the need for COCK...  

NightOwl02_777 36F
25 posts
4/3/2006 6:51 pm

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4/8/2007 3:53 pm

the need for COCK...

SO, I guess the main reason I’ve had so much time on my hands to get into this craziness here at AdultFriendFinder is that I’ve had several days off from work, which doesnt happen much. I don’t usually spend much time on the web, but as I surf around reading profiles & blogs, there are a few main themes that keep popping into my head…

I guess as I ponder my fairly newfound need for cock, I wanna sort out my reactions to the most common (serious) requests I notice from guys in general…here goes:

Request #1)
Be confident & have respect for yourself without being ‘stuck-up’

This can actually be much harder than it sounds, esp. depending on what the guy perceives as ‘stuck-up.’ Now, I have to say, this request is very different for girls than it is for guys, so this may not make much sense to you if you’re a mostly straight guy… Many guys have a tendency to just assume “the bitch” is snotty if she doesn’t immediately* melt at his attention.

*the truth is, there are many reasons we do not always OBVIOUSLY melt at your attention; when we ARE feelin’ it, we (independent, self-confident good girls) are well-trained (by society in general) NOT to let it show
…unless you are dealing with one of those girls that KNOWS *how* to ‘let it show’ and USE the fuck out of that fantasy power for their own personal gain ‒ this class of females can give the rest of us a bad name!

myself, I see that crap goin’ on everywhere, all the time. I find that scenario pretty scary…yet it seems many guys wanna be fed the BS (ironically, even more in real life than on the web).
At least when you’re looking at the computer screen, you KNOW its potentially total BULLSHIT. I’m not sure that thought process kicks in very often face-to-face, esp for most guys my age. No offense, really ‒ I’m only speaking from my own very limited observations. I’d really like to believe otherwise. (Any thoughts?)

Request #2)
Be honest & real (while at the SAME time fulfilling guys fantasies)

honestly, for girls who are genuinely clueless about men & shy about flirting/ sex stuff, it can be hard NOT to be sorta defensive when you’re expected to “be 2 places at once.”

There are very conflicting messages out there when it comes to how a girl/woman/lady should “be,” so its actually much easier & more rewarding to say “fuck it, I’m doin’ my own thing.” This works better if u are a true lesbian that never feels any NEED FOR COCK.
damn.

Maybe there is such a thing as too much honesty?

Funny how (for some of us) the web helps filter out the need for phony BS. I mean there’s nothing to lose, so why not be completely open about what u really think, how u really are? People are usually kind of weirded out by that in real life, and I bet lotsa ppl on the web might also think it’s weird- however…

For those of us who just refuse to “play the game,” (mostly cuz we don’t know how**) it's very nice to just say exactly what the fuck is on your mind, without wondering or worrying too much how it will be received.
Of course, I think it’s important to respect individual responses & viewpoints, but as far as what you “broadcast,” so to speak - ppl can either choose to listen or not, totally their prerogative.

[**how could you possibly know “how to play a game” that you’ve just never had the time or need for?]

OK, that’s WAY MORE than enough soul-searching BS for now, sorry for the melodrama. I’m just bored & tend to ‘ramble on.’
Sorry if you were hoping to hear more about my need for cock...I save that for the chats

I guess if you were really that annoyed with my silly musings, you probably shouldn’t still be here.

Could you really read all this crazy pseudo-philosophical junk, if you weren’t just a little bit curious?

