Comments on a profile I saw.....  

Nightguy_1961 55M
3324 posts
5/3/2006 12:26 am

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5/5/2006 12:05 am

Comments on a profile I saw.....

I came across this profile when I logged on AdultFriendFinder one night and had to read...okay, I admit it, the picture is what caught my eye!!!!! LOL

When I saw the first line, I thought, "Whoa Ho!! This could be interesting...and she's local too!!!"
I am seeking an extremely strong dominant male that can bring out my special gift for him.

Then I saw the second line:
I do not want any married or attached males.

I read the rest of the profile, just to satisfy my curiosity (and yes, this is all she wrote)

I am very sexual in nature with an insatiable appetite that seems to keep growing and I need someone to be able to control it and to satisfy me, mentally and physically. I prefer sexy, attractive, BDSM experienced you fit this description?
My Ideal Person:
I'm looking for someone who will show me the way. I want someone who is a little more controling. I'm up for anything and I'll try anything once.
btw...she didn't want anyone too old, either

*heavy sigh* I missing something here? I am in an open relationship...meaning that my lady & I know what the other is doing...period. I am not sneaking around behind her back...not trying to find anyone to replace her...nor is she trying to replace me...either as her life partner or as her Sir.

Have there been so many cheating spouses screwing things up that us upfront individuals are going to get shot before we even get out of the gate. I mean...damn!!! Granted, the ladies have the God-given right to pick and choose who they want to spend time with...even if it's only cyber, but I the only individual that thinks there's a bit of a double standard working here? Gee...I have a choice between a mature man who knows what to do, because he's got someone in his life who can vouch for him...and I've got a young man who says he knows what to do....I'll go with the younger man!!!

I'm sorry if I sound like I'm pitching a bitch, but I've seen plenty of profiles from 'attached' ladies who have no problem looking for fun on the side...why do the guys seem to get the dirty side of the stick? Or am I missing something here?

I really feel sorry for this young lady, for she needs to realize that most of the Dominants she would find satisfaction with are going to be some form or another. I hope (for her sake) she doesn't get hooked up with a wannabee or a f*ckMart Dom who's only out for a quick meaningless piece of ass.

For what it's worth...I thought long and hard before writing and posting this....

Just my opinion...and I know I could be totally wrong...

©Nightguy_1961 2006

rm_cockmerollme 45F
1223 posts
5/3/2006 1:32 am gotta put in the work on a DD relationship. That's not going to be successful on a first, third or tenth date.

You have to put in the time, you know?


Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/3/2006 2:36 am:
DD relationship??? I take it you are referring to a D/s relationship..or am I missing something here?

Besides, what good is a fifth, sixth, tenth, or even a first date...when they don't want to meet in the first place?

Thanks for your comment, though...I appreciate it.

wildoats19622 54M
3483 posts
5/3/2006 1:37 am

As a married man in a committed relationship, I will repect the wishes of someone who wishes to exclude us married men.

Fuck them!!

The more avenues you close off, the less likely is the right car to go by you.


Crosswords increase your vocabulary. Cross words increase your blood pressure.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/3/2006 2:38 am:

I hear you....there are times I just want to close the profile and just stick to writing...period. I'm beginning to think my 'playing' days are over...and I never even got a chance to pitch in the majors, you know?

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
5/3/2006 2:27 am

i prefer married men

I'm a

i'm here to stay

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/3/2006 3:37 am:
papy, dear lady, I think you are by yourself in that regard...I'm not sure right now....sorry, my mood has bottomed out here in the early morning

sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
5/3/2006 3:23 am

You know, I don't mind having a little fun with a guy who's in an open relationship and his significant other really knows what he's doing behind her back. I just don't like those who are liars and cheaters.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/3/2006 7:35 am:
You are a very wise young lady...and I'm with you about liars & cheaters...

libgemOH 56M/52F

5/3/2006 3:41 am

I remember seeing a profile very similar and just kinda laughed. Young but experienced? Good luck!!

As far as married's and attached's, when we meet a potential playmate, it is the first question I ask. However, the 2nd question is "does she know?" I won't be a part of a man messing around on his lady, too much drama, but if their relationship has this understanding, it is actually preferable because they better understand this is just play. -B

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/3/2006 7:38 am:

I see these types of profiles all the time; to the point, I changed my 'Cupid Settings' (bumped the age limit up)...and I'm still seeing the same thing...only a greater emphasis on 'younger only!!!'

