Paradise lost?  

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F
1147 posts
7/4/2005 5:54 pm

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Paradise lost?

Song of the day: Good Bye Yellow Brick Road-Elton John

When asked what I would do if I won the lottery. I give the generic answers to those “normal world” friends who have no clue we visit this site.

But if I really won what I would consider doing is starting my/our own poly community. Would start an S-corporation or LLC where all of the community or family are members, and have equal vote.

I/we would build an apartment complex with 8 to 10 units. Each would have their own apartment where they can live with their primary family. Of course there would be a cardio room, weight room, pool, rec room with darts billiards/pool, foosball, tennis video games ect ect. After the bills are paid with the interest/investment money each would get a monthly stipend. Oh a biggie the community would provide all members with health insurance.

All the community would ask in return is poly fidelity, active participation in the community, and follow the rules, dispute resolutions, ect. Each person could be free to pursue education, charity work, political work , career in arts, ect, or just be a member of our group. You would have emotional support as having 8 to 10 “brothers” “sisters” “lovers” ect. Each could be unique and valued individual, something not offered very often in the real world. Would never be lonely, you hear so many who are lonely but never alone. No abuse, no being made to feel inadequate, just be you, and let everyone enjoy you.

Have been web researching this for 5 or so years, reading web pages of other poly folks. Seems they have more problems than swingers have. You would think that raising children with several supportive “aunts/uncles” would be of great value. But I doubt Child Services would be as agreeable. Why, because the members do have sex with each other. Society would assume there are nightly orgies in front of children. Geez not following the traditional path must mean a lack of ethics!

Then of course reality kicks in. Swingers have a lot of problems finding good “casual sex” partners. With a poly set up there is money involved, responsibilities. Daily maintenance on the dwellings, and daily maintenance for the members, and this is work. It would only take one drama king/queen to splinter the group. With the legal powers of equal partners, the checks and balances could skew, and the group destroyed at the jollies of one. One lawsuit could bankrupt the group, then all are out in the street. Yes we could use means to protect the resources of the group, but still the damage is done, even if an emotional attack does not ruin the money, the spirit of the group could die. Of course even with access to 8 to 10 lovers, somebody would “cheat” on the group, and do as much damage as possible. Like give everyone some stupid disease, a cheated on spouse reports to the government, ect.

I do not know if this would work. Even with a statement of purpose, and a type of “constitution” for the group, I just fear it would be ruined. I would not want to create a self-fulfilling prophecy, I do try to balance pessimism with optimism. I would be glad to share my good fortune with others of like minds. But for some of us to work so hard to build something, so it can be destroyed by the few? That is the history of mankind.
What do you think can it work?

mi_mwpm 51M

7/4/2005 9:16 pm

Could it work... maybe. Would it.. not likely, for the very reasons you've already stated. You'd probably also find yourselves tagged as a cult since they seem to be the only ones perceived to have poly arrangements.

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/5/2005 10:37 am

Humm a cult that never crossed my mind. WIth the "cults" in north IDaho, and Utah, thye do look for this type of thing. Would have to get a boat and live on the open sea I guess? Find an island? Oh well is a nice thought anyway

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
7/5/2005 1:23 pm

I think this could work as a communal living arrangement but with less members and without the sex.

Limit yourself to $1 a week on those lotto tickets

Apolybear 54M

7/6/2005 12:46 am

I think it could work, but not in American society. That whole "cult" mentality and prevailing religious fundamentalism would be significant roadblocks to any poly community's success.

JF and HB echo my sentiments too.

Anthropologists have documented many poly cultures throughout time. Human's are definitately non-monogamous as long as they're not conditioned, or pressured to be monogamous.

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/6/2005 9:57 am

Well Jayr-No members and no sex, then it might work hahaha Dont worry dont play lotto that much.

Bear- Yes have to agree the powers that be would do everything they could to destroy the community for "our own good." gurrr thought the inquisition was gone.

Apolybear 54M

7/8/2005 8:08 pm

Another thought. If gays and lesbians are being denied the rights of marriage, could you imagine what the reaction will be when polys come forward?

If you have your heart set on a poly community, I'd pool resources, buy an island somewhere and declare yourself a sovergn nation. Then, make polyamory legal. Just a thought...

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