Breaking up is hard to do!  

Peche85 31F
828 posts
1/13/2006 5:22 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Breaking up is hard to do!

Well as I mentioned in my last post, the guys I had been seeing for the past few months broke up with me on Tuesday night. I think I'm still in shock... One minute we were discussing when our 1 year anniversary would be, and a couple of days later he says he can't be with me anymore!

He was the second guy I've met off here, but the only one I've slept with. It took me a while to ask him to stay, but I finally worked up the courage to do it and I'm so glad I did He had lied to me about his age, his profile said he was 25 but after a couple of weeks he told me he was really 31! It didn't bother me that he was a lot older than me cos to me he didn't seem that old, and I never really thought about it.

Whenever I mentioned any of my guy mates or one of them texted me he would say "oh his he your other boyfriend is he?" I just thought he was kidding and although it annoyed me, I just laughed it off. I didn't realise he actually thought I would be with anyone else! Which is why we broke up: he didn't trust me and everytime we weren't together he would think about me being with other people (when I was just sitting at home on the couch watching TV waiting for the next time I could see him).

I understand that he doesn't want to feel like that anymore but I just didn't know what I could do to make him realise he was the only one for me! He said we could still have a casual relationship, or be friends, or be friends with benefits, but I can't imagine being having him as anything but my boyfriend! Everytime I think about never falling asleep in his arms I cry, everytime I think about never going out to dinner with him I cry, and for the past few nights Ive stayed up til 3am because when I try to go to sleep all I can think about is him, so I cry!

This is pretty much the only real relationship i've had, so maybe thats why its so hard for me. I've never had a boyfriend that I would be with all the time and stay over at each other's places, for me its just been one night stands pretty much. And I feel guilty because part of it was my fault. If he had been getting texts like I had been getting from other females, I wouldve been paranoid aswell that he was cheating with another woman. The only thing that stopped me from thinking that is because he was so against cheating as someone he was with for a long time cheated on him and he told me he would never want to make anyone feel the way he did. Don't think he realises how bad he made me feel!

So now I don't know what to do. I go through periods of thinking "its for the best, I'll be okay without him and probably will be too busy when uni goes back" and other times i just wish there was some way to make him trust me and have him back!

I just wish it didn't make me so fucken sad! I hate it! And I don't want to be one of those obsessive ex gfs either lol.

sexyman___111 49M
1 post
1/13/2006 6:30 pm

you will be better because of this...dont worry about this guy. When you meet the right will know. Yes breaking up sucks, but you know what, you are better then him and you will find someone much better too. Good luck. Let me know...thanks

moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
1/13/2006 7:00 pm

First, it is alright to feel sad and to cry...that is what you are suppose to do when something ends...and give yourself a little time to heal...and then pick yourself up...brush yourself off and get out there and love again...figure out what you were suppose to learn from this and next time...make a better choice for yourself...

kind thoughts,

rm_bluestring33 37M
6 posts
1/13/2006 9:32 pm

Just keep going when you get back to uni there'll be your friends around you and other guys as well, just to remind you that you're still young and got alot of things that you want to do.

Happy new Year tho

bardicman 50M

1/14/2006 7:35 am

He was the one who had the problem.. Not you.

I am not dead yet

bulging_boy 49M

1/15/2006 7:41 pm

Sorry Peche!

I know you feel bad... but to have bard come in here?


You know they're right. You also know you can say hi anytime you want

silkytongueNZ 58M

1/15/2006 8:52 pm

As the song says "Always look on the bright side of life." Guess it's hard to accept that right now but time does heal and you'll fall under someone's more deserving gaze soon i'm sure.

bardicman 50M

1/16/2006 7:16 am

Sorry Peche..

I seem to have picked up a psycho spakker that likes following me around.

He is a right good mate though. Right good at mating sheep...

I am not dead yet

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