In all fairness to those who appear in this blog  

QueenLil 71F
40 posts
2/2/2006 10:49 am

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6/26/2006 8:04 pm

In all fairness to those who appear in this blog

Its a sad thing when those of us who are grandmothers or old enough to be blessed... or not.. have not been able to take comfort from the things we have achieved in life.. but rather have to show our insecurites and base our self worth on the number of men one can steal from another woman in a chatroom.

I learned long ago to value the fellowship of my women friends.. Men only want to grab your ass... and women will help you save your ass... at least on this site.. lol.. the part about the men that is..

I no longer view other women as the competion, as I am no longer that insecure 15 year old girl I once was who had been taught that without a man I am nothing. My true self esteem comes today, not from the man on my arm.. the amount of money in my bank account or certificates on the wall or designer clothes.or having to be the center of attention in a chat room..( full of folks who more than likely I will never meet.)

Instead, my self worth comes from within, knowing I am the best I can today, even when I fall short of my goals and while I may be a self styled reclusive eccentric grouchy old woman at times.. I am still a loving person and cheer when something good happens to someone else instead of grumbling " why them.. why not me?"

If another woman can make a connection with a man she meets on the net, I wish them both luck and say a prayer that it turns out the way they want it to, instead of grey messaging the man to tell him what a bitch she is. or sending out emails on the sly..

I have come to see, that what a person is truely like in real life is distorted on the net. It seems that the good qualities just simply lay there waiting and hoping to be discovered...... while the spitefulness, the vindicativness.. the insecurities.. all seem to double and triple.

My life has been a slow evolution.. I did not just wake up and decide to be all knowing and wonderful.. .It took years of the same thing it takes the rest of us.. Heartache.. dissapointment.. grief..and the steadfast resolve to rise above it and persevere.

.Even in the four years of chatting here, I have evolved from one who had a profile handle touting my bust size and posting nude pictures willy nilly to one of a woman who finally knows what she wants and does not want in her life and refuses to settle for anything less.

As I go into my autumn years, I strive to be more understanding and compassionate ... However, since I am not Ghandi..I will constantly fall short..but hopefully not as often as I used to.

c2u_nurse_again 69F

2/2/2006 11:39 am


rm_songbird5419 62F
305 posts
2/2/2006 9:49 pm

Lil...I'm about where you are these days. I'm reconnecting with some college girlfriends in a couple of weeks...3 of us (1 of whom is flying to MA from southern IN) are going down to the Big Apple to meet the 4th member of the fearsome foursome from the Indiana University School of Music...class of 1978...or thereabouts!!! We're all getting to that 50s place where we wanna reconnect with people who are dear to us. I'm so excited about this....maybe even more excited than about my Mexico trip in March to reconnect with my Seattle sweety I met over Labor Day weekend!!! Life is good...and it gets better every day...and each day we're on this side of the grass is a good day!!

If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.

rm_rovtype4 69M
2 posts
3/5/2006 8:29 am

I had to read the profile twice, it was that amazing! Lil, that was beautiful! When I got to the comment by you about the "tongue in cheek," I almost fell out of my chair laughing! I wonder how many of the morons never picked up on it? You keep up the good work and continue to enjoy life to the fullest. The morons will be here forever unfortunately, they breed like rabbits and most of them voted for the main moron. I think you are a beautiful lady and if the Red River ever flows to Houston, look me up please.


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