Help or Hinderance?  

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F
1147 posts
7/7/2005 10:21 am

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Help or Hinderance?

Song of the day: Bang a Gong-T rex or Robert Palmer & Power Station

Was wondering something. The highest time of suicide is unfortunately the Christmas/Holiday season. Because you are supposed to be happy, supposed to have family and friends around. When that does not happen, it feeds a deeper depression.

We log onto here to find someone/something we are missing or perceive we are missing from our lives.

While on this site we see pictures of fine bodies ready for action. Those fine muscles you visualize in motion with your own body, flexing and twitching magnificently. That perfect ass that you could grab, squeeze, and watch for a lifetime. Fine chest to runs your fingers over, eyes that stare through your soul, and set you on fire. A smile that could replace the sun.

You read the writings of others, and how some strong passionate individual that stands for something positive by day, and are so wonderfully devilish by night. What pleasures they describe with something as simple as an ice cube, and your inner thigh, sends your loins and imagination into over drive. A passionate person that will bring out the best in you. That body combined with that mind and spirit creates a connection you can only experience in once in a mortal lifetime. You know they are like the post office, they deliver!

With great hope you check your mail, only to find “beer belly bob” with a belly so big, and a dick so small you wonder how this is even possible. You read his wonderful poetic writing of “wanna fuck?” or “no women wanna have guy/guy sex?” Or you do receive a picture of a hot body, and some sassy flirtation written in the message, only to find that it costs a monthly charge to view their web cam.

You know out there lovers are having an afternoon delight, checking into the MR& Mrs. Jones hotel. Sexy hot wives are putting on a fantastic shows for their husbands, and that could be you enjoying that naughty girl. Some where out in the world on a bed of rose pedals covered in whipped cream her lover brings all her female passion and power to the front, she forgets all her troubles, once again she feels alive. After a pleasant BBQ and conversation, giggling couples pair up and make their way upstairs, building memories to last a lifetime. The delightful laughs of a younger lover helps bring back those innocent days when love was new. As you explored the depths of a young lover new sensations were aroused with each new adventure. Human bodies are truly a treat to be explored, as you dream of your lover’s eyes widening in surprised pleasure. You visualize a lover who responds to your touch, gives you a hungry look and a deep soulful kiss. You are wanted, needed, desired, and it is demonstrated in your lover’s actions and words.
Then you sit here knowing damn well all this is all happening……… elsewhere.

So do you think in many or even most cases romance sites are creating more of a problem for those who seek someone, or do you think it is working the best it can?

ExploreMore4Me 59F

7/7/2005 4:22 pm

Great Post! Personally, I don't think it's the sites that create a problem. The site itself is an inanimate object. However, the people on the site are what gives fodder to the experience and or outcome. I believe the results we desire to achieve are our personal responsibility. (I know...there will always be the "beer belly bob's out there!) We are imaginative creatures with the ability to create just about anything we want, desire, or need. The site can give us the opportunity to expand our horizons and venture out there. The site cannot create reality, only those who make up the site can participate in such! As with just about anything in life, one has to evaluate a few things. "Do I have the fortitude to actively pursue this?" "Do I have the patience to weed through the muck before I find that hidden pearl?" And last but not least, (there's more I'm sure!) "Can I whole heartedly laugh at myself and the unrealistic obsurdities I may have been expecting?"

A consolidated answer: It's working the best it can, given all the factors and parameters!



Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/7/2005 7:56 pm

Thank you EM4M
It is fun to play devils advocate. I agree with you completely, know yourself, and take charge of your wants needs and desires.

raptor880 39M

7/7/2005 10:29 pm

I have to say I cant be really truely happy for people when they appear to hook up on here.I know its selfish but there is always a part that says why isnt it me.

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
7/8/2005 7:01 am

Unfortunately, some people have unrealistic expectations.

The proprietors of this site are playing off the waknesses of those subscribers.

Many of us have stayed simply for the give and take of ideas and thoughts.

If something else should happen, well that's fine too but I'm not
looking out the window for a man on a white horse.

sexyeyes375 47F

7/8/2005 2:45 pm

I think this is an excellent post.

Having realistic expectations is a big plus here.. as well as an open mind

But, yes, we all hope for that one special connection..

and it is April that has the highest suicide rate in the US.. (personal and professional knowledge here)

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/8/2005 2:49 pm

raptor can understand that, same with lottery winners hard to be truely happy for them, s you toss your ticket.

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/8/2005 2:50 pm

you always speak the truth. Not holding your breath is a good idea!
Yeah money in exaggerated claims " get laid tonight, women waiting for you!" hahah

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/8/2005 7:27 pm

Hello Sexyeyes
Why april?


Apolybear 54M

7/8/2005 7:59 pm

Of course the adult sites sell fantasy. Just like auto manufacturer’s, makeup companies and Paris Hilton… Isn’t our global economy predicated on self interest?

I think online is 95% fantasy, 5% reality. EM4M said it best ‒ “weed through the muck to find the hidden pearl.” If you understand this going in, it’s possible to find lovers, you just have to be very, very, very, very patient and keep expectations modest - and be pleasantly surprised when that pearl is found.

As challenging as these adult sites are, it’s still light years ahead of how it was done before the internet.

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/9/2005 11:44 am

Very true bear

alt life styles peobably just lived in frustration. With the internet those of like minds can find each other. Funny in the good old days Peyton Place made such a ruckus with it's material. Now disney channel has worse stuff hahaha.

Yeah it does take work to find the gold in all the dirt. But others truely wanting something out of this will put in equal work, and you find each other.

take care bear

carebear?? hahaahha

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/9/2005 11:46 am

I also posted this because I wanted an excuse to post the UPS girl...damn! Fine leg muscles!

Apolybear 54M

7/9/2005 5:03 pm

Ah, the UPS girl: Long legs, shapely ass - Damn is right

Sorry for clogging up your blog with drool. But, sometimes, you just have to stop and smell the roses (along with other things)

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/9/2005 8:24 pm

you kill me!

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