She says, He says,  

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F
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7/14/2005 11:46 am

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She says, He says,

Song of the day: bring me back to life evanescence

DISCLAIMER: I am not a Chauvinist pig who thinks women are only sex objects, or domestic servants. She is not a feminist nazi hell bent on castrating every male. However got into a discussion and friendly disagreement last night.

After we went to bed last night Rebekka was ticked-off because her “monthly moon cycle” as strategically positioned itself to successfully interfere with her anniversary weekend, and the following weekend when we were wanting to her new boyfriend to “visit.”

She basically said guys have it so lucky because we do not have to be “icky” for a week to ten days per month, we can just do it any time we want.

I countered by saying no, women are lucky because they can have sex at will. That was met with a cross look. I explained, right now she could walk into the bar down the street, and I bet you could be taken home in less than two hours. I could not, being a guy. Run an ad on the internet, you will be over ran with ads, even if you said married on the sly. If I ran an ad saying I am married dating on the sly nothing, maybe pay for porn sites, or some self righteous person telling me off for cheating on my spouse. IF you were a bi female, you could stay in bed and never leave. Most guys do not mind taking her at “that time” of the month. Shower after anyways, what’s the big deal?

Her reply was, well so many creeps, (haha been a while since I heard the term creep haha, enough digress) she said even if their 15 guys per woman on the internet, only one or two are worth a damn, look at the problems we have with weirdoes. Guys do not get pregnant, nobody thinks a guy is skanky if he flaunts his exploits.

I told her also personally she has an advantage over me. Which drew another look. I explained that her “fetish” that rocks her world could be easily supplied. You think if I was out dating, and when I drop the “hot wife bomb” I will be single for a long long time. She tried to tell me that guys with an education, a job, and are excellent with kids are few and far between? Also if the little secret I have was out more women actually be attracted to me because she could be sexually liberated. Her coworker’s hubbies drive them nuts, and listed some things husbands are guilty of. I am like "a woman has more affair options," she did not agree at all. Most my guy buddies are great family men? Family men are more common than not. She says I am using Internet site numbers not real life numbers. There are more women than men in the US, so she rests her case.

So anyways we agreed we are glad to be together, but agreed to disagree as to which gender has the advantage when it comes to sex. Most think it all balances in the end, but at times we wonder, what do you folks think? One gender has an advantage over another?

bigredeatsbush 51M/50F

7/14/2005 9:34 pm

Sorry for the rough anniversary, but thought provoking none the less. As a guy, I must side with the guys. I think one of the things that makes a "good man" is having a "good woman" in their life. So it goes back and forth. I would have to agree that the internet numbers are slanted, but out on the real streets most women are looking for one thing while men are looking for another. This webcite caters to "what boys like". You are a lucky man if your woman is interested in this webcite. I would have to say in general if you just want sex, it's easier to be a woman (if I was a woman I would probably die of starvation while playing with myself). But, it is a pain-staking process for either sex when romance and family are added into the equation.
Now, I think the real argument centered around "that time of the month". From the little bit of experience I have had in that area, I would have to say that things are only really messy for about 2-3 days, and the rest is pretty much tolerable. I'm not interested in oral stuff during that time, but the rest of the body washes off pretty easily. Infact, with careful hand placement, you can get off without any mess. So, I say the female hormones are exaggerating things a bit. But, these are times for the man to be sympathetic, not philosophic. So, happy anniversary again, and "Get Well Soon" to Becky.

hourglasses 47F

7/15/2005 4:21 am

Look at it this way ... when you have sex, you are almost guarenteed an orgasm. We are not. I'd rather not have sex at all if its not going to be satisfying. So I think that evens things out.

It may be easier for us to get sex, just not good sex.

bigredeatsbush 51M/50F

7/15/2005 7:07 am

OK, that's a good point I have to agree. I prefer to "keep at it" until my partner has a good orgasm, even if it take 3 or 4 orgasms from me to get the job done. Still, the female orgasm is never a given, it just requires a whole lot more "mood" than a guy. So that is one of the best arguments I have heard on the who's got it better argument.

Apolybear 54M

7/15/2005 8:16 am

P&S, notice the dialogue. You're talking sex and she's talking friend, provider, father... Mars and Venus, Mars and Venus...

Apolybear 54M

7/15/2005 11:49 am

Oh, I also think Hourglasses makes an excellent point. If women could get good sex as easily as they could get sex, I shudder to think how things would

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/15/2005 1:14 pm

You know Hourglass and Bear, Again yeah, seduce her mind, and the rest will follow.

How do women know in the first few seconds if a guy is a good lover or not? Bekka says "woman's intuition" arrrgg that is no help hahaah.

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/15/2005 8:22 pm

Big Red you must be in marathon shape, and laugh at the face of cialis

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/16/2005 12:32 pm


I managed to hold a debate with ladies and sex, and none of the women used the pregnancy trump card. Can't argue against a rug rat kicking you for three months.

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