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NativeTexan71 45M
8 posts
6/27/2006 3:28 pm

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7/4/2006 9:07 pm

Help!


New to the site and I have a few comments/questions. Please feel free to be brutally honest. I'm sure you've seen posts like this before.

Q1) Am looking for suggestions on my profile from the ladies (or men who feel they have this whole AdultFriendFinder process down) as to how to improve it. Don't worry guys- nothing explicit there yet. I will consider explicit photos, but not my face for business reasons.

Q2) So far the only e-mail responses from female members are all suspect, ask me to e-mail them outside of AdultFriendFinder (which makes no sense since my account allows standard members to contact me and I mention that in my initial contact).

So, how many of the women on this site are legit? If male profiles outnumber female 10-to-1 and a third of the female profiles are bogus and another third aren't nearly as serious about this as we horny guys are, the ratio of legitimate prospects to suitors jumps to 30-to-1.

Wouldn't I be better off (since I consider myself a reasonably attractive, personable, successful guy) to go to a bar and offer to buy drinks for an attractive lady there? I got onto this site to avoid the bar scene and get into something I thought would be less random, but I'll go wherever the ground is most fertile.

Q3) At least in my area, it seems that there are fewer women in my age range (early-to-mid thirties) than there are women who are either significantly younger or older than me. When I was in my 20's I had a great time with several women who were up to 11 years older than me, but I wonder how many of these twentysomethings are going to take my online overtures seriously or are even serious about "participating" in this site (since many of these here could walk into any bar and have their choice of horny twentysomethings).

Since there are fewer women in my age range in general and particularly that have the same relationship goal, I am largely relegated to approaching the younger ones. I am starting to wonder how successful this is likely to be even if these are girls who are hear legitimately.

Comments anyone?

rm_gwalker_oh 55M
54 posts
6/30/2006 6:49 am

"Hey, Tex!" (Sorry, I couldn't resist the cliche'.)

Seriously bro', I like what you've got to say. By no means at all do I think I "have this whole AdultFriendFinder procees down", but I figure you won't mind a little feedback on the blog anyhow.

My situation is different from yours in at least two important respects: age, and the "need for discretion" thing! But your experience rings true for me.

I think the core of the matter has to do largely with the statistics which you note, that the ratio of "legitimate prospects to suitors" is incredibly large.

By the way, here's another thing to think about in your numerical calculations, which may attenuate your conclusion a little. How many "men" are legit? And of the legit ones, how many are straight-ahead hetero's? I don't know, but I suspect there is a lot of gay action here.

Anyway, the essence of what you have to say is certainly quite true! Women have a tremendous numerical advantage here. (I have no idea about the demographics in the DFW area, however! Good luck with that; sheesh, 'seems to me you should be havin' no problem!)

Stick at it, though! Look, I'm definitely hetero, no kinks or anything, so don't get me wrong when I say that it seems to me you present a rather attractive profile. Whatever I know or don't know, I'm sure of the basics: "real" women like it when you're real, they like it when you open up a little, when you take an interest in them somehow. Basic, like I say -- sure you're well-up on this! Mainly, I'm just saying hang in there 'cause it seems you have it going.

Good luck, -G.


sweettxgirl232 35F

7/4/2006 12:13 pm

I think that a lot of guys on here are just here to "play", you know.. no real intention of meeting. And as a woman who only wants that (no cyber for me) it's more than a little frustrating so, it's not only you men lol


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