Words mean something.......an apology  

Nightguy_1961 55M
3324 posts
3/5/2006 9:43 pm

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Words mean something.......an apology

I was fortunate growing up that I had parents that encouraged me to write. Writing has been my refuge; my safety valve; my way of expressing myself when I couldn't verbalize it.

Recently, I've had two incidents that have made me question my writing. I'm a member of a BDSM forum where topics are discussed. I posted a topic recently that, to my regret, started a 'forest fire', burning to the point that people are leaving the forum. That wasn't my intention, but I realized I'd forgotten one of my tenets: Words mean something. They're not just scribbles on a piece of paper...or bytes on a computer screen. Words carry weight...and can either help or harm.

The second incident involved this very blog. I posted the beginnings of a story, with the characters being my lady (NGs_lady), a friends I've been chatting with for a few weeks, and myself. In my conceit, I asked my lady to write a post on her blog...telling the same scene, but from her point of view.

Now it appears that, in my moment of arrogance, I've caused a problem. Now, the friend is confused, and my lady feels like she's done something out of line.

Again, I forgot that words mean something. Plus, I forgot something that I'm almost embarrassed to admit here: In BDSM, a Dominant doesn't push anyone into anything they don't want to do. I committed that sin twice: by putting the friend in a situation that made her uncomfortable and by 'insisting' that my lady write her side of the story.

I'm not questioning my writing, just questioning the time & place to apply my words. I'm afraid I'll cause more harm to WIITWD (What It Is That We Do) if I write the wrong thing at the wrong time.

So....part II of The Scene will be put on hold. I had it visualized in my head, ready to put down on paper (or rather, screen), but now, the image has been shattered, the scene has faded to black...and I'm afraid I won't be able to get it back.

NG....wondering what else will blow up in his face now.


sportsfan362436 47F

3/5/2006 10:23 pm

Ng Sir, I do not believe you have done anything wrong. The friend's confusion may just be something that needs to be 'brought to the surface' so to speak. Her confusion could be stemming from actually 'seeing' herself in a 'scene' written from another point of view... or maybe it is the feelings she read invoked in your lady's blog... either way, I believe communication is the path to clear all up. Good luck in your quest and my sincere apologies for your 'shattered' condition. *Sending warm thoughts and hugz*

*Smiles, kisses n hugz*


MamChelle 48F  
1443 posts
3/6/2006 10:55 am

*sad smiles* Shame... i was so looking forward to the rest of the story..(in my best Paul Harvey voice.) *smiles*


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