Age & commitment  

NGs_lady 64F
419 posts
4/26/2006 6:48 am

Last Read:
6/10/2006 11:01 pm

Age & commitment

Those of you who have read my blogs know already that I am kind of a strange female. I guess you could say I'm what is referred to as 'switch' - meaning I am a submissive woman to my husband/Sir only. If I was going to play with anyone else, I would be a Dominant or Domme.

I have read profiles that have said "looking for a Domme". Okay, that would be me. Next line of the profile is : I want her unattached.

Well, I'm married. That doesn't mean I can't take you to the heights that you want to go or that someone is going to have to give me permission as to what to do.

The next line of the profile usually says: I don't want them too old. Well, I'm in my 50's. I can still sling a flogger, wield a crop, or do anything else that needs to be done. I don't use a walker or a wheelchair, and neither does my Sir.

When I was coming up, I was always told, Do not judge a book by it's cover. So therefore, I'm married, in my 50' you don't want to talk to me!?!? Is that what you're saying to me?!?!?!

Did you ever think that maybe if you talked to me or someone like me, even though we might not play or we may not be the same age, you might miss out on a friend or someone who could give you information you wanted or needed to have? I have talked to people older and younger than myself, married & single...guess what? I've made some damn good might be able to do the same.

Just a thought...


©NGs_lady 2006

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
4/26/2006 7:42 am

My lady,

I think that there is a wee bit of the attitude "over 30 need not apply" here. Too many times, I've seen male friends of mine not even have a chance out of the gate...due to the age deal.

*shrugs* What can we do?

NG61...leaving behind a red rose tied with black silk ribbon...and sealed with a kiss....

NGs_lady replies on 4/26/2006 8:16 pm:
As far as over 30 need not apply well if they just want to PLAY they need a child to play with.

What can we do? Look at what they are missing and pity them.

wickedeasy 66F  
25377 posts
4/26/2006 8:11 am

i remember the first time i knew of you. Night was in the room chatting and he said his lady was reading over his shoulder - i think i waved to Night's lady - and Night said - she waves back easy.

how would have suspected that from that tiny wave such an abundance of love and respect would evolve?

so lady's right (as usual - )

take a chance - think outside that box (pun intended) and you may just get lucky -

i did and now i have a sisterfriend without compare

much love to the Lady Stee


You cannot conceive the many without the one.

NGs_lady replies on 4/26/2006 10:09 pm:
Thank you easy I try.

MamChelle 48F  
1443 posts
4/26/2006 2:45 pm

i must be out of the usual. As ShayeDk just said, i prefer persons over 40 myself. i need a well seasoned Dom or Domme. Seems the younger set usually lack the experience and skills i need to take me where i have that deepest craving. Many of my deeper kinks are sometimes too shocking for the less schooled to even contemplate. Many here ARE too closed minded, and LadyJ it is their loss on all levels. *hugs and my respect* c

NGs_lady replies on 4/26/2006 10:12 pm:
Isn't it wonderful to know what you want don't you wish every one did

wickedeasy 66F  
25377 posts
4/26/2006 3:11 pm

mine is 61 and just hitting His stride

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

NGs_lady replies on 4/26/2006 10:13 pm:
What a way to go .

libgemOH 56M/52F

4/28/2006 4:15 am

Lady, you are a beautiful lady and to those who insist that due to your age or marital status, you are somehow unworthy.....FUCK EM!!! -B

NGs_lady replies on 4/28/2006 5:02 am:
Thank you, but this was not just written for me. A lot of Doms are told the same thing and I just wanted people to think.

NGs_lady/Lady Stee

rm_PeanutJackie 35F
1286 posts
4/29/2006 9:40 am

Ok, my turn...I'm a "youngin", sometimes considered a "child" by seasoned Lifestylers, which is understandable since I am still faily new to the Life. When I began my search in january, I was looking for someone closer to my age. I was quite against the "older man/woman" idea. As my parents are 48, it seemed freaky to me to be with someone their age or older. And my bf is 39, and that was already a little too old. But then I found my Sir, who happens to be 46, and everything changed. The connection we share is absolutely amazing and I can not imagine having anyone else leading me through this Lifestyle. I'm still just a little weary on anyone older, but then I really start to think about it and realize that 9 times out of 10, someone who is 46, or 50, or what-have-you, is going to have the experience that someone in their 20s and even 30s do not have. That experience is what this is all about for me. I wanted someone who knows their way around like the back of their hand. And there's no way I would have gotten that with someone around my age. My Sir has been at this for longer than I've been alive! Damn that's a long time. lol

jackie (who agrees completely not to judge a book by its cover or first few pages)

"I am beautiful no matter what you say, words can't bring me down. So don't you bring me down today."

