Men are extremely bad at listening, yet we're good problem solvers.  

NotPornRealFilm 54M
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12/31/2005 12:44 pm

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Men are extremely bad at listening, yet we're good problem solvers.

However, what do most women want from us? They want us to listen - JUST LISTEN - to their problems without any offered solutions - unless we're asked. However, if we are asked - invariably our answers will be wrong. Therefore whould we even attempt to answer when asked. I say no. Just listen and show empathy while doing your best to keep your mouth glued shut. Yes, you've figured many "answers" to the problem set forth, but those are not something that are really workable. Give your wife a hug after sghe has spilled all this information out. Your nature will be to offer a solution, but don't you dare try this as you will end up in hot water for doing so! On the other hand, do not ever tell women of your problems. They do listen well, but they will take the problems posed and make them out tyo be much worse than they really are making the both ofg you miserable. This is merely the first in a series of God's sense of humor which can be: seen as a way to know God exists Or the opposite. However, I believe the former rather than the later and this blog will help explain why. Please feel free to agree, disagree - or do whatever you please.

demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
12/31/2005 1:29 pm

Hmmm... i think the reason women get upset over suggestions to solving their problems is that they themselves already thought of it, just aren't willing to listen to themselves yet. and so it makes them upset and more irritated to hear you say the same thing.

at least that's how i experience it.

demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
12/31/2005 1:30 pm

btw: just saw your eye pic. pretty color!! and welcome to blogville.

vuderhose 45M

12/31/2005 3:29 pm

Women that won't listen, a Jesus cock, and a snake eating a flower.
1) I mostly agree 2) If you are going to talk Jesus, please, put it away 3)Tempt not Satan for he will come. Hey, I didn't write it!

sxcurves4u 52F

12/31/2005 3:45 pm

Being a whole lot o woman I say: "Have a nice day!" bon jovi song... hahaha just heard it now and thought it would fit... maybe nut. hahaha

Ok now seriously, humbly I say yes, you are right: I guess we have big egos and just like to vent, not being told what to do (anymore than you do...)
That being said, I red a book when I separated 7 years ago about dating (venus and mars dating) and it really did say that men naturally want to put the fixer hat and solve them problems we girls expose... I guess it was cool before women felt empowered (in the last century). I surprise myself denying a man's help all the time. I was raised by a single mom. We were always resourceful... We had to to survive...

Anyways here are my 2 cents. Always love these blogs that challenge our personal views on being man and woman... Thanks!

Be good!


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