Am I a pig?  

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3/3/2006 9:51 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Am I a pig?

I have a collection of photographs of beautiful women in their natual state and I enjoy staring at these photos whenever I can. Sure, it arouses me, but that's the point, is it? I like to look at beautiful women, does that make me disgusting, a pig, disrespectful? I like to look at beautiful women naked, does that make it worse?

I know some women do get offended by men who look at women in men's magazines. Why is that?

When I was in college I hung some centerfolds in my dorm room. Hey, I was eightteen and out of my mother's house. Girls didn't react well to them and I took them down. A girlfriend some years later didn't like that I kept Playboy mags around my apartment so I put them in a drawer. I once used a great photo of a beautiful and naked woman as my computer wallpaper, it was beautiful not obscene, but I got disproving looks from men and women alike because of it. I settled for a plain blue screen.

I can understand that there are insecurities that go along with all of this. I know that it makes a woman uncomfortable and insecure to have her boyfriend looking approvingly at other women. I can understand that, I'm just as insecure as anyone else.

But to me it isn't about desire or lust. The photos to me are about beauty. I probably sound rather cheesy, but I think it is about the art that makes the pictures so beautiful. I think we can all agree that a naked woman is beautiful to behold and with the help of a talented photographer she can be breathtaking. Why must I be labled with such negativity for enjoying something that is a combination of natural beauty and a keen eye?

I guess it all comes back to our American society's disdain for nudity and the body generally. It's about how we insist on being ashamed and insecure about our own bodies and being disgusted by those of others.

In my younger years I used to tell attractive women I knew that I would like to see them naked. It often did not go over well. In hindsight it may not have been the best pick-up line but that wasn't the point. If I met a woman I thought had I nice body I wanted to tell her that. I wouldn't say it to perfect strangers and I certainly didn't mean it offensively. I just wanted to appreciate her beauty. What is wrong with that?

But besides all that, why must I hide that which I enjoy? I'm tired of being accomodating to others. I'm tired of worrying if I'm going to offend someone. I want to be able to be proud of my taste in women and I don't want to have to defend it.

So, I guess I'm wondering if I'm alone in thinking this way of if I'm way off base. Any thoughts? -- Joe

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