Orgasms that don't do it for me...  

NaughtyNurseMn 48F
212 posts
1/17/2006 9:15 pm

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Orgasms that don't do it for me...

For those of you who have read my blogs or chatted with me, you know it has been a while since I've had full on contact sex. I am going through a divorce and not ready to start dating. The ex and I haven't had sex in a significant period of time. I am on AdultFriendFinder to try to get rid of some of my sexual frustrations without jumping in the sack with a stranger. So, while this blog and my question gets a little personal, I am curious about my little "problem". I hope someone has a clue and can help me figure this out.

When I pleasure myself, I can "cum" several times, (several) but I never really feel satisfied after I orgasm, despite how many times in a row it occurs. Perhaps that is why I keep at it and go for it again thinking I will finally find the big O and walk away feeling like "MMMMmmmm now that's better". I usually end when I am too sore or frustrated to continue. I usually end feeling still horny and unfulfilled. (literally) I have sex toys, mainly I orgasm with clitoral stimulation and a little porn. Yes, it sounds horrible, but guess what... I am D/D free and healthy for a reason! I am not a "fling" girl and when I do start dating, I won't be free fucking every guy I date. Maybe that is why I fantasize and write about it instead in my erotic stories.

So, what do you think the problem is? Why can't I feel a release and feel like I have "finished" the task. I don't fake orgasms, I never have in any relationship- I am pretty orgasmic and don't have problems when I am with someone. However, I am have problems feeling satisfied and it is frustrating. I have been under a lot of stress, which could possibly be what is affecting it? Does anyone have any insight? What is the deal?

The Naughtiest Nurse You'll Ever Know...


rm_PDXFlyer231 64M
11 posts
1/18/2006 12:09 am

No heart!
It's the sacred part of sex that brings us to fullfillment. The orgasm isn't the end result, it's a step along the way. My assumption is that when you get with that guy you want to be with, it won't be a problem (you'll have had the practice). So relax and take the little pleasures along the way. Enjoy the journey, you can still fantacize about the destination.


JoePineCity 55M  
104 posts
1/18/2006 6:42 am

The stress is probably a big factor. I know it is for me, and while self pleasure is good, it never takes the place of the real thing. If it did no one would be on here looking for a hot babe like you to do the wild thing with . But seriously I have had the same problem. Stoked myself sore one day cause I just couldn't cum, had plenty of stiffness but just couldn't make it happen... so you are not alone.

I get things at the G spot
I know you will

funtimesinWin 50M

1/18/2006 7:20 am

I won't be as eloquent as Tony but I believe when you have finished it's hard to snuggle up or spoon your dildo and say "mmmmm that was wonderful or was it good for you?". Same thing for me, when I'm finished flogging the dolphin, I don't look at my left hand (yes, I'm a lefty) and say "Oh baby your the best". There is some physical relief that you get from finishing the deed but it still leaves you emotionally frustrated.

There is a human factor there needs to be fulfilled. I get the greatest satisfaction out of sex when I know that I have successfully satisfied my partner. Held her afterwards, fell asleep in her arms or went at it again.

That's my 2 cents worth.

aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
1/18/2006 8:37 am

I have no clue... I would think it's b/c you're just going through the motions w/out feeling a true connection. Make sense?

Serious195 44F
1 post
1/18/2006 8:46 am

You are stressed, thinking about getting that "satisfied" feeling. You are going to go nuts thinking and thinking. Relax, do something fun. You may need to incorporate other factors. Your mind may need more stimuli. Its just like funtimesinWin said, "The human factor needs to be fulfilled." You need to feel a body.

im_curious_4u 50M

1/18/2006 9:37 pm

Yep you, me and everyone needs that skin on skin contact. The feeling of someones heart beating, their breath against your body, someones hands exploring your body while they kiss you deeply. All that is irreplaceable. You can do some of the things to yourself that you want someone else to do but it just isn't the same. It's kind of like not being able to tickle yourself, assuming you're ticklish.

rm_chowbox2005 43M

1/19/2006 2:21 pm

It could be alot of things that don't alow you to orgasm with yourself.
I know that I don't cum as hard when I'm taking care of it myself. It's always better with a helper! Skin on skin, hearts pounding, panting breaths, juices mingling.....knowing that you are bringing pleasure to another helps bring you greater pleasure.


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