one profile not 50 trillion, and the profile they do have should be truthful and as complete as the writer is comfortable with being.

I'm never quite certain in my mind that people can have no strings sex - it's the AdultFriendFinder grail quest most here are engaged in. To me, we're human; our emotions are integral to us and I don't see how they can be dropped at the bedroom door like discarded knickers. If someone fucks hundreds, sure, they'll get plenty of experience but they'll also lose something along the way..they keep nothing back for that one special person they may meet. Everyone's had everything of them so the dew's long gone off the petals. It also seems a lot of effort to keep starting over with new people all the time, like never progressing from learning the alphabet to actually learning to read.

Maybe that's just me, and provided no one gets emotionally upset by sportfucking I'm not really bothered. It's all very well to get your rocks off but a little emotional intelligence in the mix goes a hell of a long way.

Sexual tourists occasionally do bother me though - all these couples wanting a bi female for example. Which of them actually wants the spare female - the guy or the woman? Is she there as a toy just for them, in which case what's in it for her if she's ultimately disposable come daylight? And why is it that these couples rarely seek a bi male? If being bi is a genuine state of sexuality then logic suggests that bi males and bi females must exist in roughly equal numbers so where are they all?

I'm not sure being bi is a genuine sexual preference, I think it's just a pastime for the sexually unfulfilled and if you're unfulfilled by your partner then you might as well move on from them. Being straight, gay or lesbian is real as that's how people are wired and what our bodies draw us to..another body comfortingly like our own or a body that has the appeal and excitement of otherness. It's not about boredom, bad sex or eye candy.

A lot of people come here, seduced by the advertising, and buy into the myth of the adventure of the new. For myself, I'm more than happy with the adventure of the familiar



MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
6/10/2006 3:34 am

An old friend of mine who used to be on the site took bisexual off her profile after her second encounter with a couple and listed herself as straight. Why? Because in both cases, it was about them, not her. She was nothing but a performer for the night. She got nothing out of it and both times, was dismissed after getting the wife off. In both cases, these bicurious wives did nothing but lay there, while she did all the work. She went home frustrated both times and said never again.


puntachueca 105M

6/10/2006 4:46 am

You nailed it. Great post!!


haversack_smith 40M
6192 posts
6/10/2006 5:51 am

There are quite a few couples interested in bi males, if you look hard enough. You're right though, I think for most of these people being "bi" is just actually "I don't mind getting it on with the same sex, it can be fun" and not "I fancy people of the same sex". But still, each to their own.


expatbrit49 62M

6/10/2006 4:47 pm

Have to say that I agree on the no strings sex, while its certainly possible to have one night stands anything more has to have an emotional attachment of some kind.

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_Safira 53F
11260 posts
6/11/2006 9:45 pm

As I've always said, if you're going to have sex with me there's going to be AT LEAST a thread attached. If you cannot handle a friendship with me ... you most assuredly cannot handle the sex!

Good post!


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