Who is the right man for me?  

NaughtyNurseMn 48F
212 posts
12/30/2005 9:55 pm

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Who is the right man for me?

Making new years resolutions forces me to ask a lot of questions about my future. What do I want in the New Year? What lies ahead for me? What kind of man is right for me?

My family situations forces me to be quite selective in determining who is right for me. I have a running list of traits that are important to me, but I've never really attempted to put the character traits together to figure out who "HE" might be.

I like men in all shapes and sizes. I love laughing smiling eyes that show me what and how they feel. I love a great smile and along with that a fabulous sense of humor. I tend to be quite dry in my humor and I need someone who "gets" me. Life is way to serious the way it is without being able to laughing at those things that we have no control over. I want to live everyday laughing my ass off. The best subject for making me laugh is usually myself! HUMOR is a must.

I need someone who is family oriented, with good values. Much like the woman who is a lady on the outside and a tiger in the bedroom, I'd like to find the same in my man- someone who is a complete and total gentleman, yet knows how to really turn me on when we are alone. Someone that I can talk to freely about my desires, curiousities and needs without feeling self-conscious about it. I prefer to have someone who can blurt out the f'nheimers only when no other word will do- keeping in mind the audience that might be listening. Someone who opens doors, is considerate and realizes that roses are NOT the only flower in the world that women like. Somone who is interested in finding out what I like, rather than sending the old standby roses. I acutally hate roses.

I definately require someone who isn't wanting to play games, who is honest with me and can allow me to be honest as well. I don't play games, what you see, is what you get. I will tell you what I think and I am not afraid to speak my mind. When I am sad, you'll know it, when I am happy, you'll know it and when I am in love- you'll know it because I wear my emotions on my sleeve. I hate this about me, but at the same time, I think it makes me a very real, open and honest person.

I want someone who is sexually safe, who hasn't lived a sexually risky lifestyle because that just freaks me out. I want to make sure that I am in a healthy relationship in all sense of the word "healthy". That isn't to say that I want a 40 year old virgin, I want a man who can lead the way and take me to the edge... over and over again I am very sexual, I know what I like, I know what I want- I know how to please a man, trust me on this one!

I want someone who is going to adore me for all of my perfections and imperfections, of which I have a couple. Someone who thinks that I am amazing and unlike any other woman, & believes that I am not replaceable. I want to be worshipped- as I told a friend today, I am very worshipable! Every woman wants to feel like they are a godess and I love compliments. I also freely give compliments and like to stroke my mans ego among other things... If I think it, if I feel it, you'll know it.

I go all out in most things I do. I am willing to do just about anything for anyone- perhaps that is the caretaker part of me that makes me such a great nurse. I expect the same in return from my significant other. I would drop everything to please my man, I want someone who would do the same for me without a sigh or a moan. Someone who puts me first before career, money and toys. Someone who understands the Suzi Orman phrase "People First, then money, then possessions". We don't leave the world with these things, they are great to have and enjoy but they aren't meant to be worshipped- (I am, but then we discussed that already)

A man who cares about his health and does everything he can to remain healthy and fit. I am working hard to be that same match for him- to be fit and healthy on the inside and the out. Someone who doesn't induldge in anything excessively, everything in moderation. As a nurse, I need to live by example- I can't be effective if I don't follow a healthy lifestyle.

I want a best friend that I can talk to about anything. Someone who I admire, respect and adore. I want a man who wants to talk to me in the bedroom and out. This man is a hard worker, who knows what it takes to get to the top and wants to get there together. Someone who is impulsive and a little nutty at times, but is well grounded in his beliefs but can still bend a little.

I'd love to find someone established in their career and ready to enjoy living. Someone with a great work ethic. Someone who is social and enjoys the company of others. Someone who is always trying to better themselves and supports me in my own endevors. Someone interested in learning new things and indulging in conversations with others to gain perspective of others struggles. I want someone who can literally be my "better half", who helps me focus on what is important. Someone who is a compliment to my personality and persona. I want to be the same for them.

When I am engaged in conversation with him, I want to feel like I am the only person in the room, in the entire world for that matter. I want his full attention and for him to be happy to be there. Someone who doesn't take anything for granted.

Having people over, cooking, entertaining, going to concerts, art exhibits, shows, traveling, weekends away at a cabin, spa days, these are all things I'd like to do in my next relationship. I want to live life in FULL COLOR! I've been asleep at the wheel for way too long- I feel like I've woken up from a coma somedays. Life is meant to be lived, moments treasured.

If anything, my divorce has shown me what I want, what I need, what I desire. What I want is a little different from my last relationship. My ex is a wonderful man in so many ways, we just hit the end of the road. In 2006 perhaps I will find what I am looking for. Until then, I will settle with being happy being me. I realize that no one else can make me happy except for ME. I think I am a healthy and happy person. When I am ready to find Mr. Right.. it will happen.


The Naughtiest Nurse You'll Ever Know...

xoxoxoxoxoxoxo,
N.N.


rm_tattoo8654 44M
7 posts
12/30/2005 10:56 pm

WELL THERE, NOW THAT WAS SOME READING............ALL GOOD I MUST SAY TAKE YOUR TIME I WAS MARRIED FOR SEVEN YEARS AND ITS BEEN 3 NOW AND HERE IAM LOOKING FOR THE ANSWER TO ALL MY QUESTIONS.............BUT I KNOW ALL WILL COME SOON ENOUGH......... HAVE A GREAT NEW YEAR. AND I LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOU AT MY NEXT ER VIST........


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
12/31/2005 1:23 pm

That sure is a well defined list of requirements! I think it's a great thing that you know what you are looking for. Not everybody on this site has a clue what they want. You are completely right about nobody else being able to make you happy, but you. It will happen. Happy New Year!


im_curious_4u 50M

12/31/2005 4:54 pm

Hey Naughty we should really talk some more. Seriously.


NaughtyNurseMn 48F
74 posts
1/1/2006 11:31 am

It helps to put it out there and figure it out. It's like going shopping without a shopping list- I just end up spending a lot more money when I do that! There is an analogy under that somewhere... I know it!

The Naughtiest Nurse You'll Ever Know...

xoxoxoxoxoxoxo,
N.N.


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