Are other people here as honest as I am?  

Needafriendin06 47F
22 posts
1/1/2006 11:51 am

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5/20/2006 6:35 am

Are other people here as honest as I am?

I first found out I had genital herpes last fall. Since then I've come to accept it. Although, I haven't dated anyone since. Too scared yet to have "The Talk".

phattjuicypussy 47F

1/1/2006 2:33 pm

I don't have herpes, first off. The person you contacted it from, did they know they had it before being intimate with you? Do you still have contact with them? Do you suffer daily, or is it a monthy thing? Please forgive me if offend you with my questions.

nedthebundler 56M/59F

1/1/2006 3:08 pm


I think you have taken the first step. There is in all likelyhood, some guy having the same thoughts as you. Maybe it is time to start a discussion group, who knows what will come of it? Best of luck.

Madness takes its toll. Exact change please!

Needafriendin06 47F

1/2/2006 6:52 pm

So far I've had two outbreaks. With a month between them. The person I contacted it from denies giving it me, but I know who it was. I don't have contact with the offender anymore. Who needs someone like that in their life?

BROC817 44M

1/4/2006 4:18 am

    Quoting Needafriendin06:
    So far I've had two outbreaks. With a month between them. The person I contacted it from denies giving it me, but I know who it was. I don't have contact with the offender anymore. Who needs someone like that in their life?
first i want to say hello !!! needafriend i dont have this but i have a good friend who just went through this two years ago...he took it pretty bad !!! he has made great efforts to get past all of it and get on in life...if you need someone to just b-s with , i aint hard to find....just click on the view my blog under my pic....good luck sweety !!!

Japhy-Ryder 39M
3 posts
1/15/2006 3:29 pm

Needafriend, Yup, there are lots of us out here! Well, maybe not on AdultFriendFinder, I'm not sure yet. Have you contacted your local HELP group yet? Or a Friends group? Help is a national support group and Friends is a social group. Here in Austin, we have a pretty active Friends group with monthly social events. Just a bunch of regular people who happen to share a silly little skin annoyance. By the way, check out There's going to be a national event in April. You should come!

rm_catlover50 92M

1/15/2006 4:44 pm

I am new to this group but I am a member on some other sites. You might try antopia they have some good information there and also MPwH which is also good. Various other groups are groups like stdfriend or positivesingles. There are some support groups on yahoo, you just have to look to see what they in your state or close to where you live. I don't know about msn or aol what kind of support groups that they have. If I can be of help, let me know.

Needafriendin06 47F

1/16/2006 6:56 pm

I have joined the Picking Up the Pieces support group on yahoo. That has been really helpful to me. I also found those other dating sites during a search of the web. I've been communicating with a few people from those sites as well. So I'm adjusting to this little skin annoyance and feel positive about the future. I've always been an upbeat person. So I'm still the same upbeat person just with a little skin annoyance. Thanks for the support.

Japhy-Ryder 39M
3 posts
1/17/2006 6:39 pm

Kick some ass, girl

areacode51 63M
1 post
2/21/2006 10:11 pm


I've seen someone post in here on this topic discussing the 3 "conditions" of HSV and it's "moods". Also, like another poster said, there are other sites.,, and,has LOTS of info on there. I have it, as I said before, and after reading a lot about it, it seems those of us would have to be pretty lucky to find someone who understands. It would be great to see everyone on here who has it sign on to a specific section on this site. Although I'm new on here and haven't yet reviewed any profiles, so I don't know if people on here are being honest. I had one date with someone who was pretty nice from one of the sites but the attraction wasn't there............It would be nice just to chat with a few women to get a different perspective on it...............

Needafriendin06 47F

2/24/2006 7:58 pm

Personally, I've had more interest shown here than the 4 h dating websites I belong to!!!! Not sure what this means, but it's encouraging to say the least.

jezzie81 35M
1 post
3/14/2006 8:56 am

sup friend im 25 male from mansfield ohio would like to talk to you may be get to know you eeeeeeeee-mail me AdultFriendFinder

rm_wetncurious3 31F

3/14/2006 9:26 pm

i'm just curious to know what your breakouts feel/look like. can u mstake some of them for pimples and ingrown hairs?

Needafriendin06 47F

3/15/2006 6:38 pm

You could mistake some of them for pimples...but once those 'pimples' burst into an open lesion there's no mistaking them.

happygoluckybbw 42F

4/24/2006 5:35 am

Well I have had this since 9/05 & at first hesitant to hook up w/anyone but I guess that is normal. Just a few weeks ago I met a guy on here. He does have sexual interest in me but I told him up front about the H and it didn't seem to bother him too much..He said to me, "Its not the condition that worries him, that its peoples lack of knowledge of it that freaks them out." I don't know if he was still talking to me out of pity or if he really has interest. Even if guys I meet don't want to have sex w/me cuz of the H, I have remained friends with them since I told them. One can never have too many friends.

cookiequeen1000 53F

5/2/2006 2:54 pm

Joined AdultFriendFinder in March 2006, profile says I have H, and I thought I'd never hear from anyone...verifying my underlying feelings of being untouchable. I have been inundated with interested people who've read my profile and understand about the Herpes and aren't put off by it. We've discussed it and moved on to actually dating. I'm finding the blessing in having herpes by the high quality people I'm getting to know.

cookiequeen1000 53F

5/2/2006 2:57 pm

I have the talk right off the bat to get it out of the way. Not painful to weed out the bad ones right away.

Needafriendin06 47F

5/4/2006 12:41 pm

Since changing my opening line stating that I have "the gift" I get a lot more emails. No sense in trying to hide it. I've met some very good guys on here. Some of them are too afraid to mention in their profile but are glad to meet others like them.

richmondcowgirl8 33F
26 posts
6/20/2006 10:20 am

That talk is very important.... Even if it does send most people running in the other direction it needs to be done. I recently have been on the recieving end of that talk & before meeting him I probably too would have hauled it the other way but right now I'm in search for more info about it & seeking the best ways to make this a healthy happy relationship. There are others out there that will do the same & know that you are worth the time to do so. Not to mention with my search I'm getting to know him better than I ever knew anyone else cause it usually goes to sex not talking & understanding each other. There is more to you than the fact that you have herpes.... let them know all of you even the herpes.

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