Senseless Ramblings and Senseless Thoughts  

NewJackSwing 43M
160 posts
5/9/2005 1:46 pm

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Senseless Ramblings and Senseless Thoughts

WELCOME everyone to the first installment of my blog here on AdultFriendFinder! Hopefully what I write will interest you and along the way too I hope maybe to make some great, new friends!

So what to write?

I thought that I would just ask and get peoples thoughts on sex and disability.

First and foremost I don't want this to sound like a rant or a "oh woah is me!" entry because it simply isn't so please don't mistake it for one .. thank you

So here is the question:

Q If you met someone on here that had a disability and in particular used a wheelchair, would that turn you off of responding to their ad? If so, why?

The reason I am asking is because I do use a wheelchair for my every day activities when I go out and about. Sure I can walk about my home and do short distance walking but I don't believe that it would affect my (for a lack of better word because it's all I can think of off the top of my head) "performance" at all.

It's just something I often wonder about actually when it comes to adding that into my profile. I often toyed with the idea of not saying anything but I do mention it so when (or if) I should meet someone I don't want there to be any "surprises" and have someone say "you never mentioned that ... ".

At the end of the day it should be about my personal merits and what I could bring to any particular relationship,arrangement, whatever you want to call it etc and who I am as a person I should be judged on.

People's attitudes towards sex and disability vary and it's a topic that I find interesting.

So if I may, can I have your thoughts on this?

I look forward to any responses that I may recieve and thank you all so much for your comments!

Take care all,


bratinella19 31F

5/9/2005 4:20 pm

I don't have anything yet to share about my thoughts on sex and blah's not just my thing...

sexyeyes375 47F

5/9/2005 5:00 pm

A crush of mine had a serious accident that made him a parapalegic. I hadn't hooked up with him before the accident, and still had the same intense feelings for him several years later. So, no, someone being in a wheelchair would not turn me off. Either you are attracted to someone or not.

DirtyLilSecret66 55F

5/11/2005 12:38 pm

I find that a mental disability (i.e. stupidity) is far worse than a physical disability - the journey to the center of your mind is what intrigues me.


NewJackSwing 43M

5/12/2005 12:55 am

bratinella19: Thank you for your input!

sexyeyes375 and DirtyLilSecret66 : Thank you ladies for your input as well. I am in total agreement with you that it's about who you are how you carry and present yourself to people. It's all about the inner person!

rm_idareuto 56F

5/15/2005 5:10 am

Everyone has a disability of some shape or form....whether it b the inability to walk talk or think..sometimes its only a matter of lackin common sense, too much chub (speakin from experience here) or the inability to see colors...I don't think this makes a person less a person or less lovable. What counts is in the inside, and as old as that adage may be, it is true..and the shortcoming of immaturity makes it difficult to see that. I would prefer to know about a person's disability from the get go...I don't see any point in keepin facts from people u meet....their reaction to your situation is what you will base your choice in forming a valid and sincere friendship with them is it not? No point wastin time finding out who is worthy of u and who is is too short

MetalSlut1666 44F

5/17/2005 12:32 am

Dude! It doesn't matter that you are in a wheel chair some times, or even that our tastes in Metal clash horribly - ha ha ha! The fact is that you are HOT and you have a really sweet personality to boot! I'd sure do you in a flash! CHEERS!!!!!!

NewJackSwing 43M

5/17/2005 11:59 am

idareuto: Yes, life is too short to worry about things that we can't control. All you have to do is grin and bare it and make the most of the situation and (yes .. pun intended) .. "roll" .. with the punches!

Look from the inside and not the outside .. at least in my humble opinion and much like yours too!

Thank you for your input!

NewJackSwing 43M

5/17/2005 2:12 pm

MetalSlut1666: Thank you very much for you kind words and your contribution to my blog!

And yes .. our tastes in metal do clash but that's all good! (but I am sure there's some bands that we do like though!)

Drop me an email if you can!

missy97330 47F

5/18/2005 3:07 am

I went out on a date with a guy from the internet who has cerebral palsy. He didn't mention it before hand. I enjoyed his company, but just wasn't into him. I never contacted him again. Now I find myself second guessing as to why. I ask myself "Am I shallow?" Then I tried to think of him without the disability. I still don't think would have wanted to see him again. And the only reason I can be somewhat sure of this is that there are about 10 or more guys without a disability who I have not tried to get back to, even after going out once. He seems to be one of many guys I just didn't want to see again.

NewJackSwing 43M

5/18/2005 5:20 am

missy97330: That's a very fair answer and thank you for sharing!

All you did was view him as any other person and judged him on his personal merits. In the end you did not "connect" with him and that was that and you moved on. Such is life right? Either you "click" with some people or you just don't. It's that simple.

Thank you again m'dear!

MetalSlut1666 44F

5/18/2005 11:58 pm

Hey Hey J !!!!!!

This site doesn't let us standard members send emails, but we can reply to a few of them and send winks. So, if you email me first, I will reply. Oh! Yes! I'm sure that there's a few bands we both enjoy. Even if there weren't any, that's not everything, you know! Alright! I'll be looking for you!

CHEERS !!!!!!

NewJackSwing 43M

5/22/2005 11:18 pm

MetalSlut1666: HEY YOU!!!!!!

I'll get working on upgrading and get in touch. It's a shame that we have such limited perks being a standard member but them there the rules right?

Andyes, there are a few but hey .. it's all good! And you're right too, it isn't everything that's for sure! I'm sure we'd find other things! *winks*

Hope to talk soon!

rm_RebelAngel64 52F
7 posts
6/8/2005 8:48 pm

it's all about the person not the chair (or brace or crutches or whatever) ... either you click with each other or you don't ... a "disability" should NOT make a difference on way or the other ...

NewJackSwing 43M

6/17/2005 2:31 pm

RebelAngel64: Agreed! It's all about the person .. 100%!

Thank you for your input and hope to hear back from you!

rm_CecileB 41F
186 posts
11/22/2005 4:53 pm

To me a wheelchair is a big impediment to physical spontaneity.
For instance,it takes more conscious maneuvering for a simple hug.It also prevents quite a lot of shared taken-for-granted activities such as taking a walk, as it's a different feeling if the person is sitting down with their hands busy rolling his chair and you're walking alongside trying to chat to them from above their head...

For these practical reasons,I'd say it's more of a hassle to start a relationship with a disabled person, and this can make some people hesitate.
However,if both parties enjoy each other's company,they soon adapt and find their own ways and go round obstacles.

I don't know why, but when I think of a disabled person,I automatically assume they have less sexual drive than an able bodied one...My prejudice only.

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