OralGodess4U 49F
27 posts
12/17/2005 5:37 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


I find myself in a new Season...We seem to go through many in our life......Love....that word....I love you.......I love this......I love is just a word anymore.....I don't know what it means....Can I be honest here?....There are 24 definitions in the miriam webster's dictionary online......Saying I love you to someone....means so many different things.....Do we really mean it?

Lonelywoman56 60F

12/17/2005 6:55 am

I do, I don't know why but as many times that I've been kicked in the guts, physically and emotionally, somehow I get through it, A little smarter, smetimes it takes a while. But I'll never stop loving. I try not to sometimes but I look around my world, I'm lonely, but thats Ok, There is so much good eveywhere.I love life , I love myself, that took a long time, some people think you can only love one person or thing, that if you love to much its dilluted, I find the opposite is true, The more I let myself go the more love there is inside, its the only thing that doesn't run out. Its not just a word to me, I have joy, but because I love something doesnt mean I "own it" People and things I love come and go, thats the flow of time. I still love my ex husband, not as a husband but as a person. Even my ex boyfriend, He could be the cruelist man on earth, But I still love him because I know the misery inside his soul, I lived it, he suffers more then he can ever hurt anyone else. I dont associate with him anymore, and what I feel is not pity.But a type of love and sadness because he is not strong enough to face his demons, how can you hate someone just because they are weak? Frightened?
People do exploit the word love, the people who can't feel it yet. All you can do is hope they learn someday. There are different levles of love. The only thing that is close to pure are the shades
black and white, but even those have a touch of gray.

OralGodess4U 49F

12/18/2005 1:42 pm

Thanks lonely woman.......I think a lot of what you wrote makes sense. I appreciate the feedback!


rm_Godfist1492 50M
1 post
1/7/2006 8:45 am

Hey there.
Oooo, this is a tough one. IMHO, love is a flexible word that is over used. I remember a song ("More than words"?) where the guy keeps saying that you have to do more than say it, you have to show it. I have been in relationships where I was practically obliged to say it at the end of every phone call, whenever we parted and before falling asleep. When it gets like that, the word begins to lose meaning.
At this point in my life, I figure, show it however you can to whomever you can. Send your mother a card and write something in it. Call a friend that's going through a hard time and find a way to help them out. Lonelywoman56 explains quite well about how love for self translates to love for others.
My definition of love relates to self sacrifice. If you really love, aren't you more accepting? So, I think it's like this. Love is being able to say, "That thing you do, that I find terribly annoying, I'll accept in my life because you bring me so much joy, it's totally worth dealing with." If both partners had that attitude, wouldn't they become better people/partners through a higher level of awareness and a greater effort to honor/satisfy the needs of each other?
In my small circle of really good friends, I hear them say "I love you" when it seems like they are saying "I Love what you do." When she stops doing whatever, they stop loving. Very sad, cuz they (and likely have left what could have been great relationships because of selfishness.
If love is the ultimate gift, selfishness is our greatest sin.

Ok, stepping off of the soapbox now.


OralGodess4U 49F

1/8/2006 5:00 am

I love when people honestly answer.......Thanks for yours.....A lot to think about......Good luck in your search out there JL! Peace, Lisa P.S.......wondering where Godfist came from? lol

1946Lizard 70M

1/13/2006 10:24 pm

The season splits in two, a new year begins, we draw a line and say let's start anew here, auld lang syne and all that. You chose the definition of love that fits your purpose, likelovelustdesirewantneedyearnhunger, the person your with at the moment, the day, the time of day and WHO you are at the moment and what face you wear to show the world.

OralGodess4U 49F

1/14/2006 1:50 pm

Very Interesting Lizard.......You chose the definition of love that fits your purpose.......Yes, I suppoose that is the bottom line isn't it? I think you know a little of what I write about.....Thank you for that.....Peace, Lisa

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