Treat them like CRAP!  

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F
1147 posts
10/11/2005 11:33 am

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Treat them like CRAP!


Song of the day: You’ve Lost That Lovin Feeling ‒ Righteous Brothers

It seems odd how after a while we start to take advantage of those we love, consciously or other wise.

We seem to stop asking our loved one what they want. We often assume consent for what we want and forget what they want. Maybe we do worse and assume we know what they want or need.

Consent:
The only difference between a crime and friendly act is consent. Such as you can have sex with someone 100 times, but if they say NO that 101st time, and you continue, you have committed a crime. If they say sure take my stereo for the day, no crime. Walk in and just take it, you have stolen it. Going through their things, (kids who might be doing something harmful are excluded, or if someone forgot to leave something out for you, or similar instance) is not respecting privacy. If you have to go through their things to spy, why live with them? We often forget we are living with a person with rights, and it is part of our duty as one who loves them to protect those rights.

Courtesy:
We often forget the “social niceties” with our family and loved ones. Saying please and thank you, offering to help with their chores now and them. Not interrupting and listening and giving feedback and acknowledgement to what they say. Telling them that you Love/Adore and appreciate what they do for you. Out of the blue just telling them you appreciate them just for being them! It is easy to get drawn into the day-to-day grind, but that day-to-day grind can grind down your relationship.

Respect:
It is impossible to be around someone, and NOT have them do something you totally disagree with. The worst thing you can do is start talking behind his/her back to his/her friends or extended family. You often have to agree to disagree, but dramatizing is the worst thing you can do. A trusted friend who you know keep things confidential can be a great help with new perspective, but to blab and belittle to everyone will bite you in the ass. Don’t give up your integrity in everyone eyes over a disagreement. Speak with courtesy about your loved ones, and demand others do likewise. Your at home problems belong there, don’t air dirty laundry.

Hopefully everyone here is not guilty of treating loved ones like crap. Funny how once we are secure in a relationship, we seem to move on to other things. We are strange creatures to devalue those we love the most, need the most, and want the most. The people in your life were let in for a reason, and if you want them to be their best, give your best to them.

Have a great day, and thanks for stopping by!

rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
10/11/2005 5:25 pm

Consent
Courtesy
Respect

three simple words that can mean everything

thanks P&S

i put the words on a post-it so i will see them often


S'io credesse che mia risposta fosse
A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,
Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.
Ma perciocche giammai di questo fondo
Non torno vivo alcun, s'i'odo il vero,
Senza tema d'infamia ti rispondo
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~Dante~


ExploreMore4Me 59F

10/11/2005 6:43 pm

Okay My friend...I'm thoroughly convinced after this blog post that you need to come and help faciliate my workshops and seminars! Tell Bekka I'm relieving you from "House Dad" duties for a couple of months! Give her a hug for me and tell her I'll return you safely! **WINK ...WINK**

Great Post! Another fine representation from a great mind!

Hugs & Kisses My Friend!

EM4M


FunandFrisky79 41M/37F

10/11/2005 7:57 pm

P&S- Very well put! It is very easy to take loved ones for granted. I've been guilty of it in the past. But, I'm smart (& mature) enough now to think before I act (well, most of the time. lol).

As I've said before, I always make it a point to say "I love you" & "I appreciate you". I refuse to go to bed angry for a couple reasons... For one, I never want my loved ones to feel unappreciated. And, the second (& main) reason is because you never know what could happen. And, I wouldn't be able to live with myself if something did happen & they didn't know how I felt.

Relationships are a two-way street. Both parties have to give a little in order to get a little. And, you should always respect & cherish your significant others. (Remember the Golden Rule?)

Like you said, you let them into your life for a reason. (Just as they let you into theirs). But, that doesn't mean they're going to stay. Who wants to stay with someone who treats them like crap? I know, I don't!

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Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

10/11/2005 9:26 pm

Luke you are a cool guy, even with a bow tie hahah


Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

10/12/2005 9:35 am

Hello EM4M
Thanks for dropping by. Me facilitate a seminar? You make it sound like I am dynamic and interesting. ROFL I would love to accomplish something professional! holding patterns suck!

Hey my Frisky Friend

You are very wise to make sure you all are secure in your relationship before ending the day! You are smart considerate and cute...thats it I am going to clone you! Then I have have a bunch of yous all over the place And for the record your friendship is appreciated! neener neener!


AltumHunksUnite 53M

10/12/2005 12:30 pm

A great friend who is no longer on this earth was always fond of saying "Today, make an effort to tell the people in your lives that you love them, because tomorrow you might not have the opportunity to tell them."

Let me drive. I like the view


rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
10/14/2005 11:21 am

Man, can I relate to the courtesy one. Once I caught myself snarling at my kid in a store for no real reason, right before I turned around to a stranger who bumped me with her stupid cart, to assure her, in a politeness bordering on obsequious, that it was not a problem at all. I've tried to clean up my act regarding that. But I am still victim to overly long run on sentences

Good post!

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


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