More2Xplore4us 60F
15 posts
4/10/2006 6:35 am

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Why is this such a difficult concept for so many to accept? Can these people not relate to feeling the need for more than one loving, intimate partner in their lives at the same time? Or are they just so brainwashed by societal demands/expectations that they can no longer think for themselves and see that this really is more natural than expecting "the one" we've chosen to spend all eternity with to be able to answer to all our needs and desires?

I've heard many comments from the monogamous community regarding polyamory, most of them negative, as one might suspect. The most recent of these comments was to the effect of, (paraphrasing) "Anyone can love more than one person at a time. It is the commitment they make to loving only one person that proves it is true love they feel for that person."
I respond to these comments with comparisons to having children. When my firstborn was my only child, I swore I'd never love anyone else as much as I loved her. When, five years later, I became pregnant with my second child, I was truly afraid that I'd either not love the second child as much or that, if I did, I'd be betraying my first child. As it turns out, I can love them both equally. They are very different in personality, and yet I love them the same. In fact, the differences just make things more interesting for me, and a more unique relationship for each of them with me. I've also found the same thing applies to having more than one close friend. When I was a child we were jealous of friends of our friends, each competing to be the favorite. As I grew older and (hopefully) wiser, or at least more experienced in life, I learned that the friends of my friends can simply become my friends as well, thus widening my circle of friends as well as my horizons, as each of these new friends had something different to offer. See where I'm going here? I've come to discover that it can be the exact same way with romantic relationships, and that there is no need to compete for attention, affection, acceptance, or love, because we all have enough of all these things to go around. I've found this far more acceptable to me than being forced to give up one person I love, or even am merely interested in, to prove my love for another. Realistically, how can this make sense? Are we all that insecure that we have to be the only one in the life of someone we love? Or are we stable and healthy enough to accept that we can have a wider circle of lovers, just as we can friends, without detracting a thing from the initial relationship? Hmmmmmm....

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11238 posts
4/10/2006 7:30 am

Feelings can be strange things. Many seem to be unable to 'think outside the box'....

gud post....

saddletrampsk 54F

4/10/2006 7:59 am

awesome post..thanks for sharing..I agree..

gemini0157 59M  
6842 posts
4/10/2006 3:15 pm

I really enjoyed reading your view and it gives me a different view on polyamorous relationships.... I can see how they could work for some... anyway... nice post!

More2Xplore4us 60F
1 post
4/13/2006 6:33 pm

Thanks for the comments, it's much appreciated. I hope to be able to remember to post more, but I AM 50, you know

SirMounts 102M

4/23/2006 1:30 am

Yes, there are a variety of lifestyles, and we should choose the one that suits us, best.
Welcome to the blogs, More2Xplore4us. *smiling*

rm_sexspaz69 35M

8/7/2006 1:14 am

Love the post.

rm_eric64132 56M/F

8/8/2006 3:10 am


chuck45612 63M

8/8/2006 7:22 pm

This a very mature approach and reflects both great self-image and valuing your partners.

grantsburg2 70M/64F

9/23/2006 5:29 pm

The human animal is not by nature a monogamous creature and is fully capable of maintaining mulitple relationships. Your post is very insiteful, well thought out, and refreshing to read and I thank you for it. And I must agree with another poster, the 50 thing does not work for you....all women should look as good as you at 50.

rm_hifreq584 61M
7 posts
10/23/2006 3:16 am

Good post,girl! I agree with GoddessOfTheDawn,linear thinking keeps them bouncing off the inside walls of the box!!! And as for the 50 gig, so what, your HOT!!!!!

LatvianLover1957 59M
11 posts
10/24/2006 10:25 pm

I have recently learned about polyamory through a couple of talk shows on television. I've always known about polygamy, specifically through the Mormon ways of marriage. But polyamory does not include marriage in it's beliefs fer more than one person or person(s). My point is this...if those who do not believe that a marriage certificate justifies the love between TWO people, then why should it between many? It shouldn't. I personally am monogamous and have been raised as such. But I see the sense of honesty and responsibility within a polyamorous society most refeshing. Of course, it's not fer everyone...but then, neither are many choices in life. Great post!

freespirit33jm 50M
29 posts
10/29/2006 5:45 pm

What a unique concept when people today are so obvious. It just goes so well with a mature, beautiful Woman such as yourself. Please keep the entries coming. thakns.J

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