Just say "NO" dammit  

NotPC
470 posts
8/29/2006 3:56 pm

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Just say "NO" dammit

Ok time for a rant of sorts.

I'm sick, and I mean SICK to death of the vanilla sex mentality that seems to pervade the lives of so many people. Now the ol' "in-out-repeat" may be just fine for the masses but it sure as hell doesn't cut the mustard for me. In fact it blows dead goats.

I spent a number of years in a marriage with a really great woman. She was a great wife, took good care of the kids and managed money like a champ. Everything was great except she was boring as hell in bed. Sexy clothes? More like sweats and t-shirts. Adventuresome? About as much fun as watching grass grow. Now don't get me wrong...I surely don't expect every woman to be into whips, full swaps, cum guzzling and full on bi-sexuality. (Not that it hurts but I'm trying to be realistic). Just that a little bit of agressiveness and curiosity goes a LONG way in keeping a sex life alive and vibrant. Routine is the mass-murderer of passion. And that's a serial killer that's on the loose everywhere these days.

I have met so many women who were just like my ex...great in so many ways but too timid sexually to let it go every now and again. And if I run into another woman who doesn't like oral sex performed on her I'm going to scream. I don't know about you folks but that's just fucked up. Perhaps I'm the freak here but I think the abundance of these prim and proper women are the driving force behind me coming to AdultFriendFinder. Getting laid is easy...getting your freak on and really satisfying your partner (and by extension yourself) is something totally different.

For me the pleasure is in the giving. And when someone is too afraid to try and explore their boundaries they cheat themselves and their partner. Fuck that. I like women who are comfortable enough in themselves to know what they want and be wiliing to explore where their true boundaries really lie. There's a huge difference in trying something and not liking it and not liking it just because. That's pretty damn lame if you ask me. The big advantage I see in the women I've talked to and met here is that generally speaking they are very comfortable in themselves and are true sexual beings. That does NOT mean they are whores or tramps that hop into the sack with everyone they see. In fact it's quite the opposite. The women I've met here are just as discriminating as the "normal" women are if not more so. Our society trains us from day one to have sexual hang ups and for those that can rise above the vanilla layer there's a whole big world of saucy fun out there.

I'll see you out in it.

IN OTHER NEWS

AdultFriendFinder's tech wizards have evidently taken a break from downloading porn and fixed the blogs. Rather nice of them ....

Secondly after a charming six week wait they finally approved my ConfirmID registration so apparently I am now confirmed as me. Evidently I needed that or something...


ella1966 50F
1528 posts
8/29/2006 4:28 pm

mmmm, interesting, true, but what did you do to improve your sex life with your wife before the "dumping"???...sorry I would post more but I just came across this and I have to go!


pussinboots571 105F

8/29/2006 4:41 pm

I'm sorry, but what women don't like receiving oral...........who the hell are you meeting up with? Sorry, I just had to ask.

Your profile says you like oral, both giving and receiving........maybe I could suggest that you emphasize this more on your profile, and also express clearly your sexual desires when chatting with a woman, before you meet them.

Puss



NotPC
343 posts
8/29/2006 5:00 pm

That's actually a great question. I hinted...I made point blank statements about what I liked and wanted. She was oblivious to all of it. Evidently she felt that things werre just fine and didn;t pay any attention at all to my desire to expand things. I was married for 12 years and in all honesty I carry zero guilt about anything I failed to do in the communication department. Sometimes people just refuse to see the writing on the wall.

Your point (at least the one I think you were trying to make) is VERY valid. Some vanilla people can be Baskin-Robbinsized into 31 or more flavors. You have to make the effort to communicate with them and teach them. This does of course pre-suppose they are willing to learn. Some are, some aren't.


Lukn4ASlowDown 48F

8/29/2006 5:39 pm

Wow! I find your blog very interesting as I am on the other end and have not had success finding a true lover that will allow me to be me and make suggestions without it totally turning to his wants and "hand-behind-the-head" gesture for his pleasure only! I only hope that all the males on here that promise they "know" and "enjoy" pleasing a woman, truly do that indeed. Lucky women who find that! Too few out there left I'm afraid. Hell yea...have fun and enjoy!


NotPC
343 posts
8/29/2006 5:51 pm

    Quoting pussinboots571:
    I'm sorry, but what women don't like receiving oral...........who the hell are you meeting up with? Sorry, I just had to ask.

    Your profile says you like oral, both giving and receiving........maybe I could suggest that you emphasize this more on your profile, and also express clearly your sexual desires when chatting with a woman, before you meet them.

    Puss
Oh it hasn't been an issue at all with people from here. That's one of the most attractive elements of this place...people generally are very comfortable discussing their sexual likes and dislikes at an early stage. Where it's been a problem is in the "real" world...where you meet someone and play the sex angle somewhat close to the vest so that they don't go off running and screaming "FREAK" at the top of their lungs. Perhaps I'm just too old school to meet someone and before I ask them out say something to the effect of "Pardon me...but you're plenty ok with having me give you oral sex for hours on end right? Because if you're not I've got to be moseying on along now." There's a balance to be struck that way and I usually tend to err on the side of caution.

As to what women don't enjoy it I've seen them and dated them. It is utterly beyond my capacity to understand.


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