Persistence, and stuff..  

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F
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9/21/2005 11:14 am

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Persistence, and stuff..

Song of the Day: Tub Thumping ‒ Chumba Wumba

Persistence and Successful Ambitions

Ever start a project all fired up, then as the day-to-day grind of it occurs the passion fades, the value of the accomplishment fades, and then you just say “hell with it all” Then move on?

Here are some keep on track ideas, they seem obvious when considered. How often are they really employed though?

Big Picture:
Always start with the end in mind. How will the project look when done? How will you look when you lost weight? How will you feel when you complete a task? Success is a wonderful feeling, and best of all it is contagious. Be a bit vain, make yourself a T-shirt that says, “I lost ten pounds.” To make that statement true, guess what you have to do now? We often look at the narrow and forget the big picture, why win a battle and lose the war?

Set goals in step-by-step phases:
This seems obvious, but how daunting does losing 100 LBS sound? How over whelming does building a house by yourself sound? Getting a degree? Paying off debts? Consider this, can you reach up 20 feet, no, but that step by step ladder sure makes it possible to reach that high. Ancient Egyptians build pyramids one block at a time, solid foundation, then higher and higher, the details came last. It is the same with your goal step by step each builds on the other. Do set a reward for honest completion of each step. Map it! The road to success is paved with good intentions, but don’t lose that map!

Set a time table:
You do not have to adhere to a timetable like a NAZI, but it must be a guideline for progress. Obviously do not sacrifice the quality of each step, but always target a reasonable time. No timetable for each step is a prime excuse for losing focus. Your daily goal, weekly, monthly, quarterly, ect a reasonable but challenging time table is your goal here.

Make the goal part of your daily life.
The only way to make a change is to make the “new you” part of everyday life. I often hear people make unrealistic accommodations for exercise. If a person gets up at 9am each day, they are not going to suddenly be getting up at 5am to go running. After a week or so of that, it ends, rare cases excluded. For this person an after dinner walk/jog is more feasible. Personal example, a client said she could not find time to work out, but listened to a radio program daily at 6pm, and her family did not bug her during this time either… Bingo, they invented headphones, you can listen and move at the same time. So her walk/ride became part of her life, and her blood pressure concern began to fade. The project or goal will have to become an unavoidable part of your daily life, or it does not happen. We are what we do, don’t be another “under achiever.”

Seek support:
Your family can make or break projects. Let them know of your plans and how they can help, or if you are among a bunch of dysfunctional fools that hate it when you succeed, remove them from the equation. If they will not help you succeed in a worthy goal and do things to block your success, such as ridicule, or deny your “me time” that shows major problems and is beyond my scope. Clubs, are a big help, you are on this Internet site now I am sure you can find or create a club of like minds. Having a buddy to work with you and to answer to make success more likely.

Captains log:
Yes chart and log your daily activity/action, and progress. This is an excellent personal and professional tool. An honest log can show where you excel and where you might want to focus more energy. Doctors do not keep records to take up paper. Personal example is people on an exercise program for more than six month will often start to fall into the cardio or weight lifter preference. They enjoy one more, and do it at the expense of the other. While I can’t/won’t stop a body in motion, we can redirect motion to better balance, for a better body. Your chart is your logs of a quest why not enjoy the saga? Your journey, your life, you choose the ending.

Balance:
Often the initial success will draw a lot of personal attention and satisfaction. Soon the project becomes life. You them burn out and quit, or your other responsibilities begin to suffer. Nice trap, don’t fall for it.

Remove temptation:
Often for people needing weight loss this involves a trashcan/charity box and their food cupboard. No doughnuts handy, but an apple is staring at them, odd go up of a good choice. New non-smokers, have gum handy when you hang with smoking friends. Fast food places offer side salads now.

Rome wasn’t build in a day:
If you mess up and fall off the wagon, start where you left off, and continue. This is one change in a lifetime full of change. If you do not repeat mistakes you have no choice but to improve. A balanced reasonable program added to your determination.

Finally-COMMIT!
Just decide to do it, and do it! Come hell, high water, or ugly people! No doctor/coach/mentor/counselor can do anything for you if you do not meet them half way. Any professional can write wonderful programs, but programs are useless on paper! I can negotiate, bitch, moan, kick butt and chase you with a stick, but if you decide you will not succeed, well then it is over right now! Can I just call you Homer Simpson from here on? No! Well then be a quitter next lifetime, you have much to achieve this lifetime!
The first thing any mentor will do is take you right out of your comfort zone! Why not? Your comfort zone was not working, that is why you are seeking change! No hero was ever made hanging out in his/her comfort zone! Be a hero to yourself, and be Nike and “Just do it!”

Best wishes


rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
9/21/2005 5:19 pm

Mmmn ... comfort zone ... soo comfy


S'io credesse che mia risposta fosse
A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,
Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.
Ma perciocche giammai di questo fondo
Non torno vivo alcun, s'i'odo il vero,
Senza tema d'infamia ti rispondo
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~Dante~


bigredeatsbush 51M/50F

9/21/2005 9:11 pm

Good advice, I am getting back on the "fitness wagon" after taking a sabbatical this summer. I also have a number of projects at home that need more attention, maybe I will start the log you suggest for them. Thanks for the idea!


Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

9/22/2005 11:34 am

Hey Luke!
Yes comfortzone is comfy! I like my comfortzone too, !

Red:
Oh those "honey do" projects. If I ever completed all of mine I have no idea what I would do then?


FunandFrisky79 41M/37F

9/22/2005 5:03 pm

P&S- Great advice!

Btw, I LOVE Salvador Dali! "The Persistence of Memory" is one of my favorites! Good choice!!

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Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

9/23/2005 12:52 pm

Hey again F&F

I loved thsi picture too, even as a silly country boy growing up in the sticks, yeee hawww!


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