NGs_lady replies on 4/29/2006 7:33 pm:
Now you see the beauty of talking to an older person.

rm_PeanutJackie 35F
1286 posts
4/29/2006 9:27 pm

Oh I've always appreciated talking to people older than me. Their knowledge can be amazing. I just never imagined I would truly be intimate with someone like that. But let me tell you, He doesn't look 46, act 46, or fuck like he's 46. LOL

"I am beautiful no matter what you say, words can't bring me down. So don't you bring me down today."

NGs_lady replies on 5/1/2006 10:01 am:
See some people get better with age.

MyHeartLost4U 52M
2303 posts
4/30/2006 6:17 pm

Ok I am 41 and my g/f is 31 and well.... I believe I can keep up lol.

Anywho... I am here to *POKE* you because you are NG Lady
[post 329761]

NGs_lady replies on 5/1/2006 10:06 am:
Well thank you, but be warned I am also Lady Stee and I poke back.

sportsfan362436 47F

4/30/2006 11:45 pm

Lady S, those of us who are truely interested in learning care not what age someone is... (unless the viagra isn't working, that is). I find both you and Ng Sir very interesting and wonderful people... who thankfully are willing to share their knowledge and expperience with the rest of us.
*hugs Ma'am and a skoyc*

*Smiles, kisses n hugz*

NGs_lady replies on 5/2/2006 11:39 am:
As you have been told the knowledge is hear for the asking. You have my IM and my e-mail all you need to do is use them sometimes.

rm_embwizard 51F
14 posts
5/1/2006 2:26 pm

Lady S, I have just discovered you and NG and I want to tell you the love and respect that you show towards one another is absolutely beautiful, more people should be so lucky as to find what you two share. Now as for the age thing even when I was a teenager I was always prefered older people, I have never been with anyone my own age. They just could never hold my interest long enough to get to know them. With age comes wisdom, experience, knowledge, and confidence, what more can you ask for.

NGs_lady replies on 5/2/2006 11:41 am:
Thank you for realizing this.

MaggiesWishes 59F

5/1/2006 4:56 pm

I'm so out of the loop here, but wanted to drop by and give "warm huggies" to you and your partner for being honest and open and mostly showing & shareing the love and respect for yourselves here.

NGs_lady replies on 5/2/2006 11:46 am:
Welcome to the loop just jump in. Thank you for the hugs I LOVE THEM. We just shair what we feel for each other and our selves.

Hugs to you.

NGs_lady/Lady Stee

peaches19555 61M

5/2/2006 3:45 pm

commitment is a wonderful thing and can never be ignored.......what rich experiences you must have to share... our life's path diverged at the trail head but in my rest your words echo to me across the divide......."sling a flogger?"....a babe in the woods I must be in your eyes

BadAssBlonde1 56F
4989 posts
5/2/2006 10:51 pm

There are many that do not want their Dommes' married as well as many Dommes' that do not want their submissives/slaves and servants married. I am one of those. The reason being, I refuse to be number 2 and I do not like lies, sneaking etc etc. Although, in your case, NG is aware of the situation and I don't see where that would impose in WIITWD. I guess it all boils down to a matter of opinion.

The age thing just blows my mind. What they are really asking for is something that does not exist real time. I know very few 30 something Dommes' that are Experienced. Mind you, I am not saying all of them, but the majority. It's easy to write what you want, but to meet up to the expectations is all together a different thing.

I wouldn't let it get to me. For myself, I am glad to see you coming back into your own.

Lady Hunter

After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009

NGs_lady replies on 5/3/2006 6:48 am:
Thank you, darlin' and yes, with the help of a wonderful Friend, I am coming back into my own...standing up, looking sexy & as bitchy as ever!!!

So thank you, Lady Hunter & NG61

Become a member to create a blog