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Did ya ever notice......?
Did ya ever notice......?
Have you ever been in a group setting, like a bar, and noticed something that really bugs the crap out of you?
For instance, a person comes into the bar who is attached. Everybody knows this person is with someone else. Said person comes in and people of the opposite sex flirt, hug, kiss, etc. No problem so far, right?
Now, let the one being flirted with have their significant other come in. Now keep in mind, this couple is open with their relationship and neither has a problem with others flirting or playing.
What happens? Most times, the flirting stops and the couple is treated differently. Like a "KEEP AWAY" sign is slapped on one's back.
I've seen the same thing happen in the cyber world. A F/friend I know comes in alone and is treated with hugs, kisses, gropes, etc..
But as soon as the F/friend's other walks in, whether it is a mate, spouse, or good friend, all flirting stops. This looks bad, supicious even.
My F/friends in this situation have complained to me in private messenger about the two faced treatment. My response is that it's not their fault, but the ppl that treat them that way.
It seems that those who flirt are afraid to put it out in the open. What are they afraid of? What are they hiding? Why treat a person one way one minute, but give them the pariah treatment when their significant other walks in?
If you're going to treat someone in a particular way, maintain consistancy. Don't be a f*cking player or poser. If you are, I have no time for you...and neither do my F/friends.
11/4/2005 9:55 am
I'm sorry I have to throw my 2 cents in Guy. Could be something as simple as not being sure how the mate is going to react even if everybody does know everybody. Seems it's a form of human nature or something. |
I walked to the store one night for some juice and it started pouring, I got a lift home from a male friend and his brother, when I got home I let koosh know I was home safe sound and fairly dry thanks to the ride. Koosh thanked my friend a few days later and my friend acted nervous and actually apologized. Now this is a guy that has known about koosh and I the whole time we've been together and knew us each seperatly before. All 3 of us know and are friends with each others families as well. We have no clue why he was nervous or why he apologized, he saved me from walking home sick in the cold rain, and all koosh wanted to do was thank him since he'd been stuck with a job on the other side of town.