Please tell me if I did anything Wrong here!  

NotInnocentNow 34F
141 posts
6/8/2006 7:54 pm

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8/12/2006 7:33 pm

Please tell me if I did anything Wrong here!

Ok so I get this email this morning and it goes "hi...I am chris, I am 23, and I am here to help if you need something. I am used to discreet, so that will not be a problem..."

and the only thing I can think of is why is this guy talking about being discreet so I email back and ask "Where did the concept of discreet enter the picture? I do not even recall mentioning discreet in my profile."

I get this reply back this evening "hi there....I said I can be discreet if you wanted...I can be overt too. I was just giving you the offer if you were so inclined to take it. However, I think you would rather bitch about it, and try to talk down to me because I said something that was not a direct take off your a guy with a thought in his head...."

Ok I did not think I bitched but maybe I did, I just kind of wanted a clue of where the idea of me wanting something discreet came from? Simple question I thought. I just think the offer was kind of in left filed from what my profile says about me. I mean that would be like reading his profile, which is basic I am in the navy, I like doing blank and blank, I love making a woman feel good and blah blah, and me emailing him and saying I can fuck you in the ass with a strap on if you want. I don't know maybe it is me but if I wanted or desired discreet I think I would have mentioned that...oh and it disturbs me when he says he is used to being discreet too lol!

So you tell me did I do something wrong, was I bitching?

Jeepidiot 42M

6/8/2006 8:42 pm

Think it's a situation where you both might have overreacted. You seemed to go on the offensive with your reply and he got bothered by it. I think he probably took it a bit too personally.

Just my take on it.

596 posts
6/8/2006 8:42 pm

Not at all ... actually as I was reading what he wrote to you I thought the sentence was semantically wrong.

I haven't read your profile since standard users can't do that unless they accumulate enough points, but I can't think of a what made the guy write that... is as if you had in your profile that you had a very jealous partner, boyfriend or husband and being discrete was a matter of life and death.

If he had said: I am used to (kinky, dominant or submissive), so that will not be a problem. And you mentioned any of those in your profile .. then the sentence would have made more sense.

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rm_mistyblue18 61F

6/8/2006 8:49 pm

Yes you were. If you look a lot of people on this site are married and appreciate descreet even the single ones. Of course if you like advertisment then thats your bag and thats ok just don't get all hot and bothered when the world knows your bussiness.

rm_dblonde2000 105M/38F
2 posts
6/8/2006 9:18 pm

He totally was rude to you, but girl, don't take it so seriously! If he's going to be a jack-ass, he's not worth the energy it took for you to write this blog!

Djeeper1987 47M

6/8/2006 9:22 pm

nah you are right on the money. so you didn't mention discreet, and he did. You asked a question, and he got all anal about it. Move on and you will find a better guy with some matters.

Carpe Diem

funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
6/8/2006 9:25 pm

Ok, analysis from the doc...
Read your profile ( yes, every word,had lunch break) and it is excellent, direct, comprehensive and difficult to see where anyome can misunderstand it.
Conclusion: Yes you did bitch and you had every right to do so. If someone is interested in YOU and not just the holes and glands you have they will not make such crass and irrelevant statements.
Isn't blogging great, you get to pontificate about everyone.
You take care babe, you come across as a great person. Hugs to your son, he's a lucky boy.
Have fun

florallei 99F

6/8/2006 9:27 pm

I agree with jeepidiot...misunderstanding...happens so easily and tactfullness these days are rare to did have a right to ask...he had a right to respond to your question but then he added far too much...he could have just laughed it off...too bad...

rm_BobBigGun 50M
124 posts
6/14/2006 10:20 pm

Bree, there are a lot of good points made by the others who've posted. Sometimes even after all the right things are written and laid out in a profile or sent in a letter of introduction, there's still just enough room for misinterpretation occasionally. Again, it's not that you didn't say what you wanted or were bitchy, but one of the shortcomings of the internet is that it remains a sterile environment void of the full scope of human interaction. Without personal interaction, we read a message or blog and we have to interpret the intent and guess at where the other person may have put a voice inflection or a disarming body gesture had they been speaking face-to-face. I've had a few experiences in emails or chat rooms that were completely misconstrued simply because we couldn't hear each other's voices or see our expressions. That split-second eye contact or hearing of the ear is often enough to deflect the wrong impression. Humans express and convey themselves best with each other in person. It's an innate need to have that kind of communication. We just don't get the full scope of it online. Is this guy worth the second chance? Probably not...especially since he seemed insecure enough to be defensive about it.

rm_LuvsTheBooty 45M

6/29/2006 5:35 am

All you did was ask a question and he went nutty.

SingleWarrior 52M

7/5/2006 3:46 pm

Well, I look at that two ways-

His "discreet" could have been an assumption that since you have that adorable boy, you might need "help" despite what was said in your profile.

The other way to look at it is he may be assuming you have "needs" that you don't want others to know about.

In either case, he assumed without clarifying first. If that was his intro e-mail to you, well... that's not too good of a way to introduce yourself

Now to your reply- The "attitude" in your reply reflects the same attitude that is in your profile- You're strong and independent and are upfront with things (and I am assuming there! ).

