The prostate is the size of a walnut and is located 4 cm in from the anus on the anterior wall, down from the bladder and in front of the rectum.
The function of the prostate is to lubricate the ejaculation process (adds to semen and other seminal fluids) and to increase pH, making the vagina more hospitable and, therefore, more conducive to fertilisation. It produces prostatic fluid when the man is aroused and contracts during ejaculation to empty.
Why do it? Pleasure. Concentration of nerve endings makes stimulation very pleasurable for many men. Intensity of orgasm can increase two or three-fold with prostate stimulation. It can also delay ejaculation. Some men shy away from prostate stimulation because of the taboos associated with anal play in our culture. Deep-rooted (unsubstantiated) beliefs leave men feeling shame and a general concern that they will become or will be considered homosexual. Talk about it Talk to your partner about whether he is open to exploring the prostate. While giving a blow-job you can show him you're comfortable by playing gently with the outside of his anus and perineum (area of skin between the anus and the testicles).
How to do it Position: The most effective way to access the prostate is anally. Have him lie on his back with knees up; this leaves the penis available to play with throughout the prostate play. Sit between his legs.
Lube up: Thicker lube is better for anal play.
Fingernails: Keep fingernails short. Latex gloves prevent bacteria lying under the fingernails to get into the delicate rectal tissues. If you have long fingernails, put cotton balls over the nail, inside a latex glove.
Finger position: With the fingernail pointing back, bend your finger up into a "come here" position. Insert a finger when he is aroused. Slowly rub the outside of the anus, smoothing lubricant fully around the area. Slowly slip in the tip of the finger; this will cause the two sphincter muscles to contract. Give him a minute to adjust to the feeling. Watch his facial expressions and body movements to guide you. All the while continue to rub his penis. Move the finger in and out gently at first, more vigorously, depending on how he is responding.
The urge: He may have the urge to urinate or have a bowel movement, but he won't. This is just apart of the process of stimulation.
External access: If he is too worried about anal play, there is always another (albeit less effective) way to access the prostate. The prostate can also be stimulated from outside the anal region, although not as effectively as internally. Apply pressure to the area between the scrotum and anus. Massage.
Right tool for the job: Start with something small and work your way up. Be sure to use toys that have a flared base to avoid the anus' natural suction. Check out these toys especially designed for anal play.
The conditions must be correct for your partner to achieve orgasm, both partners must be relaxed and in a comfortable setting and feel totally at ease.
The feeling of anxiety must not be present, as well as the moods of both partners must be happy and without care. This psychological aspect is somehow as important as the physical ones.
Relax and set the mood with foreplay To achieve orgasm, as much foreplay as possible must be performed. In most cases, and where the woman wishes it, cunnilingus is very effective.
In fact, if cunnilingus is properly performed the woman will reach an initial orgasm. It should take on the average about 20 minutes.
3 Positions for great female orgasm
There are three positions that almost insure a long and pleasurable female orgasm. Do not attempt any of the three without adequate foreplay (or the cunnilingus as above).
The first position has many names, but as mentioned in the Perfumed Garden (a classic Arabic text from the golden age of Arabic Literature), it is called Dok-al-Arz, or “pounding on the spot”. This position assures 3 important factors in copulation. The first is depth of the penis. The second is the “G-Spot angle” and the third is maximum clitoral stimulation.
To achieve this position the man sits on the edge of the bed, and the woman sits on the man, inserting his penis deeply into her vagina. She then wraps her legs around him, as well as her arms. The couple is free to kiss if desired.
Then the woman begins a slow grinding movement (no thrusting is possible). She is able to stimulate simultaneously her clitoris and G-Spot. The orgasm comes quickly and with great intensity.
Should the man be able to ejaculate into her womb as she is finishing, the result is only intensified. The woman will love the man greatly if performed well.
The second position also has a great many names, but is commonly knows as The Gates of Heaven.
To perform this The woman lies on her back. The man lies or kneels in alignment with the vagina. The man will hold (or press with his shoulder) the woman's leg(s) upwards to adapt the positioning of the woman's pelvis. This position, as believed by some, achieves a faster and more intense type of female orgasm.
This can be accomplished through lifting the women's leg(s) higher upwards; the deeper the man's penis can fully go in.
Again, there is both clitoral and G-Spot stimulation. Again, there is very little or no thrusting, but a slow and steady grinding movement. If the woman and man can grind in rhythm, the effect is only heightened.
The third position is a variation of the second, and is called Crab on its Back. This position, like the previous two assures maximum clitoral and G-Spot stimulation. This position allows for some thrusting.
The woman lies on her back with a cushion beneath her buttocks, and the man kneels or lies on top of her while pressing her thighs hard against her chest. The vagina will be tighter and the cervix will be pushed forward, so the penis presses against the cervix when thrusting, with a corresponding intensity of sensation. The result is often a very quick and immediate orgasm (or series of orgasms) of the woman.
Achieving satisfaction The practicing of these three positions will give you and your partner a lot of pleasure and if done correctly can help her achieve wonderful orgasms to enhance and fulfill your relationship with each other.