~A


lilearthdragon 37M

4/3/2006 9:18 pm

That's quite an interesting read...nice to see things from the other side of the fence. I think what I find most suprising is the striking similarity when you flip things to the male perspective. Amazing how similar yet different males n females are ^_^

I guess what hit home for me most was when you mentioned the type of woman who uses the potential of fantasy to their fullest advantage. Probably because I've found myself in the grasp of such a woman before. Live n Learn

The most refreshing thing is your thoughts/feelings on "games". I get enough gaming from my PC and TV...don't need/want it in a relationship.


daman080808 43M
488 posts
4/4/2006 8:16 am

its great to read your honest words, let me know if you would like to chat someday.....ta ta


robert12345663 53M
1 post
4/4/2006 2:40 pm

Yes I must say quite a bit of insight. It's funny how you picked up on what people say on here. Here you have women (and guys for that matter) saying things in there profile that really do not reflect their real intent. Look, read 10 profiles by women (I dont normally read the guys) and you see the same exact trend. "F-ck me till the cows come home, I need it so bad, I want a f-ck machine." Now I like to think I am a courteous,well mannered guy. I hold doors for people, help the elderly, try not to interupt people when they are speaking, etc etc etc. I get on here, and I like a fool get caught up in the f-ck me now thing. One thing for sure people need to be more honest about what they are really looking for and how they say it.

Maybe what I am trying to say is this. I was at an upscale resturant a few years back and we asked the waitress what she liked on the menu. Turns out each item we asked her about was "absolutly fantastic". By the time we got to the 5th or 6th we began to catch on and stopped asking. Turns out everything each of us ordered (there were four of us) was very average at best. Following me here.

Maybe we all need to tone it down, I think I might change my profile. Hmmmmmmmmm.

Have a nice day.
Robert,


BROC817 44M

4/4/2006 3:37 pm

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67coyboy 49M  
494 posts
4/4/2006 11:36 pm

hello night owl...
it's 11:30pm;i am feeling like a night owl myself.
i can ,and will,read all of your "crazy pseudo-philisophical junk"
because i AM curious. (and interested).
i hope you manage to find some happiness and contentment
and what better way to start than with a cathartic blog (argh).
nighty night NightOwl!


Rudy1166 50M
136 posts
4/9/2006 7:57 am

Very interesting post. I agree with you.
I must say that many women put men in a similar kind of double bind. I call it the asshole/wimp bind.
To simplify my point a little bit: "If you do everything the way I like and are quite agreeable with me, you're a wimp. The minute you don't do things the way I like or dare to disagree with me, you're an asshole." I have often felt the need to be in 2 places at once as well.

And yes, there are guys out there who "play the game" to their advantage as well. The "Players".

In short, I think that both genders have unreal expectations of each other.


Aries4venus 48M

4/14/2006 12:06 pm

The age old "chip on the shoulder" is very unattractive. Many other things, including shyness and plain old social grace, get labeled "bitchiness" or "stuck up".
There is nothing more gratifying than to have a woman who seems aloof initially later warm, open up, and even become openly aroused by your company.
The differences between the female and male are what makes the sexual dance so worthwhile. Do we all really want to be the same?
Women are definitely more liberated today, and rightfully so, but a little mystery is a very erotic thing.


SirMounts 102M

4/25/2006 3:28 am

Well, that post contains many nuggets of good advice.
Welcome to blogging, NightOwl. *smiling*


rightstuff1982 34M

4/27/2006 2:43 am

hey lets get together and see what pops up


Juggernaut1694u 36M

6/10/2006 12:25 am

You hit the nail on the head honey!! If you cannot be honest in a totally anonymous web site then you surely are not going to be honest face to face. I use to think that the online dating scen was for all those geeks and losers who could not get a date if they paid for it.

However being strapped for time I decided to join AdultFriendFinder and I have only been a member for 2 or 3 days now but this completely eliminates 90% of the bullshit that goes on when you are dating. You say whats on your mind and post it for everyone. If they are not interested they don't inquire nuff said!!! Yes you have a lot of ppl who are fakes on the web but they are fairly easy to spot after a while.

Look fwd to sharing some of your fantasies!


NightSeer02_777 36F  
6 posts
7/10/2007 11:08 am

ATTN: anyone who comes across this old blog and wants to know more about me "NightOwl02_777"...
This is my NEW profile: NightSeer02_777
I cant access this old NightOwl02_777 account, so follow me back to the new one and check me out there!

I'll be looking forward to it...
A


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