Had he read that profile thoroughly, I doubt he'd have sent that e-mail

So to answer your question- *I* personally don't see where you did anything wrong.

needalittle1962 54M
12 posts
7/12/2006 3:04 am

Well so tell me are you still looking or what if so let me know ok would like to get to know you alright

west_philly_dog 53M

7/19/2006 9:44 pm

I think your profile is one of the best thought out (outlined, etc.), comprehensive and well written intros on this site. Mr. "BobBigGun" kinda stole my fire though, because he captured my sentiments regarding emails and on-line conversation. Communication is too complex, especially matters of the heart, to be faithfully captured in an email. Perhaps it is the implied or expected brevity which transforms a thoughtful letter into a crass email. However in this case, I don't think the author was capable of much more. Kudos to you & brother BigGun.

azwayward 49M/48F

7/20/2006 7:07 pm

Personally I don't think you did anything wrong. You asked for clarification of a point he made and he took that response as a criticism. His loss.

There are more fish in the sea and an attractive person such as yourself can find someone less sensitive to a single request for clarification.

Good luck.

Mr. & Mrs. Az

SirMounts 102M

8/3/2006 11:31 am

Well, there's nothing wrong with venting, every now and then. *smiling*

DoctorBooty 35M  
5762 posts
10/20/2006 8:47 pm

No, nothing wrong with that one. Some people send emails and don't read the profile, as witnessed by the fact that couples still email me from time to time.

Look on the bright side, at least he didnt ask you to fuck his dog while he watched, like a friend of mine had sent to her.

velvetgrrrl 39F

10/30/2006 2:11 am

Email is always so impersonal its easy to misconstrue text. Also some people have one thing set in their heads and don't take the time to stop and process information they're given.

Sure maybe you over-reacted a bit...but sometimes if people would jsut take the time to read a profile, a blog, whatever they'd get a better insight...

and in the end perhaps a better response...

BTW would love tot alk with you more on a professional level I'm a photographer too. Sounds like we sadly take a lot fo the same shots. however i lucked out and am expanding on my artistic type shots now.

Hell is when u should have walked away, but u didn't.

bluenfree 60M  
2478 posts
10/30/2006 6:54 pm

Sounds to me as though he sent you a cut-and-paste email and then got defensive when you called him on it. What I really think is funny is the one woman who thought you were too harsh is married and sneaking around ...

I refuse to engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed man. - Winston Churchill

rm_hunt122000 66M

11/10/2006 2:13 pm

Not meaning to differ with everyone else who answered, but if you look at your profile, you will see that in the shaded area under "26 YEAR OLD XXXXXwhere it says what you are looking for you must have checked discreet relationship, so that is likely where he got it. That said I can in no way comprehend his over reaction to your honest question. Hunt122000

rm_olliej14 51M

11/13/2006 5:00 am

May be this guy just thought that you had a chld and that discretion would be necessary?

1CharlotteGuy 47M

12/3/2006 8:46 pm

Hmmmmmmm, well you may not like my answer...but here it goes:

Obviously he did not read your profile, and he was in left field, and, like you, I didn't like how he said that he was "used to being discrete" either. But, I think you did over-react a bit and this blog is not worth the effort.

Forget him and delete this blog and move on, being glad you are smart enough to spot a fake early on, but thoughtful that you spent so much time thinking about it. That's my honest answer.


beckrules 77M

12/27/2006 2:29 pm

LOL.....looks like some ones' periscope doesn't go all the way to the top

(fariddd )

1/24/2007 5:01 pm

Guys and Gals: The word is DISCRETE and not DISCREEEET.

Yes you have been bitchy but so what? You are a woman , you are gorgeous, and you are entitled to be a little bitchy sometime

philfantastic 37M
2 posts
2/5/2007 10:32 am

It sounds like he is the one wanting to be discreet!

Sod that you are fit He shuld want to show you off

philfantastic 37M
2 posts
2/5/2007 10:33 am

It sounds like he is the one wanting to be discreet!

Sod that you are fit....... He should want to show you off

funkentjay1 55M

3/17/2007 10:31 pm

You were right in what you did. Kent

derekorama 62M

6/2/2007 7:46 am

you are ahot gal. you just need some luv and luving. you are so sweet

golfmastersc 56M

6/15/2007 9:03 pm

Honey, don't worry about it and go on. Some guys just think they are the bomb and a woman can't talk to them. You just have to learn to weed out the bad ones from the good ones. Just be careful

rm_inlet43 53M
1 post
6/18/2007 9:24 pm

WELL, here goes. some guys don't have any brains except in there pecker! you just got to ignore that shit and still be the cool chick you are. or that's what I think if it matters. I'm near by, later, victor.

rm_fun44cple 45M/41F
5 posts
7/2/2007 10:46 pm

hey hottie love ya

rm_ricardo4732 62M
30 posts
7/6/2007 7:55 pm

To heck with the guy. I saw your profile here and decided to do this. I hope to chat sometime...Rick

bird5978 37M
36 posts
7/22/2007 8:33 pm

The perfect girl I likes your sweetheart

平凡無奇不是愛 橫刀奪愛才是愛

千軍萬馬我直往 你爭我奪愛才來

oralexaminer692 50M

9/25/2007 4:39 pm

Sometimes it it mch easier to ingore such people and stick with those who have enough of a brain to own the ability to communicate.
Trying to explain this to the idiots online seems like "casting pearls before swine" so to speak. (I use this analogy because my time is too valuable to waste on the foolish or the illiterate)

UpStanding2008 66M
572 posts
10/23/2007 7:47 pm

You did nothing wrong .
Men ( or boys as the case may be) see a BEAUTIFUL WOMEN and their tongue gets sooooooooooooooooooo hard it is hard for them to speak properly.

drunkat 35M
717 posts
10/23/2008 4:38 am

That depends... if you were making that face when you typed your reply, then yep you definitely were bitchin'.

Oh and to fariddd - thank you for that corrective announcement!

scstud03 47M  
36 posts
5/17/2011 6:49 pm

You need to come back to the site! Let's talk! Chuck

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