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Had our third couples party of the year last Saturday night. Everyone had a lot of fun. I had sent out about eighty notices of the party, starting in early September, about eight weeks before the party. In the end, I inivted twelve couples. I have found that you have to invite twelve in order to get about eight. Couples drop out for various reasons, most of which I understand and allow for.
Some things I dont understand. First, if you not interested, why not reply and say no thanks. Many do, most dont. I always reply to my non commercial mail, even the foolish ones, as a matter of courtesy. Second, if you say you will attend and change your mind, why not call. A lot of effort goes into these things. And every second or third party some single guy shows up at the door with some story about why his wife couldn't make it, expecting he will be admitted by himself. Nice try guys but I have been around too long, run too many parties to let that happen. Do you really think that a man will share his wife or girlfriend with you while you offer nothing in return. (Oh, I know ... you have a big one, or you can eat all night ... yadda yadda yadda. If that was really the case, you wouldn't have to be trying to trick your way into parties.)
Getting back to the no shows and no replys - I have to conclude that there are many people out there who places ads and are never going to follow through on them. They are advertising to fill a fantasy but cannot go through with it because of some fear.
Over the past twelve years I must have met at least 200 people from online or telephone sites. I can only think of 6 whose last names I know. I have made a lot of friends (made some more last Saturday night) but they are friends in a special category that doesn't require their knowing my name or me knowing theirs. So if a new couple attends a party, people there know the first names they are introduced by and what they look like. At the end of the night, unless the new couples gives out more information, no one knows much more about them. It is called discretion - we both have a secret, you know mine and I know yours; and I probably cannot reveal your secret without revealing mine and vice versa.
So, if someone wants to do something, they probably have nothing to fear as long as they keep information to a minimum and take reasonable precautions and play safe. Why not?
Saturday night the party start with two of my female guests using a liberal amount of whipped cream on me and then removing it (without a towel)! When I have a bad day, I am going to think back to that time and smile. Memories are better than fantasies.