PJWeb 56M
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4/5/2005 7:44 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


Affected by socialization and discrimination which defines us first by our sexual identities and roles; We are seen only as either a "man" or a "woman”. Before being seen as a person, we are labeled by our genitalia and treated accordingly within our culture.

To be a "man" requires us to be a provider and a performer. We are trained and conditioned in this role from a very early age. The core of this training is a denial of our and feelings and the full range of our emotions. Competition, ownership, success and external rewards become the foundation of our manhood.

In isolation from our "true" self, we are easy prey to a system that only values external rewards such as success and ownership. Competition becomes the rule and the way we relate to others. The degree of denial of emotions and feelings leads to abuses of power, greed, destruction and violence. Wars and the destruction of our environment are examples of such denial.

Warren Farrel, points out that "men are socialized to want sex as long as one condition is fulfilled: physical attraction. Women are still taught to be sexually cautious until two, three or all four conditions-attraction, respect, emotions, and intellect- are met. Many women add a fifth and a sixth condition:- singleness and status/success. Many add a seventh, eight and ninth: the man must ask her out; he must pay; and he must risk rejection by initiating the first kiss, being the first to hold hands, and so on. Men feel as if their expectations are so much lower than a women's-there is only one condition-and they (sometimes sic.) can't even meet that. And so men feel sexually powerless."

If men focus on physical attraction and external rewards, internal rewards, such as communication, intimacy, love and commitment, remain unsatisfied. Lack of fulfillment results in powerlessness for both men and women. If women feel disenfranchised and sexually unfulfilled; then men have a personal responsibility to cultivate awareness and empathy.

rm_WickedFemale 62F
401 posts
4/5/2005 11:12 am

Am excellent reading from the "vanilla" point of life.....

PJWeb 56M
4 posts
4/7/2005 7:44 pm

not true i am more chocolate

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