At least you two are open, not only with each other, but with everyone you deal with...that's great...

rm_metalmama69 42F
3878 posts
5/3/2006 3:58 am

As a newbie, i would not have joined with my Master if He already had another. And if He wanted another i would tell Him about being uncomfortable with it. If He still wanted her, i would leave the relationship completely.

Some women, as subs or not, are just plain uncomfortable with that for whatever reason. i need my Master to concentrate on my training right now. W/we will have playmates in the future and my Master understands that at least at first, they will be of my chosing in an effort to make me comfortable with the situation.

By no fault of my Master, i have trust issues and esteem issues that date back to childhood. Many of us have such issues that make it hard or impossible to "share." The trick is to be willing to learn and (someday) at least try, as i am doing.

Thank You!

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/3/2006 7:39 am:

I completely understand...I know of several experienced submissives who have trouble dealing with a Poly situation, so don't feel alone.

Good luck in expanding your horizons...I wish you well...


5/3/2006 6:22 am

Kinda weird we both posted on the same subject in the same night. Great minds think alike!

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/4/2006 9:13 pm:
So do perverted minds, HNB

NGs_lady 64F
762 posts
5/3/2006 6:59 am

My love,

I understand what some of the ladies here are saying. As a woman that has been fucked over by three husbands before you, I think I can judge what's cheating and what's an open relationship.

So look at it this way: my gain is her loss!! It's not my fault she's silly.

Hugs, love, and respect...
NGs_lady/Lady Stee

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/3/2006 7:39 am:

(Princess Lips)

5/3/2006 9:06 am

Have there been so many cheating spouses screwing things up that us upfront individuals are going to get shot before we even get out of the gate.

yeah, sadly there are...


Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/4/2006 9:14 pm:
And too bad, I, and others, have to suffer the sins of others.....

ohcurious14 59M
1683 posts
5/3/2006 9:23 am

I only thought of one thing when reading this. "Oxy Moron" Still shaking my head mumbling WTF!!!!!

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/4/2006 9:15 pm:
Sorry, didn't mean to get your day off to a bad start....

Fox4aKnight1 43F

5/3/2006 9:43 am

Well I can't speak for other fems but I can tell you my reasoning. My reasons being that I have been there and done that and I ended up loving the guy. I assume that most women don't want to deal with married men because they can't afford to get attached to the person they are playing with. And most women not all tend to get attached. Hell most men and women tend to be jelous over their playmates. I never was but then I am odd LOL.


I think that most gals want something a little more bf/gf type

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/4/2006 9:16 pm:
True....there is a little more of an emotional exchange between BDSM partners than other sexual partners...imho

MamChelle 48F  
1443 posts
5/3/2006 9:45 am

there is just as many mens profiles that read; seeking petite trim or slender ladies only. *sigh* Whats wrong with people being willing to be open to the person, not the package or the age? i see couples and will occasionally see a married man as long as his wife knows about the situation. i think myself semi poly and actually am deeply attracted to older men. i just don't want to be a hidden indesgression. If the person is ashamed of being with me i won't be a hidden moment of selfish pleasure for them. Must be the exhibitionistic extrovert in me? *shrugs shoulders and laughs*

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/4/2006 9:17 pm:
I don't know, chelle, I think the problem is just another blog post I'd written several weeks back...might have to post it to explain what I'm thinking a little bit better....

wickedeasy 66F  
25463 posts
5/3/2006 10:57 am

because i skipped kindergarten i never learned how to share - grins

seriously, you know how i feel about this - where Sir takes me is so profound, so compelling i cannot imagine seeking anyone outside of this relationship nor can i imagine not being devastated if he did

that being said - the girl is a bimbo and a fake
but the picture is good - winks

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/4/2006 9:20 pm:

I know how you feel and I respect your feelings, just as I respect my lady's feelings on the matter. Just something I had going through my mind. As I told chelle above, I've got another blog post that might explain things a little better....and show what an SOB I really am....

btw...the picture for this post was one I downloaded...not the picture from the profile, though her pic was.....'interesting', to say the least....let's just say she had a prime asset for the Enforcer to appreciate *wink*

rm_cockmerollme 45F
1223 posts
5/4/2006 11:35 pm

Sorry...Domestic Discipline,'s more of a household management than a fun bedroom game.

It's found in commited, trusting, loving equal relationships.

Head of household, giving of know?

I'd love to find a man who can really do this...

Not just play act, but really be in control of things.


Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/5/2006 12:07 am:
Thank you....I guess you haven't read my blog that much or my profile...or you'd realize that I am a 24/7 Dominant Alpha Male...I don't play at this...I live it...

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